how much authority does my sister have over who I marry?

Question

I don't know why she is in many ways trying to force ways for me to marry american women. I don't know what her problem is. She lives many miles away from us we hardly get along with each other. I never talk to her and it doesn't make a difference for either one of us if the other didn't existed she knows that i know that. She would be pissed if anyone tells her who she should marry or anything less. I just want to know what is up with her why would she care we don't even like each other that much and it does sound like she really wants this to happen

Answer 1

none, your the one marring the person

Answer 2

She sounds like a real control-freak. Perhaps she has a serious racism thing going on or something, but nothing gives her a right to control who you marry. After all, good marriages are built on friendship and love, and she has not control over who YOU fall in love with!

If she keeps doing this, there's no reason to keep in contact with her. She's adding more negative than positive to your life at the moment. Tell her how you feel about it by all means, but don't be too upset if she still won't listen. People don't change that much, and you have no obligation to tolerate her $h!t just because she's your sister!

Answer 3

You already know the answer - your sister has no legal authority over you. You obviously care what she thinks though, which is not necessarily a bad thing in most cases. She may just be prejudiced.

An ongoing bigotry seems to happen when our U.S. military members marry foreign nationals. But then again, maybe I'm just carrying perceptions over from the past.

In any case remember the old adage - "Sisters: They open their mouths because they can..."

Good luck in your upcoming nuptials!

Answer 4

Even if you did get along with your sister she has no say over who you marry. Unless your parents are from some country which has arranged marriage, the only person who has any say over whom you marry is you and your future girlfriend (fiance).

As long as you and whoever you marry get along reasonably well and neither of you abuses the other then I don't see what her problem is.

Answer 5

She has absolutely no say in who you marry . You have the right to marry anyone you'd like it's all your decision. Your sister may give you an opinion it does not mean you have to follow it .Good luck and tell your sister to stay out of your personal business.

Answer 6

Your sister has no authority whatsoever over whom you marry if you're an adult.

If she tries to cause trouble in the future with your relationships, perhaps you should consider getting a restraining order from a court.

Answer 7

My sister does that too. She yells and screams at me all the time about everything I do, and then the next day says that we get along really well.
You need to decide which is more important, your fiance or your sister. Because you might have to choose one over the other.

Answer 8

Nobody has the authority over who you marry but you. Do what is best for you and tell her to mind her own business.

Answer 9

She doesn't have any right to say who you marry. If you had a closer relationship I might say take some of her advise.

Tell her it's not something she needs to worry about and you be happy!

Answer 10

She has none. There is only one person that is responsible for your happiness, and it is you. There are plenty of people in your life that think they have a say, but at the end of the day, the only one that you can hold responsible for the choices and decisions that you make is yourself.

Answer 11

She has as much authority as you will allow her to. She can tell you her opinion, but it is you that has to make the final decision.