Hi all. So here's the deal. I constantly worry about what other people think of me and I feel like I'm always being judged by somebody, somewhere. I hate having this feeling, and it's getting to the point where it's seriously affecting the way I live. I know that getting over this will not be a overnight process, therefore I need some help. What advice can you give me to help overcome my fear of being judged by others. Thanks!
2007-12-22 16:33:11 · 16 answers · asked by K-Man 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Stick close to friends who encourage you and you know will be honest with you. the truth is people are judging you, and most likely, by a silly standard that makes them feel good about themselves. the good news is that's usually the small majority that is the loudest! I like to keep an encouragement file for times when people who matter give me compliments (even if I'm not believing it in that moment) then when it feels like the negative voices are louder, I can pull it out and remind myself of the truth. Or find something that you really, really enjoy and take lessons. That way you're involved in something you love and know that you are improving-it's a great feeling of accomplishment!
2007-12-22 16:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Crooked Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you had an overly critical parent (or parents) or a close sibling who was overly critical or judgemental. Rather than putting a band-aid over your problem by trying to talk yourself out of it, why not get to the root of it and clear it out forever? Can you remember when you first started feeling this way? Chances are it was in your childhood. Ask a friend or a therapist to let you talk about how you were treated as a child. Go back in your mind to the origin of the feelings and really feel it. Break down and have a really good cry over how badly you felt, while a good friend or therapist is holding you and just listening. Once you figure out the real culprit and properly grieve over your pain, you can move on and be free of it rather than disguising it on a daily basis with a bunch of feel good mumbo jumbo. You don't know how much weight you really are carrying until you let go of it. Good luck!
2007-12-24 06:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by bertha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what everyone else says forget what they think try to keep something else on your mind besides what you think others might be judging you on. If you keep yourself preoccupied you won't have time to think about that stuff. You might have a mild case of some type of anxiety disorder so maybe you might want to talk it over with someone.
2007-12-22 16:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by the worr e ore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way sometimes. Try to have a "so what" attitude and gain a little more confidence in yourself. One way you can gain confidence is by looking in the mirror every morning and saying at least 5 good things about yourself.
2007-12-22 16:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!!!!!!!!!
I tell you a little secret..., Even if you were perfect..., people will still judge you. If you let it bother you, you are giving them power over you.
An example from personal experience:
I am the youngest of six kids. I've spent my life trying to please these people and good is never good enough for them.
When I finally realized that, I stopped trying to please them.
You would not believe the weight lifted off my shoulders.
You know what's right and wrong for you so don't let anyone tell you different.
They will always..., and I mean always..., be someone who thinks they know what's right for others.
Stop giving them power!
2007-12-22 16:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by backpackwayne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a look at yourself and understand who you are and be happy with you. If you are comfortable with who you are...............you wont worry about what anyone thinks. Who are others anyway? We all come from the same place and have to learn things. There is no one any better than you...........you just have to believe it.
2007-12-22 16:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Primrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you think of yourself is more important than what others think of you. You are insecure about your appearance or whatever it is you think people judge you about. But, everyone has something about them they dont like, and i bet your a great person inside.
2007-12-22 16:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by Raquel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont let the people judge you.and your friend and you are both different soul and body and his life so why you becoming dependent to him.suppose you are in his place than how would you feel if your close friend always stick to you for covering himself instead of facing the world.past is past you was his close friend and he himself never forget it although he hide the hide.
2016-04-10 21:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the judger instead of the judgee but try to judge others as you would like to be judged, judge by what you DO know about them
2007-12-22 16:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by sprint driver 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know what? they dont matter, who cares of what they think. dont bother yourself too much about this..prove to them that they are wrong, accept yourself and let them live with it..chin up! and besidews its human nature for people to talk about people just dont let them get to you, because if you do, youre only hurting yourself.
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2007-12-22 16:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋