The reason I first stopped talking to him was because he was too touchy feely/phsycial.
Then we met again 2 years later and he has said he has been looking for me since. Again he was too touchy feely.
But he has text me minimally since then. I know I am not a bad person but I have gained 20 lbs since we last saw each other.
WHY IS WEIGHT SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR MEN!
I don't deserve to be treated this way! I am a really considerate person, college educated, own my own house, 24 , what gives?
2007-12-22 17:19:21 · 5 answers · asked by SuperSxyVixen23 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Myself being a man, I wouldn't assume this is about your weight. You said, when you met again, that "he was too touchy feely" again. Doesn't sound like your weight bothered him at all. Sounds more like, after two years, he either has someone else in his life, whom he didn't tell you about, or he noticed your same negative reaction to his attentions and, therefore, does not really enjoy your presence.
God bless.
2007-12-23 02:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by ♫DaveC♪♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your weight may not have very much to do with the issue. As your description seems to illustrate your disapproval of his "touchy feely/physical" nature. I would suggest analyzing his perception of your interaction. Some men are displeased by a lack of interest in "touchy feely/physical" contact. If he is one of these men, he may be put off by the fact you don't 'put out'. In which case you allow him to go on his way.
Enjoy your homeownership, and if you have a problem with the way you appear, use a spare room as a workout center. Otherwise, know that men like all types of women Truly there is someone for everyone. Some men like their ladies to have a little more physical substance. Some, do not.
The world is big enough that everyone can have a fan...
2007-12-23 03:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by HotDockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i doubt its just the weight, you are probably doing something else wrong, is your hygiene good? i have been put off from a girl before because she had some stray hairs growing from her chin and she didn't do anything about them. it is shallow in a way but then the way i see it, if she doesn't take care enough to pluck a few long hairs from her chin then she is probably unaware and/or lazy in other ways. you should do some self analysis to make sure that there isnt anything ale going on that might put guys off other then the weight. girls can still be really attractive even when they are MORE then 20 overweight.
2007-12-23 01:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by None 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are also incredibly intelligent. You have everything that you need, BUT he is inferior to you. Thus, all that you have and expect to become, is far above this guy. I know you are "hyped up" and believe that you will do well by having him in your life. He is not the last man on Earth. YOU need to speak with someone who can help you with your concerns. This man is a loser. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-12-23 01:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything could have happened. He might have a new puter and has not moved his old files to his new one. That is my situation.
He could have accidentally deleted your info and may not remember the entire address.
Maybe he has met someone, you can't know until he finds you again.
Move on and allow fate to control, it does anyway.
2007-12-23 10:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋