i just got done seeing my little sister. she will be 8 on january 17th. i was helping her shower because of a Christmas party with her family tonight, and she asked me how old i was when i started shaving my legs, and i told her. then i told her that she doesnt have to worry about that for SEVERAL years since she is blonde and all. then i told her about armpit/pubic hair and that her body will start changing in a few years, and she asked me what a 'stage' is and ya know i just explained this and that to her, but i didnt tell her about periods or sex. then i told her that she can call me whenever she feels like talking ((we don't live together)) and i told her that i want her to, because my mom died when i just started puberty and it was hard to go through changes alone. and her mom died when she was 5. so i told her she can talk to me about stuff... later i told her grandpa what we talked about so he knew what i was doing... anyway, do you think i told her too much about 'growing up' ?
2007-12-24 09:30:00 · 19 answers · asked by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
by the way, im fifteen, sophmore in high school.
i got my 'talk' when i was in fourth grade, about nine years old. and it wasnt even from my parents, it was from the school nurse. she lives with her dad, two brothers, and a BABY sister.
so nobody is there for he to talk to
2007-12-24 09:40:19 · update #1
*her, sorry.... she IS a girl haha
2007-12-24 09:48:33 · update #2
I think you are being an awesoem big sis...When my daughter was 8 she asked me point blank "What is sex?"
So I sent the guys (her step dad and brothers) out for the day and had "the talk". I didn't go into a lot of detail but gave her the basics.
Now would be a good tie for you to look around for some age appropriate books about girls and puberty so that when she calls you (and I bet she does), you will be prepared.
2007-12-24 09:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Willow 5 · 10⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like you did it just right. I've had to give that talk to 3 sisters, and a bunch of cousins, nieces and nephews. (Apparently the other adults in my family are either scary or I must seem approachable.)
The last thing any kid needs is to be SURPRISED by this stuff, they'll think they are turning into a werewolf or something. What I did and what seemed to work was to have a basic version, (which you did) and give updates every few months, ask if there's anything new developing and so on.
The last thing you want to do is dump a whole lot of information all at once, since that's like trying to digest a whole year's worth of college lectures on day one.
But thumbs up, it sounds like you did a great job your first time out. It gets easier. :-)
2007-12-24 17:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was barely out of 2nd grade before I learned about sex and puberty. I joined this camp that sponsored a club called "Smart Girls." There we learned about our bodies and stuff. We talked about more things than puberty and stuff and we just went over the basic stuff. I really didn't know the things in detail till about 5th grade.
She's not too young to learn. Actually it's best to start telling her things in moderation until she's old enough to learn in more detail about these things. You are being an excellent big sister. It's good that you're there to teach her this stuff when there's no one else. Sorry about your mothers.
Hope This Helped, Though. :-)
2007-12-24 23:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by ~A Musician's Dream~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be old enough. Why I would suggest giving her he talk is because around that age, she will start seeing changes in her body. So it is a good idea to go over it with.
2007-12-24 17:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by ちょうど、 アナ-ノエル。 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey that's mean, being a non blonde doesn't mean you to shave your legs sooner. I never shave my legs. I let it go natural and i don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. I never got the talk. I just passed sex ed. I don't think it's right to give her the talk at 8. She'll learn soon enough. People should hold onto their childhood as much as possible!
Maybe at 12 or 11 is the earliest I think where she'll understand it more. Right now, she should be happy just playing with Barbies and whatnot.
2007-12-24 19:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would tell her. These stages can occur as early as nine. And i think she would feel more comfortable knowing that you are always there in case the day comes where she hits puberty.
2007-12-24 20:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by leelee. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is not too young and you did not tell her too much. It is good that you told her that you are there for her. It might not take a couple of years for her to need to know the rest.
2007-12-25 02:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her, she needs to know and she will be comfortable with you, American girl also has a book that is out, about growing up and being a girl and its very informational and me and my friends got it when we were younger and at first we thought it was just pictures of naked (drawn) girls, but opon reading it when I was about eight I relized it was more then that and it helped me with problems I had...
2007-12-24 17:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Secret 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You should have the talk with her. Girls are starting their periods as young as 9 years old. The sooner she has the sex talk the better.
2007-12-24 20:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes of course and its a very nice thing of you to do. my friend got her period when she was 9. so maybe if u start noticing anything you might want to tell her more. good job! u did the right thing.
2007-12-25 00:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋