2007-12-24 06:57:03 · 16 answers · asked by orange c 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there. She was sleeping with her boss. I hurt for a long time. I felt like a failure even though I wasn't the one out cheating and that hurt deeply. It will take time, but you will come to find that you will be far happier. Hang in there and don't suppress your feelings. Confide in one of your girlfriends or in your parents, siblings if need be, but not in a guy, we tend to let our sexual desires get in the way when a woman is vulnerable. You'll be OK, I know it's hard right now, but trust me, YOU will be OK :)
2007-12-24 07:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by 2U2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It will stop hurting when your completly over this slime ball! It will happen when your ready. But you also need to realize and believe that this was NOT NOT NOT your fault! This was all his idea, his plans, his EVERYTHING! Not you. Don't believe that you carry some trait or do some thing that will always send your guys out cheating!!! He is a pig!!! A nasty piece of trash and I am so happy to hear that you are moving out! Once you have truly forgiven him in your heart, you will not hurt anymore. Don't bounce right into a new relationship, but don't shut yourself off either! Take a few weeks off from everything. Try to limit your stress levels and don't take on anything new! Hang out with your girlfriends, hang out with your mom... do whatever it takes to get your mind off of this crap! You will get over it! You will if you let yourself! You will hit rock bottom then its only up from there! Take care of youself, don't let this piece of **** break you down. Love yourself and take this as a lesson learned!!! He is the one missing out!!!
2007-12-24 15:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a magical switch to turn on and off for making the pain go away. Take a deep breath, realize what has happened, smile and know you will be a better person. It may not be today, tomorrow or next week. But that day will come. Wake up each day with a smile on your face, cause you just don't know what the day will bring you. Moping about it doesn't do anyone any good. get your crying out of the way, and move on.
2007-12-24 15:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Scott M 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am in a similar situation, and it has been almost two months... the pain is still there, and i just want to wake up tomorrow and feel like i am human again - when there wont be a heavy feeling in the pit of my stomach... when my happy sunny thoughts dont fade into images of him and the woman he cheated on me with... all the lies... I just want to appreciate life again - and in this sense, all we can do right now is mentally put ourselves in check and wake up each day thinking of three positive things that will make us smile... for example every morning I think to myself: The sun is out and the skies are blue. I want to feel fresh and alive.. then I will think: after work I am going to dinner with some friends, and there may be some wonderful people there who fate wants me to meet. I need to look good... then I will look at myself in the mirror, know that I am beautiful, strong and better than feeling like crap... and take a deep breath. Its grasping at what is positive in my life, but it actually helps me start the day. And every day that passes, though the pain is not forgotten, it does get less and less.... i am actually at the point now where i realize its a waste of time to even FEEL hurt. But if only I can fast forward my life to two years later... I want this feeling to go away... and all we can do now, is wait.
Hang in there... never lose sight of what you are worth. Do anything and everything to occupy your time. Take walks - go to the movies with your friends, your mom, your dog - whatever. hit a bar at night, hit the bookstore, start reading, go jogging, take up a new hobby, drive around aimlessly so you wont associate your home with thoughts of him. Get out, get moving, and dont forget to breathe... soon you will start feeling like a human being again.
2007-12-24 20:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Julie S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through that. Unfortunately, you need sometime to hurt in order for your heart to heal. It will hurt for a while because you have to release all the pain and tension from your heart and feelings. It all depends on the individual so I cant give you a time frame but you need to stop being depressed and i know its hard but you will only become worst. you need to surround yourself around positive people and enjoy your life and go out and hang out and have fun and keep your mind off him. Try to have sooo much fun everyday that you get so tired at night and just fall asleep so you dont think about it. sorry and good luck
2007-12-24 15:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by sexyexotik 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grief has no time frame. While it doesn't seem like it now, the aching pain will fade until finally it's just a bad memory. More importantly you need to focus on yourself and remember that you are worth far more than your cheating husband could ever give. Give yourself all the time you need, for time really does heal all, and seek comfort and guidance in your friends. DO NOT isolate yourself, or let him put you down. Go to counseling, I promise you that it will be the best money you ever spent.
2007-12-24 15:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually when a person hurts you this badly it never really stops hurting, but you do heal. It's like when you cut yourself and you are left with a scar that reminds of you to never do wha tyou did again. This guy will be your reminder of what tyoe of person you don't need in your life. I am glad you are moving out. You are taking the first step in the healing process. I would like for you to take all the energy that you are placing in being depressed and use it to be happy! He isn't depressed about you leaving so why should you be the one hurt, having to move, and feeling down. NO! let his NO GOOD A$$ GO!!!! REMEMBER it his loss!!!
2007-12-24 15:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by P.T Diva 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not sure how long it will take to stop hurting. I do know that it will stop. And that woman he's having an affair with will either break his heart or he will break hers. Just a matter of who catches who first. Cheaters never really stop. Surround yourself with people that love you unconditionally. And yes there are still people that do.
2007-12-24 15:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by A55H0L3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
your husband is having affair first of all you have got to let him go in your heart and than you can move on god will heal a broken heart just ask him for his blessing.
best of luck
2007-12-24 21:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST REMEMBER HE DID THE WRONG BY HAVING THE AFFAIR AND YOU DO NT WANT A MAN THAT DISRESPECTS YOU. OUT THERE IS A WHOLE WORLD FULL OF THINGS TO DO AND YOU WILL FIND ONE THAT IS EVERYTHING YOU NEED AND WANT... ALWAYS LAY YOUR FEARS AND DOUBTS WITH THE LORD HE WILL HEAL ALL THINGS.... TIME IS ALL YOU NEED
2007-12-24 15:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by KING AND ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋