I came home from work early and i looked in to my garden shed and i saw my son who is age 9 and my best friends 13 year old daughter touching each others privates.I told them it was wrong and made them promise not to do it again. How will this effect my son?.
2007-12-24 06:12:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
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and it's affect, not effect.
2007-12-24 06:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong and probably a pretty normal thing for a 9 year old. However, I do think you should talk to him in a positive was about why you told them to stop. I am sure it will not be the last time you will find your son doing things like this so be sure you give him the information he needs. I don't know about the girl she probably saw this as an opportunity to satisfy some of her curiosity without getting involved with someone her age who would want to take it on to something bigger. Maybe you can also talk to her alone sometime, and depending on how she reacts not tell her mother. It is a trough thing because you do not want to blow it up into a big deal and you do not want to make the girl more embarrassed then she is.
2007-12-24 07:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kayla S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that stage (for your boy) it is perfectly normal for him to be curious. As for your best friend's daughter, she could either be a late bloomer or not really understanding what it means to do stuff like that. I would think that she's old enough to know and understand what those things mean - I had been through Sex-ed and had 'the talk' by that time.
If anything, your son may become more curious. Sit him down once the 2 of you are alone and ask him why he did it, then ask him if he has any questions. Good luck.
2007-12-24 06:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Momma Jette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are goin to be curious no matter what...i am sure if you looked back hard enough you can remember a time where you expieremented with something similar...
it might be time for "the Talk" now adays kids are maturing alot faster than the previous generations. Expessially with TV being the way that it is. i am not blaming TV at all dont get me wrong. The only thing that it should have effect on your son is the curiosity of the girls. hes a boy you can expect that kind of thing... he is taking an intrest in girls its normal...
2007-12-24 06:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by john W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this will effect your son by it would be wrong to do that and about that 13 year old you should just tell their parents.
2007-12-24 06:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Hindu Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was wrong about it? he's going to do it again some day and remember what you told him. if you want him to learn from his friends about sex, keep telling him it was wrong. if you want to take responsibility for raising your son, talk to him about sex and explain that he should be curious, but that his curiosity will make it that much more exciting when the time is right - like when he's 35 and out of the house.
2007-12-24 06:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Brandon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, this really brings back memories for me. When I was prolly 8 or 9, the neighbor boy and I were in his tent in the backyard, seeing what makes us different........ my brother found us and said "im telling" and i cried for weeks. My parents told me it was wrong, that i do not need to touch and show boys what i have. I said I didn't realize it was wrong or bad and i was sorry........
i turned out okay, i was a virgin until i was 20..... :-) I think with kids, they are curious....... doesn't make it right and you sure don't want to pass it off and have them continue....... but i think it is normal..... about every kids goes thru that.........
good luck
2007-12-24 06:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, and you really should tell your son that. If it's consensual for both of them it's healthy and good. What will affect your son most negatively is the massive shame you're instilling in him.
A good resource you might want to look at is: www.scarleteen.com
2007-12-24 06:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by george3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably do it again, but be more careful not to get caught. You need to sit down and explain WHY you felt what he was doing was wrong, and WHY it felt good, and that the girl's mom may feel the same way. Teach morals and values that are important to you, and they will be reflected by your children.
2007-12-24 06:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
9 year olds are just curious. You gotta give him the talk but I doubt he's old enough to be interested in having sex though. I may be wrong though, I don't have a boy.
2007-12-24 06:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kristina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He now knows what everything looks and feels like, it won't hurt him, the only problem i could think of , is he might want to do that again sometimes. You have to tell him he's not to do that with girls it's not a thing young boys should do.
2007-12-24 06:33:36 · answer #11 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋