I'm not happy with my life and myself. I'm at the age where most people atleast know who they are or have a personality, but not me. I'm a 22 year old introvert, and I have been an introvert for the pass 7 years. I don't have any friends or anything. I'm looking to change that, and be comfortable with myself enough to open up with people. What kind of personality should I try to develop where everyone likes me and wants to be around me? Whatever personality I have now isn't working.
2007-12-22 16:59:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
For those of you who live in a "personality culture", note that your personality is YOU shining through. It is not some game or identity that you project as the occasion demands!
Take a look at the type of friends you attract - they are your mirror. Do they all have problems, or are they successfully happy people.
Remember the Law of Attraction works for negatives as well as positives. Just as happy successful people attract happy successful people, people with unresolved problems attract people with unresolved problems.
2007-12-22 19:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You basically are taking about reinventing yourself.
It's possible to develop new activities, hobbies, skills which lead to becoming more of an extrovert. You can increase your self-confidence and there are even adult education classes that are supposed to allow you to successfully chat in social situations.
However, there isn't a "Brad Pitt Personality" you can buy and put on. Those that try such a total make over run into two big problems.
The first is they really haven't changed. think of a middle aged man that gets a wig, pulls in his belly with a girdle and buys his clothes from the same place teenagers go. It doesn't work. He's still bald, overweight and too old.
The second is the people around you expect certain behavior from you. A new personality is upsetting and you social group will expect the same old behavior. Consider a diet. Unless you move, people around you will offer the same foods, the same amounts and expect you to eat the same as before.
You've already have identified you want to be more of an extrovert and be comfortable around people. Find interests that get you out of the house and out around people. Do that as a start.
2007-12-23 01:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by icabod 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your personality type. That's something that you're born with. Introverts' and extroverts' brain pathways are different.
If you claim you've been an introvert for the past 7 years, it's more likely that you're shy. You saying that you want everyone to like you also implies that you're an extrovert.
Being shy is different than being an introvert because introverts need time alone and enjoy it, while shy people can be introverts OR extroverts who are anxious in social situations.
2007-12-26 23:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by violingirl7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to u is Get a job in retail if u dont have one already. If u dont have a personality you will soon develop one It helped me out a lot, I mean i dont go out and party because of it but I am not as introverted as i used to be though. Also a personality cant necessarily be molded into what u want it to be it kinda has to develop. But thats just my opinion.
2007-12-23 01:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to sound like a radio announcer with a loud voice. Hand out beer to everyone you meet and slap them on the back. You don't have to make conversation but just yell "Hey how about them Yankees? HEEHAW!!!!!"
2007-12-23 01:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋