My friend never pays attention to me unless she wants something. Shes nice but shes a little self absorbed. She brags a lot. She also ditches me a lot 4 her older cousin. her cousin and I do NOT get along. ive talked to my friend about this but she just says im a friend stealer. mean, disrespectful, and self absorbed. Shes said a lot more on these same lines. I tried ending it once but she just started being nice and got me things. What do I do? I like her but she just makes me so mad. When her cousins not around shes nice. Im so confused. please help. Thanks.
2007-12-24 02:29:47 · 30 answers · asked by dream_sista 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have 3 other BFFs and she treats then like dirt too. We all want to get away but she wont let us. @ lunch she always sits with us no matter what.
2007-12-24 02:56:13 · update #1
Thank u guys SOOOOOOOOOOO much! Hope u have a great holiday!
2007-12-24 04:27:05 · update #2
start hanging out with new friends and hang out with her less and less. she might find out how you feel and change, or she will get mad at you. if she gets mad at you, end it. if she starts getting you things dont take them. maybe she's just trying to act cool aroung her cousin cuz she's older.
2007-12-24 02:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by TR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any friends that don't cause me to get angry on occasion, but I terminate friendships very judiciously. The fact that she's self-absorbed and boastful is a character flaw, but that's part of friendship...accepting them as they are. And as for her "ditching you for her cousin", the 'blood is thicker than water' axiom comes into play here. Few people can resist choosing along family lines every now and then. So, is she worth dealing with a few annoyances that go with the territory, or are you just fed up with the whole prospect? That's the real question here, and it's one that only you can answer. Good luck deciding. Happy Holidays.
2007-12-24 03:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather, the sole reason i'd end a friendship is loss of genuine understand. My friends and that i've got been by plenty and consistently remained friends even into adulthood yet presently my chum informed me she didnt have anymore room for anymore friends, thats her call no longer mine. yet even my chum pretty much have been given me in subject with the regulation I enjoyed her besides. Heck, i'm friends with my ex husband I cheated on and my modern boyfriends 2 exes formerly me, I merely dont waste time in judgement
2016-12-18 07:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda going through the same thing except its with her boyfriend she doesn't want to be bothered unless he breaks up with her or she has a major dilemma in life...on the other hand if i or any of our friends have an issue shes nowhere to be found....i confronted her about the situation and she threw ever thing i ever told her out of confidence in my face which i feel is gay...........i ended our friendship and it hurt i felt like i broke off with my boyfriend. there is alto more to the story...i just feel no matter what the situation is you should always s make time for your best est friends. good luck
2007-12-24 03:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with someone else's answer here, you need to figure out if she's worth all the pain she's causing you. Yes, you like her, but if she brings you nothing but heartache, then why do you want to be friends with someone like that?
You know that saying, "you choose your friends, you can't choose your family"? The key is YOU CHOOSE who you hang out with and are friends with. If she upsets you so much, then you should start thinking about making some new friends. No one needs a friend who is mean to them or brings them down. You don't have to be mean to her, but just don't initiate contact. You two will drift apart and you can move on and make new friends that will support you, are fun to be with and make you happy. We all deserve that.
2007-12-24 02:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friendship sounds like an unhealthy relationship. Some people are just not good people and if your friend is as accurate as you describe her it may cause less tension to just weed her out of your life. She can't possibly ever be there for you if you need her. Its ok to be selfish if sometimes but not at the expense of others.
2007-12-24 02:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have various issues. You simply have to decide if her friendship is worth putting up with her. It's really a fairly simple equation.
On the other hand, if your own issue is being afraid of not finding other friends, it could be a bit harder. Just remember that 99 percent of the time, that fear is just insecurity and has no basis in reality.
2007-12-24 02:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by starvingwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her now how your feeling. Sometimes that all it takes. Have you talked it over with her? If so and she still has not given any effort to change and it totally upsets you then yes, stop hanging around with her. Then maybe she will realize that she misses you as a friend, or she really was not you friend after all.
2007-12-24 02:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by rescuebird72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. who is this friend?? Well, i had a friend exactly like this once... if you have 3 other BFF's, then its best to just ditch&ignore her. She will probably not like it and start saying bad things about you, but if u just act like you dont care and think nothing of it everyone will soon realize she's the loser and not you.
2007-12-24 03:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by akgirl1105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg we had a chick that wouldent leave us alone last year too, we all stood up to her at the same time and said "We don't want to be your friend anymore!" then we picked a new place to hang out, yeah she stalked us after that, but eventually she moved on so just tell this girl "look you're being such a beezy, and if this is how you're gonna act, then you can't hang out with us."
2007-12-24 03:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by Okami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋