If your 16 year old came falling in the house drunk how would you punish him?

Question

Is paddling appropriate?

Is grounding the answer?

Or both or neither?

Answer 1

These days everyone thinks that spanking your children is "abuse". I say go for it. My day told us growing up that as long as we live in his house, we are not too big to bend over his knee and get a spanking. If you as a parent do not spank, you must talk to him about it and take away privileges that he enjoys. He must pay the consequences for his actions.

Answer 2

If your minor child is drinking your have a bigger problem than a spanking can cure. The next time it happens you may get a phone call telling you he has been in a alcohol related accident.
Have a talk with him and discuss the ramifications of his actions, why he feels the need to drink, how often he does this, and measures you will take to prevent this from happening in the future.
He won't like this discussion at all and may become belligerent or lie to you, so it is important that you plan what you will say and not lose your head.
Tell him it is unacceptable for him to drink, and he will have to prove that you can trust him not to. If he has a car, definitely don't allow him to drive. Some other options you may consider are to monitor his whereabouts, if he wants to just "hang-out" with friends that should be a red flag. Take him to events and then pick him up, at least for a while. Shorten the time he can stay out and enforce the curfew. Limit the places he can go to school activities, movies etc. Tell him, if it happens again you will purchase a breathalyzer and test him yourself. It may sound drastic, but you don't want to get that phone call.

Answer 3

Ok, You can try grounding him & taking away not just some but all of his privliages. But you also need to get control of the problem. Let him know that if thei continues to happen while he is liveing in your house that you will & can also turn him over to the police! In most sates, and I live in one there are laws that even if the kid is drinking in thier own house with thier parents there the parents c and are arrested and put in jail. The kid is also put in juvie court and has to get alchol help. It is a crime & they can also do prison time for it. (The parents & kid both). At 16 that is just a little to old to do any spanking. Plus they may even turn on the parent and hit back and they can also call the police on the parent and claim child abuse. If it was my kid, I'd turn him into the police. I have even done it to my own kids when they where younger. One of them it hepled. They never did it again. The other one of my kids it didn't do any good though, and they are now dead. He got into a lot of truble with the law even when they where of legal age and did time in the Pen. only to get out and got drunk and passed out at the wheel of his car and killed himself at the age of only 23. So no matter just what you do there will be no garrentees that they will ever learn not to go out and get drunk! I hope that this has helped you in some small way and not dicouraged you!! Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I am all for not sparing the rod, but I think at that age it isnt really aproriate. You give younger kids a swat to get their attention and sometimes that's all they understand. I dont think it is the best way to deal with a 16 year old. I would ground him, take away his drivers liscense if he has one. Start confiscating and destroying other items. You can also buy some very cheap alcohol testers to spot check in the future. Or just talk to him when he come in. Alcohol is pretty easy to smell.
By that age though if he is determined to drink unless you watch him 24/7 not much you can do to stop it. Let me ask this do you yell at him for drinking while you are doing the same thing ?

Answer 5

First of all, don't try talking to him when he's drunk, he's probably not gonna remember any of it anyway. Talk to him in the morning. Tell him that what he did was unacceptable and since he is clearly not mature enough to go out, you are putting him on "house arrest" (no going out for two weeks, except for school and job). That will teach him the consequences of his actions. Don't think that the hangover is punishment enough, because that won't stop him from doing it again unless you really come down hard on him. What you are doing is for his own good, because he is putting himself and others in danger when he drinks that much.

Answer 6

Grounding possibly, definately not 'paddling,' they're 16 not 10!
The hangover he/she will have is probably going to be punishment enough.

Answer 7

Not sure what you need to stop the behavior, but stop it at all costs. My brother, just 18 months older than me, ruined his life, and the whole family, but starting drinking before he was 16. Died at age 30, but not before causing my Mother to have a stroke, and causing lots of problems for his siblings. Me for one. He has been gone now for quite a long time, but the time can never be changed. My Mom tried to raise his daughter but died before she got the job finished. It's a terrible thing, and must be stopped now at all costs.

Answer 8

ok well im only 15 but i also got caught drinking but me and my mom have such a close relationship she only had to tell me she was disapointed and i felt so guilty adn that i nvr wanted to do it again!! try to relate to him rationally i mean if you spank him he will prolly just do it again but if you use guilt he may think of u next time before he drinks!

Answer 9

I'm 16 do not ground him, he's just having fun?!

Answer 10

Grounding. No allowance for this week or no computer for these days, etc.