I asked him about his fantasies. He told me he has one of me having sex with another man while he watched throught the bedroom window. i guess i never saw that coming.
2007-12-22 23:38:42 · 20 answers · asked by jensjewelry1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think there is any such think as a 'normal' fantasy. Every person is different. You asked your husband to be honest and reveal fantasies he has, and he did (or made one up). It doesn't necessarily mean he wants to actually do it, or will ever ask you to. I seriously doubt he'd enjoy coming home from work to find you in bed with another man.
I think you have to be careful about asking these kinds of questions, unless you are prepared for answers you were not expecting.
2007-12-22 23:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, many men have that fantasy! But keep in mind; it's a fantasy! Don't read too much into it; you should feel happy that he sees you as a very sensual and sexual being. The aspect of seeing your Spouse enjoying Carnal pleasure with another is erotic to the mans' mind. Perhaps you should have him elaborate to what exactly it is that he enjoys about it. People can keep the fantasy part of their relationship to when he is alone, possible masturbating, fulfilling that part of the relationship/fantasy. Some couples actually play-out this in reality, but that's something on a much higher plain...
2007-12-23 08:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by perrygreenwich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are deep-seeded desires. Surely you wouldn't want to see him with another woman. There is definitely something to be addressed here. I knew a man who had the same fantasy and ten years later gained knowlege that he was gay. Not saying that your husband is in the closet but there is something so very NOT right about this kind of fantasy. Try to get to the bottom of why he would disrespect you in this way. Good Luck!
Giggs
2007-12-23 07:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has allowed me to watch her have sex with another man. We too, discussed fantasies, and I told her I would enjoy watching her with another man. After a lot of discussion we surmised this was probably because as a young man I watched movies and looked at pictures of men and women having sex as a stimulis for self pleasure. Thus, it became exciting for me to watch others have sex. Although I have no desire to sleep with another woman, it turns me on tremendously to watch her. It's not like we go 'prowling' for men to sleep with her. However, the few times it has happened, it has worked out. We devised a set of rules that we follow strictly. Also, I would do anything my wife asked of me to heighten her enjoyment. You question is, can it be normal? I believe the fantasy is normal. But I also think you need to be very careful and make sure it is ok with you as well. And he needs to respect that.
2007-12-23 09:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by xp2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he has a peeping Tom fantasy
well you should say sweety I am not going to have sex with anither man but I can buy a sex toy and you can watch me use it
by the way one of the mistake women make is to ask their man about their fantasy and once he told them they went into shock now by doing so these men will refuse to open up again, you might find his fantasy funcky at best but talk to him about making it happen with a sex toy
Good luck
2007-12-23 07:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in to that kinda thing then do it. If you ain't, then don't.
Everyone has fantasies about sex...men and women alike have certain fantasies.
Sure, I have mine but one is not watching my wife get laid by another man. Some men find it a real turn on watching their wives get laid by another man.
I find what you described as just being weird.
2007-12-23 08:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its no different than being told they want to watch you with another woman! LOL Its a fantasy, but it would change if the issue is to come to life.
I would say this is normal.
2007-12-23 07:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A fantasy is just that, a fantasy. It is ok to relax and share intimate thoughts such as what your husband has done with you. Know that this is "normal". Acting out such a fantasy could harm your relationship, so, keep it between him and you!
2007-12-23 07:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it stay a fantasy, it is called one for a reason. Some people can do stuff like that not me. I have a friend that her husband wanted to bring other girls in to have sex with them. She did it out of fear he would cheat if she didn't. Well he justified it and cheated anyhow. Just beware if you do it. He may not lke it when it is real. And you will resent him if it is something YOU don't want to do.
2007-12-23 07:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Goodness!!!
Alarm bells ringing!!!
This is not healthy at all! NOT for a second!!!
If a man is ready to share his wife with someone else, then, it does say something about his mind.
He sounds right like a perve.
Sit down and talk about where you two are heading and what exactly the word marriage means to both of you.
Time to rethink the relationship.
To me, that'd be a deal breaker alright!!!!!
2007-12-23 07:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋