How do you become one of those people that smiles all the time?

Question

You know who I'm talking about.... the one who is always smiling and always seems naturally happy and happy to be around you. They seem to love life and be happy to be alive. You are the most interesting person in the world to you, and their grin is permanent.

I want to be this person. How does one become like this?

Edit: You are the most interesting person in the world to them .

Answer 1

Here is something I published a while back. It originally had pictures in it, so excuse any references to pictures that do not exist. Perhaps this will help. Sorry, it's long. :)

Do you know people who, no matter what, have nothing but negative things to say? Have you noticed these people almost never smile? Have you noticed that their eyes seem dull and lifeless? Do you notice that when they walk, they seem to drag - like walking is the ultimate chore?

Do you know people who are almost always upbeat? Have you noticed that they are almost always smiling? Do you see in these people’s eyes a twinkle or a spark? Have you ever noticed that these people seem to bounce through life rather than walk?

So, what is the difference between them?

I used to think that people couldn’t help it. I found so many excuses and reasons for people to be negative. The main thing I attributed it to was upbringing. I do believe that experience has a lot to do with how people behave, in general. People “learn” how to respond, react, and interact with the world around them. The more you see a behavior, the more likely you are to emulate it. The more you emulate something, the more it becomes your own. In a sense, it becomes a “habit.”

The important thing to realize about habits is that they can be altered, replaced, or stopped. With this in mind, it seems reasonable to me to believe that negativity is a choice. I know it may sound rather simplistic. Perhaps, that is because to some extent it is. That does not mean that it is simple to change.

People spend their whole lives developing habits. Habits become so ingrained that they become almost reflexive. People don’t even realize they do some of things they do because they become “natural.” It can take a very long time and a great deal of practice to change something it has taken a lifetime to develop.

So, with this in mind, I believe that the difference between negative and positive people boils down to decision making. It is directly related to what you choose to focus on. Everyone has a choice. You can decide to focus on the positive or you can decide to focus on the negative.

When you look at this picture, what do you see? Do you see an overgrown lawn that is an eyesore? If it were in your neighborhood, say, across the street or next door, would you get angry and let it affect your mood? Would you curse the homeowner or tenant for not keeping the lawn cut? Would you try to find out why the lawn was overgrown? Would you try to do something constructive to change it? Would you brood over it and do nothing about it?

If you can do something about it, then do it. There is no point in stewing over it. Just take care of it and move on. If you choose to do nothing about it or if there is nothing you can do about it, there is no point in stewing over it. Perhaps you could instead take another look.
Perhaps you could look at it differently. Perhaps you could, upon closer inspection, appreciate it for its wonderful little floral treasures amidst which butterflies dance and dragonflies sing in the morning sun-kissed dew.

I realize this is an odd example, but I used it to illustrate the point that there is something good to be found in almost every thing, every person, and every situation. I know that there are certain situations and people in which it is difficult to find good. People suffer every day. Bad people do bad things every day. I do not mean to down play any of that. This applies to life in general and the every day - day-to-day.

So, how do you go about becoming more positive? It takes practice. You have to replace your habit of seeing bad with the habit of seeing good. Train yourself to look at the world through different eyes. Remind yourself that you have a choice. Even on some of your worst days, you can continue to be in a good mood, if you so choose. Although you may not be in control of everything around you, you do have control over how you choose to react. You have control of what you choose to focus on.

Try some daily exercises. When you get up in the morning, take a moment to sit on your patio and look at the world around you. Find something to look at that you like. Then, move on to the next thing. When I am in a feeling down… negative… I sit on my lanai and observe the world around me. I use as many senses as I can to take things in.

If there is a breeze and the wind chimes are chiming, I let myself get caught up in how relaxing the sound is and how wonderful the breeze feels. If birds are chirping, I think about a mother bird feeding her babies. I will look into the yard and watch the butterflies, dragonflies, and bees frolicking in the dew covered flowers. I do all of this instead of focusing on the fact that I really don’t want to be awake or that the day ahead will be arduous. I focus on the beauty around me.

When I am driving in traffic, rather than focus on the fact that I am not moving, I accept the fact that there is nothing I can do about it. Then, I try to focus on nice things. I may see a car I really like somewhere near me. I may listen to my favorite radio station and immerse myself in the music. I may think about how my children smiled at me before I walked out the door. I remind myself that the time I spend in the car is the only time I really am alone during the day. It is my time to think, sing, or do whatever I want without interruption.

If you remind yourself to do seemingly simple things like these you will eventually find that the process has carried over to other aspects of your life without you having even tried to make it so. It will become a habit. Granted, I do sometimes have to remind myself, especially when things get really tough. It is not possible to be positive all of the time. But you can decide to be positive most of the time.

An interesting phenomenon is that the more positive you are, the more positive the people around you will be. Positivism is contagious just as is negativism. You can set the tone for your experiences.

I could sit around feeling sorry for myself all day... basking in negativity. My life experiences have not all been stellar. Not by any stretch of the imagination. Yet, most people who know me think I am one of the most positive people they know. Why? Because that is how I choose to be.

Answer 2

You start smiling. You choose to smile.

Here, try an experiment. Force a smile. Whether you feel it or not. Force your mouth into a grin for at least 30 seconds. Something starts to happen. You start to feel better. You can fool your body into feeling happy.

Happiness really is a choice. You choose to smile. And the wonderful thing is that once you do, the universe smiles back.Things start to go your way. People are nicer to you. Doors start to open. Once you change, everything changes.

It's really that simple. If you walk around frowning, the world responds to that.

Trust me. I spent much of my life looking down, not smiling. Too shy. Too negative. I used to have people ask what was wrong or tell me that I looked angry/sad/aloof etc. Now I'm smiling more than I ever have & great things are happening.

Try it.

What do you have to lose?

If you want to be one of those people that smiles all the time. Then be one. Just smile. And next thing you know, there's a lot more to smile about!

:)

Answer 3

its pretty simple. key is just don't care. dont care about anything. just think whatever is happening is happening for a reason and is happening for good. and don't get angry on little things. always find positive side to anything, not the negative side. i can't remember the last time i got angry. i have never been in a fight with someone my whole life.
faking a smile will not make you a happy person. just go with the flow and find humor in life. its at every turn of your life.

Answer 4

I'm a chronic smiler. The formula for me is simple: smile all the time. My ego reminds me how much better I look when I smile. My friends joke that when I stop smiling they worry I'm on the verge of losing it.

I'm always on the look-out for a reason to smile. I remembered a funny funeral stories my Dad told us to help me find a smile at his funeral. I sometimes resort to forced smiles to help bridge the gap between good moods. I know I have more fun when I smile.

I'm not emotionally monotonic. I get mad; I get hurt; I get frustrated. Frowns and scowls do nothing to alleviate the pain. When I smile, I envoke the energy that's in all the pictures of me smiling. Sometimes, I even hear the chorus of "When I see you smile" in my head.

Answer 5

The smile I have plastered on my face isn't a grin; however instead, a instantly-face. I did not grow to be glad considering of my smile, there have been many different motives which contributed to my 'happiness' hugely.

Answer 6

I was going to say "Are you on something?" but Leon beat me to it.
So maybe you are just on a natural high.
I would not want any of those people smiling ALL THE TIME at work . It will be very creepy,unless you work for a childrens restaurant..
When people are working, other people expect you to conduct yourself in a business like manner, and smile only when it is appropriate.

Answer 7

I think that you have to do alot of self examination. Why aren't you like that. I think that to be like the person who you are describing you have to have a certain level of inner peace. It can come in time if you seek it out. There is alot of sickness that people have to cure within themselves like lust, envy, jealousy. You have to come to an understanding of what love really is. Whenever you see that someting is wrong with you, you have to work on yourself to overcoming it. When you find that there is something that you don't like in another person, weed it out of youself. If there is something that you see in yourself that you don't like then, change it. Your work is to fix yourself. You want to come to a point where you are perfect as a human being. In time you will learn to be comfortable with yourself. But it will take alot of work on your part, alot of soul seaching. I think that you should go on a journey to learn the truth. Who are you? What's wrong with you? Why are you here? Look into different philosophers. Read Freud and Jung. Check out Alan Watts. Study different religious traditions. Find out how different cultures see life and our purpose here. Read mythology. You will find truth in all of these places. Understanding will come when you are ready for it. What does it mean to be a human being? As you study you will always find new questions. The journey that I am describing is a lifetime journey. Never tire of it. Listen to people. What are they really saying. Learn how to read between the lines. You are an intelligent person. Use your intelligence for a worthwhile purpose. What is really going on? as opposed to what seems to be going on. What is really important in life as opposed to what you have been told is important. Materialism is a trap. Do not get lost in it. We live in a very materialistic society. It is so easy to fall into that trap. Your job is to find out what really makes life worthwhile. You will not find any of the answers in one place. Do not become some kind of fanatic lost in a cult. Get involved with your instinct. Learn to trust it. Listen to your inner voice. What is it telling you? Let your inner self guide you. I heard that the Dali Lama said that the prupose of life is happiness. Seek out happiness. What really makes you happy. Remember that when one door closes another will open. Good luck on your journey. No one can take it for you.

Answer 8

Botox (example: Joan Rivers).

Answer 9

if it's really not you, don't bother. but i would say try to enjoy more things, be more engaged, and maybe vocalize it. gradually increase this and you may end up naturally reacting the way you'd like. Just practice.

Answer 10

By understanding the joy of life.

Even when it gets rough.

Merry Christmas
Jonnie

Answer 11

It is not realistic. Just be yourself, a real poerson, none is happy all the time.