My husbands sister and I have had our issues within the past 10 yrs. I am a shy person who is afraid of opening up to someone because I am afraid of being judged or back stabbed. I will refuse to open up to someone unless I feel it is safe and I know that the person is going to be a loyal friend. It took me 10 yrs to open up to my husbands sister and right after a year of me doing so she decides to do the very thing that I was afraid of (back stab me!) She decides to make comments behind my back and judge me. She didn't think I would not find out about the comments, but I confronted her and she admitted to making those comments that I took offense to. Immediately after I found out I just closed up inside and began to realize how dumb it was of me to even trust her. I felt betrayed, laughed at, and plain dumb to even think that she was a sincere friend. It made me so angry at myself because I let her into my world believing that she would do this to me! Now I feel like an idi
2007-12-22 16:23:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ot!! I feel that I must have the last word and I told her off! I acted on impulse, but it made me feel better knowing that I made her feel so small. I wonder if I did the right thing? I know she never liked me to begin with I just don't know what got into me to trust her and let her into my life! I just cant explain how it be littles me to have made such mistake!
2007-12-22 16:25:33 · update #1
No, you are not wrong! Even though she has admitted to it what difference does that make now. The damage is already done. If you and her has issues before you should have known better. She was probably just waiting for you to do what you done. So she could run and tell. Whatever!! But I do know what you mean.
2007-12-22 16:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by mikk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now that you confronted her and had the last word you should feel better. Chalk it up to experience and be done with her. I am sure she is not going to care. She seems like a no good snake in the grass.
Your husband should have said something to her also. He should stick up for you to his family.
You were not wrong, she was evil.
2007-12-23 00:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to trust people. i had problems trusting people too.
but you just have to try to be friends with them but don't tell them every secret you have.get to know them better and start out with a tiny secret or something about you.
as you get to know each other better then move onto a bigger secret.
don't take everything in when someone says something about you. think to your self they are not all that perfect neither.
2007-12-23 00:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You definitely did the right thing, she thought she could be be stealth, but you caught her in her act, and she deserved what she got, for doing what she did to you. Nice! Thats exactly what I would've done.
2007-12-23 01:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing
2007-12-23 00:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by SKaulitz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋