Is he really changing and being "honest" with me (read)?

Question

I'm 6.5 mos preg. and the father of the baby has been changing with me lately (for good). at the beggining, we both didn't want to keep the baby, they I did so he agreed; time went by and we would hardly see or talked to each other. it hasn't been that long that he was kind of being nice to me, but he would never have that much time to spend with me and would give me a million excuses of why he couldn't be with me as much. well, last week he was supposed to see me, and when i called him, he didn't answer at all, so I texted him telling him that he was only a hipocrit, a liar, that i didn't want his kid, and to never call me again, plus i told him that i hated him as well. the next day he called almost 100x, i would ignore him and when i decided to talk to him, he talkd to me diff, and asked me to go out smwhere, etc. after that, he calls me more often, is sweet with me, brings me groceries, 'n does what i ask him to do. i just don't know if he's really changing or just fakin the funk?

he's 32 and i'm 20

Answer 1

Ok sounds like your being played, he's 32 and your 20 it's time for him to man up and for you to be mature texting him and telling him all that stuff is no good your just making him feel guilty for not being around you those type of relationships don't work, also do you live together or are you living with your parents because if he really cared about you he would find a place for you and him to live, you could do better most likely you knew some guys that really liked you but you didn't want to have feelings for them maybe you like this guy but he doesn't have the same feelings for you remember karma what goes around comes around.
anyways good luck with trying to work this out

Answer 2

let me be tough.
You need to change and grow up, you action show that you are imature this man is not moature enough to be a father but it seems that you as well and since you are pregnant you don't have a choice but to grow up fast, in the other hand even if he should do the same but in his mind he does not have too, so from now on depend on you and not on him that wil l better in the long run
what you need to do is to sit down with him and have an adult moment ; Like will he help care of the baby:financially, emotionally etc, once that is decided ask him if he can be there for the birth at this moment take the time to tell him that you realizing that it is over between you two (because of what you say in your statemement) but since their is a baby involve you will like the two of you to act mature about the situation
(this will be hard but it must be say & you must keep your word about being mature, that mean no jealousy fit at least not in front of him)
also you need to act cool what ever good he is doing at the moment you need to thank him and let be just that, don't waste your time analyzed every little things
Good luck

Answer 3

You need to leave somebody that is acting, childish and you got a lot of growing up to do too. You shouldn't say things like 'you dont want the kid' because that is immature and it sounds like you are just saying stuff you don't mean just to hurt him. If he is changing then why stick around and watch this all go down? Do good for you and your baby and take some parenting classes or something and be very very positive because your life is no longer your life anymore. Your heart is going to be walking around outside of your body in a few months, and if the father isn't ready, then that is his problem. He can change all he wants and act like he's a teen who just got a girl pregnant b/c thats what it sounds like to me from what youre sayin. You can see him in court, and you can raise a productive member of society.

Answer 4

It seems to me that by what you did you made him actually think. I think he is trying to change. Changing is hard on anyone. Especcially for him becoming a father. He wants to make you happy and he seems to be there and want to make this work and be there for the baby. A word of advice though is to be careful. Sometimes men and women change for a period of time and then go back to their old ways. I have seen people who were changing and then went back to their old ways. He could have a reason behind just changing quickly as well. You never can exactaly tell with men.

Answer 5

Your baby's father sounds like mine. I'm only 14 weeks and I've had ENOUGH of that sh!t! He will probably continue to go back and forth between being there and disappearing for weeks. I think you should go with your gut. If you think he's just faking it, then you are probably right. Be strong sweetie! If you ever just need to talk, my email is [e-mail]

Good luck!

Answer 6

sometimes, people need to wake up call and id say he got his. well done. i think he is changing for you because he must of relised what he had sitting there and how he was treating you. some men do that, as where others dont care. anyways good luck to you both and i hope you have a healthy baby. congrats and lets hope he stays this way.

Answer 7

Sounds like he's really changing. If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be making an effort. And you said he's 32? maybe he realizes he's getting old, and it's about time to start a family and such. I believe he really is changing.

Answer 8

He is changing. What happen was he was scared of being a dad and all the responsibility that came with it. He realized that its his too and your in this together. Don't be afraid if he starts going back in fourth with his emotions, it's natural.

Answer 9

Can't rly tell coz i don't know him. Don't get too close to him and don't be too nice (i know it might hurt) until you're absalutely positive that he's not cheating.

Answer 10

sounds like hes seeing someone else??? sounds like another women is in the picture