Was I the only one who was abused by my parents on Christmas?

Question

Ever since I was young my parents verbal abused me almost everyday, even on Christmas. But it didn't get to me until I was 14 (when I stopped being in denial). There was not a bit of good Christmas for me in my life. There were no friends and no relatives (because my parents wouldn't let them visit). I feel so sad when I see parents concentrating on giving their kids the best Christmas while all my parents gave me was "punishment" for being born stupid or mentally disabled.

All I wanted from them is to stop abusing me and give me all the love I needed from them. They kept on saying that I deserved all the "punishment" because I was an unwanted child (I became unwanted after they found out I was a girl and that I had a severe learning disabilities). They accused me of making their lives unfortunate.

Just to let you know I was born to Chinese parents. The Chinese always prefer boys over girls and they can't accept a child that has learning difficulties (especially when they expect their kids to excel in school). So my parents were very ashamed of me since reputation is important to them.

To those Christians out there, please pray that I'll find happiness and peace.

I'm sorry to bring this up now when Christmas is here. I didn't mean to make anyone sad with these questions and feelings. I just feel like I was the only one who was mistreated on Christmas while everyone else had a great time with their loving family.

Now I'm 22 and I don't want to feel depressed on every Christmas. So please pray for me.

I was born with moderate autism. I couldn't even write to save my life when I was in junior high. I just keep learning and learning in high school that I got better each year after year. It's a miracle that I overcame some obstacles, but I didn't overcome all my learning difficulties and other things.

Yeah, it's true that my parents are thinking of the Chinese old ways.

Answer 1

Thats so sad :( My Christmas eve today started in tears.. my dad usually has some harsh words but for him to be that way on the holidays makes it even worse. I hope your parents are not like that to you anymore, you are probably wonderful person with a heart that needs and deserves lots of love. I hope your Christmas is a little more bright this year. Merry Christmas and Have a Happy New Year too! xo

Answer 2

I have a learning disability too discalcula and that was hard because I was exspected to do well in school and it wasnt possible.I also had trouble telling time until I was 21 and cant even now tell left and right. Just because we can write doesnt mean we can pass the tests or get good grades.I still havent got my Ged and it keeps me from getting a good job.Im so sorry that your parents act that way and hurt your feeling.So far as Christmas goes dont beleive its all family togetherness alot of people never have alot of good times at the holidays so your not alone.Just remember God does love you.

Answer 3

Ahh thats terrible! My family would accept the mentally disabled, and wouldn't mind having a girl! Your parents are thinking of the old ways of Chinese, and it needs to stop! I am so sorry that you have to put up with this. By the way, while reading your discription, you don't seem disabled at all. You're a great writer and just as good as the rest of us.

Answer 4

By your writing, it seems like you are very intelligent. Don't believe everything your parents force fed you. Think about when you are on your own and have children of your own. Make THEIR Christmas the best ever (which in turn will make your Christmas the best). I'm sorry you went through that. Some people just aren't meant to have kids at all.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for what you have been through!!

I hope things are better for you now, and if not then I hope things get better. No one deserves to be treated in such a way. Your parents may not realize but they are fortunate to have a child. Many people try so hard for kids and end up disappointed. You are appreciated by many people, even if you don't realize it. So many people would have given up by now and unfortunately commit suicide. I hope you continue to be strong, because you may never know, your strength could be very helpful for someone else.

(You may be an inspiration to many)

God Bless and have a wonderful Christmas!!

Answer 6

Your story makes me sad, and if you are still young enough (under 18) I'd contact child services to get you out of there. No child should be treated that way and made to feel unwanted. I pray that you are still young enough to get into a good family or at least be taken away from them and placed with someone in your family who wants you.


:::::::::::BIG HUGS::::::::::::

Answer 7

Aw; thst is rele sad.. im sorry to hear. Hopfully u have a good Christmas this year

Answer 8

Don't worry, there are people out here who care for you, I hope that they realize what they are doing is wrong and stop, and i hope you have a very Merry Christmas.

Answer 9

OK you have convinced us that your parents were bad and treated you terribly and you are very hurt. no one can change that. but you have a choice. you can let it continue to ruin your life and keep blaming everything on them or you can start living your own life as best you can. you can heal yourself and start on the journey to forgiving them so you can live a good life. as long as you are blaming them so much, you will be unhappy. good luck.

Answer 10

you should tell someone about this and get your parents some help (a counselor or phsyciatrist)