I've been bi for as long as i can remember, and recently developed feelings for a girl, it didn't matter at first because i never thought about it much, but now that I like a girl, It's eating me up, and I want to tell her soooooooo bad, but she'll be hurt, and I don't want to hurt her. And if it means hurting myself to protect her, then I feel I have to do it, because she's always been there and I feel I owe her peace of mind, but it's times where I can't hold it.
2007-12-24 00:45:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had a hard time telling my mom too. I didn't want to tell her I was fully gay so I called her on the phone and said I have something to tell you and she said what and I said I like girls and guys which means I am bisexual she said why are you telling me this and I said because it is time you know how I am living my life and if I happen to bring a woman with me to all the family functions then you don't have to wonder who she is and she asked was the girl I brought with me to her block party my "girlfriend or my girl friend" and I said she is my "girlfriend who is my lover" and she said ok whatever. Needless to say 3 1/2 yrs later she is ok with it and me and the female plan to have a committment ceremony in May 2008 and my mom is giving me away.
2007-12-24 02:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe her honesty too. And you owe that to yourself as well.
The timing is up to you so as long as it doesn't put you in an unsafe situation (like being kicked out on the streets) do it when you are ready. If she is as great as you say then in the end your honesty will only strengthen your friendship with her.
Be prepared to give her space, answer questions, and provide some resources such as PFLAG so that she knows she's not alone and has some place to go for answers in case she's not ready to discuss it in detail with you.
good luck.
2007-12-24 00:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by xyxoxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's always been there for you in the past, she'll be there for you now. It might hurt at first but you owe her the truth.
2007-12-24 02:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me wonder how old you are. I would wait if your still in high school, because it could mean hell in your house while you finish high school. There are websites that can give you better advise.
2007-12-24 00:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kourtney M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone have to do this at Christmas? Have a great holiday and visit your Mom on Valentine's Day. It is the day of love after all.
2007-12-24 00:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dan H 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well....my mom did the same thing when i told her i was gay....she cried too......but now she got over it...and she accepts me.....(like its such a hard decision to accept your child or teen)..........and also, if you are hurting your mom by telling her who you really are inside, then it's not your fault.....she is going to need to get over it.......
she is the one that needs to accept YOU....its not the other way around........
AND guess what......i waited until mother's day to tell her too.....
2007-12-24 01:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by James Boroznoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just bring it up casually,be like 'mom, i like someone, but its a little different than you think..' then tell her. give her time to adjust and accept it. good luck! :)
2007-12-24 04:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by ryansamuel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down with her after christmas and talk one on one with her when she is calm
even if she freaks out, she will eventually learn to deal with it
2007-12-24 02:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by matthew121393 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋