yesturday when i came home from work my husband was stuck watching tv since 3pm to 6pm watching some stupid girls dancing almost nude on tv, he said it was a family channel but they almost were naked and shaking their a**s. Anyways I told him that it made me sad that he prefers to watch tv all day instead of being with me, I almost have to begg him for sex! I feel so bad, Im 3 months pregnant and im all happy but he just seems like distant? So last night I had a talk with him and he started screaming at me so hard, and saying all these bad things, I just started crying and cried all night, and he didnt care, after I went to hug him and he ignored me, I just feel horrible beacuse christmas is tomorrow and we are mad at each other! sometimes I feel like I just bother him or that Im in his way, he blames me for not being able to learn english beacuse he says I dont teach him! I have 2 jobs and he still wants me to teach him! he makes me feel guilty for all his errors.!
2007-12-22 23:57:35 · 22 answers · asked by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
damn, that's horrible... you try to give him a hug and he push you away... you're both married aren't you? well I am not here to tell you have made the worst decision by marrying this guy.. who is obviously is a GREAT PRETENDER...
well, God gives second chance to people and so are you to him.. yah christmas is tomorrow, what I am thinking is.. this person (your husband) is feeling some kind of a inferiority complex... he came from a different kind of family maybe.. and he wants to feel "in the same level" with you... and the fact that he is the father of the house, he feel so damn LOW when he knows he can't understand english.. and you can..
so what you do is this... tomorrow, buy a little dictionary a thin one.. that has a translation of sentences of english to your native language which you both couple understand.. try to be genuine, that you really want to teach him... even just for 30 minutes.. of course he'll say "nahh, i dont need that" but just do everything you can to bare that..
well, if that doesnt work.. and his harsh words.. turn into PHYSICAL ABUSE! then BULLSH.I.T ... my dear, you should leave this behemoth! you don't want to picture yourself living with this horrendous guy.. for another 50 years of life wouldn't you?
i hope i enlightened you thoughts a little
merry christmas!
2007-12-23 00:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'm very sorry to hear about your dilemma. It may seem hopeless right now, but there is always another day to start anew! If you don't have any money saved up on your own, then I think you should find a local women's shelter and start staying there, just so that you can get some distance from your husband and his abuse. Your husband is very controlling and that will probably never change so even if you love him, count on him having that behavior for the rest of his life or until he gets counseling for himself. After you've had some distance, you need to think about whether you want to keep the baby or not. I know that's a heavy issue, but maybe you'd be happiest being divorced and free to start over again with somebody who loves you and won't mistreat you. No child should have to raised in an unloving environment. Best wishes to you and I hope you make a choice that will make you happy.
2016-04-10 21:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't your husband work? He certainly doesn't treat you very well. He is demeaning and rude, and inconsiderate toward you. You seem to be the breadwinner in the family, and he just sits around all day doing nothing productive. You have to be able to talk to a close friend about this abuse. That is really what it is! It is spousal neglect and mistreatment. He has to be informed that it is wrong to treat you this way! I hope you get help. You sound like a dear lady who needs more attention and consideration and love than he is giving you.
2007-12-23 00:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Paulus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I'm very sorry that you are feeling so sad right before Christmas. I think that if he continues to be so mean to you then you should think about leaving him. You can do so much better and find a man who will treat you with love and respect. I wish you all the best and hope you have a very merry Christmas!
2007-12-23 00:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good guy yells at his wife when she's pregnant. It should be a beautiful time for you and you should be in a happy place where you can enjoy it. He should be telling you how beautiful you look and not watching the girls on tv. His free time should be spent with you when possible. It sounds like he has plenty of time to watch tv while you're at work. What's he going to do when you CAN"T work? Starve! You're in a precious time and he's spoiling it. Tell him to get off his lazy *** and get a job and treat you like his wife and a lady. He's luckt he doesn't live around me. I'd kick his butt for him!
2007-12-23 00:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he isn't a guy that you should be spending the next 60 years with... and if you wouldn't want to do all of this for the rest of your life there may be no point in staying with him... another Man will come your way and treat you how you should be treated. As for the child, it's much safer for the baby if you are safe. (also if he's not wanting this child you should get out faster)
hope no matter what everything works out the best for you
2007-12-23 00:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by GoldyLox21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if this is the kind of man you want to raise your baby with. I am by no means an expert in this area, but in my opinion you should get out before its too late. It sounds like he has the potential to be physically abusive. He is already mentally abusing you by blaming you for things he is too lazy to take care of himself. You can surely do better. Dont let him make you feel inferior or that you are in his way. He is the one with the problems, not you.
2007-12-23 00:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- take a calm breath. I think you guys may want to go to a family therapist. I would try talking to him again and if he yells again, threaten to leave. Or you could lie on your bed like one of the girls he was watching and see what he says. Suprise him with something, maybe he is bored with the relationship.
2007-12-23 00:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him cool down before the baby is in dangered.Move to your moms house for a while or a girlfriends house/apartment. Or just rent an apartment. Just let him settle down.
Hope this Helps = ^)
2007-12-23 00:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by ViCtOrIa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we make big mistakes in life sometimes and sorry to say it appears like you made a big one, did he marry you for his citizen ship and I don't know why but when women get married a lot of men show there true colors which are usually not good colors. I hope you have family because it seems like you need to get away from him and this abusive relationship, for your self and for your child.
2007-12-23 00:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus is the best. 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋