I am living with a good friend of mine, Ronnie, whom I have known all of my life and his wife, until I can find my own place. Right now I cannot get my own place because I just now started a new job here in Texas. I have been here almost two weeks now, and I have noticed that Ronnie's wife treats him like crap. She is always putting him down, nothing he does is ever good enough for her, any little thing sets her off, she sometimes calls him stupid, yells and cusses at him. Also by having a long talk with Ronnie, he has told me that she has been this way for about 5 yrs now, and that she is getting worse but will not admit that she has a problem. In my own observation, I think she is bipolar, with manic episodes. It hurts me to see him being treated this way and he deserves to be happy in his life. Should he stay in his marriage or should he just go ahead and leave her? If she won't get any help, the marriage will not last.
2007-12-22 16:22:19 · 13 answers · asked by MissBetty50 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally agree with the person who said keep your mouth shut until you move out...then tell him you think he should get help but DON'T tell him you think he should leave her....don't reward a friend for giving you a roof over your head by breaking up his marriage.
2007-12-22 16:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a very serious illness. If you really feel Ronnie's wife is bipolar, then maybe you could suggest to Ronnie that she get professional help. There are meds that can will help her condition. If, on the other hand, she's not bipolar, there's only 2 reasons for her acting like that.... she's very unhappy in her marriage and needs to move on or she's just basically nuts....
2007-12-23 00:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by kajunsauce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's their business. You don't know what could have happened in their relationship. Perhaps Ronnie cheated on his wife five years ago? I know if I stayed with a man who cheated on me I would be a little different after that... Don't say anything. Not your place.
2007-12-23 00:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that if he Loves his wife, he will be willing to help her out. "Thru thick and thin, till death do us part", ring a bell??
I'm not sure that you should put yourself in the middle of their relationship regardless of how you feel it should be going. If they want to make it work, then they will. If she has a problem, she may not know she has one. Maybe there are reasons that she started treating him this way; something he did. Maybe he took her for granted and she got sick of it and started sticking up for herself. You putting your nose where it really doesn't belong is not going to help either of them out. It will only cause animosity and blame towards you.
Just get your stuff together and get out of there ASAP. Good luck.
2007-12-23 00:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say a single word about it until you move out.
ronnie is a grown up.
and so is his wife.
they know whats going on.
now , when you move out. you can say whatever the heck you want but until then. just be afly on the wall.
my best guess. if you say something
you and ronnie will be homeless.
2007-12-23 00:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by get_christie_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My response is that true love is blind and i see no diffrent in your question then a women who's husbannd or boyfriend beats her up and she goes back saying it was her fault and that she loves him and that he will change. What im trying to say is you can only be there and support your friend threw this time and be understanding like a good friend does and let him come to his own decision.
2007-12-23 00:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what you think, feel, see, or do. This is a decision for Ronnie to see, understand, and eventually make a decision on.
2007-12-23 00:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ronnie is doing exactly what Ronnie wants. He's there because he wants to be.
2007-12-23 01:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you being his friend really want to help him but don't say anything until you leave their house or like the person said both of you will be homeless.I know it's hard but it will be alright in a minute he'll get tired of her.
2007-12-23 01:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Robin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows you might be the problem. having someone living with you is difficult when you are married. but i agree you should leave and then say something if you feel the need
2007-12-23 00:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by KooJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋