Dated 4 months together 2 months and lived 45 minutes away from each other.she hates me and doesnt want me to be in my baby's life. What can i do to get her back so we can raise our baby together?.when she doesnt even want to speak to me?We didnt really do much together I think all we felt was infactuation for one another but I still want us to work things out so our baby can be loved and not be takend away from his Father.
2007-12-22 17:28:44 · 35 answers · asked by dude 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The night we had unprotected sex I insisted the I wear a condom. It was exactly one week after her period and she was so sure It wouldnt happen. I guess we left it up to faith!! We both talked about having a baby together but I think we just felt lonely and thought about formatiing te perfect family and all it was was infactuation.
2007-12-22 17:49:04 · update #1
Good for you for wanting to be a part of your baby's life. Don't ever give up on that and never forget to always make decisions with your baby in mind and you'll never go wrong.
Unfortunately, there isn't a lot you can do until the baby is born. After that you'll be able to get parenting time ordered through the court. If you get a "Recognition of Parentage" signed when the baby is born and have your name on the birth certificate that will speed up the process so you can start spending time with your baby as soon as possible.
Remember that your ex girlfriend's hormones are crazy right now - but don't ever tell her that! If you want to be a part of your baby's life, just stay persistent - but not stalking - and show her that you really love this baby and want to be a part of his or her life.
As much as you want to be a family, that's not necessary for you to be a father to this child. Show your ex that you're going to step up to this responsibility - don't just say it. If it's meant to be for you all to be together, then her seeing you be responsible and loving will definitely help move things in the right direction.
Good luck.
2007-12-22 17:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've actually been in this situation. It was years ago so I have a lot of insight. 1. It's not about YOU anymore. It's about a baby. 2. She's hormonal and every time you act like a dick, she's going to be unstable. 3. You need to find some way to be friends with this woman. She has your child and your child needs to be raised by two grown-ups not two kids who can't play nice. 4. If you would consistently be nice, she'd probably be nice too. 5. if you are an abusive ******, you need to get out of both of their lives (for their sake) and just be a check in the mail OR you can grow some balls, get counseling and try to be the father that your's obviously wasn't (or you'd know how to act like a man). And furthermore, when you see your daughter, imagine the type of man that you would want your daughter to marry and then be that type of man! She's going to learn about men from YOU and so far, that sounds pretty scary.
2016-05-26 00:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be a big part of your baby's life and not have to be with its mother. You should look up legal rights for men I think there is a lot places that help guys out more than ever before. You should be able to get joint custody even if she doesn't want you in the baby's life. Just don't back down about the baby he or she will always need you. Don't bug her about getting back together just worry about the baby for now and she might feel different later.
2007-12-22 17:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is more likely to be very angry with you, than to hate you. She probably also feels trapped, and ashamed for not using protection. You don't give your ages but I'll guess that you are both young, under 20 at least. Here's what I recommend:
1) Get a lawyer.
2) Get a DNA test as soon as the baby is born.
3) Get an education and learn a skill so you can be prepared to care for yourself, the young woman and the baby.
By the time you have made progress in all these things, you will be able to see and decide for yourself how to handle things with the baby's mother.
2007-12-22 17:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, without knowing why she wont speak to you, its hard to say if you even have a chance of getting back with her. There really isnt anything you can do until the baby comes, but when the time comes, make sure you file the paternity suit for the right reason.... for the baby, not her. In the mean time, I would reccomend focusing on yourself, getting yourself together and prepare to be a father.... im sure by this point she knows that you want to be there for her and the baby, so give her some time and if its meant to be, it will be.
2007-12-22 17:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by PAUL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the father, you have a right to be part of the babies life. I might be wrong but I think if she was to have an abortion, GOD FORBID!, she would have to consult with you. Dont be worried about her. Be worried about the babies well being. Have you got a steady job? Do your parents know? Do her parents know? Give her time and let her know your feeling for her and how you feel about being a daddy! As for the HORRIBLE advice this PINKCUTIE gave you here on Yahoo answers.....dont listen to childish fools! No woman wants to raise a baby on their own! Thats crazy! She will need you help wheather or not she wants a husband. Trust in God the father . If you dont know Jsus, I suggest you ponder this and pray for Him to reveal Himself to you through prayer. I was in this situation too once and now I have 2 kids and happill married for almost 9 years. I thank God the Father for bringing me into the man I am today.
Merry CHRISTmas!
2007-12-22 17:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by tigerbaby99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you use a condom? Please do so in the future! But you need to leave her alone right now. You can pursue being in the baby's life when the baby is born. She may still be thinking about abortion or she may just need space to think. But for the sake of the child, you don't want to force yourselves into a relationship that isn't based on love.
2007-12-22 17:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by CB 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try calling her and ask her to hear you out.
After you get her to calm down and listen to you, try letting her know that you care for her, or something like that.
Then you should try and make up with her, but make sure that you don't get angry and start yelling if she says something of the sort about you. Or else, you two will be more apart then ever....
2007-12-22 17:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by A L 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well legally if you are the father you have rights to see the baby. She can't completely take it away. Still, what did you do to make her "hate" you? Does she have a reason? Keep talking to her and show you you are serious about being in the baby's life. Good Luck.
2007-12-22 17:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the hardest thing to do it the best thing.
You need to respect her wishes and back out completely. Yo send her a note (hoping that she will read it) explaining that, although you will be there for her, you will honor her request and step away.
2007-12-22 17:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋