is it normal to think that my baby is the cutest and has the most adorable chipmunk cheek and sweetest smile and a most unique personality? and other babies looks just like any other baby(I'm a new mom)....and I'm really, super possessive. I don't like it when my mom-in-law tries to hold or cuddle or play or with him. I usually tried to lock my bedroom door so that my mom-in-law can't enter and 'disturb' my baby. I hate it when I have to go to work and leave my baby with her cause I don't want him to be close to her. Already my baby was smiling more to her than me and I always feel superior when my baby reach out to me when he wants feeding. I must sound like a crazy mum, but I can't stop the feeling. I just want my baby to be mine and mine alone.
2007-12-22 15:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by ann95 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think i feel that way because my mother-in-law seems to be always snatching my baby from me whenever he's not feeding. even when my baby was feeding, she won't leave. she will coo and talk and stroke his hair or play with his hand which makes me afraid that he will think that was me. And the instant my nipple pop out from his mouth, my mother in law will grab him, even while my boob is still hanging there. and she will burp him and talk to him and bring him to her room. I think I have reason to be possessive.
2007-12-22 16:19:28 · update #1
................its okay to think you have the cutest baby.....the other feelings, im not sure of.
2007-12-22 15:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by lindzymill 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow I thought I was the only one with MIL issues, my son is 5 mths and I still think he is the cutest smartest baby in the world all mommies probably say the same about their children. The mother in law thing on the other hand I'm still dealing with I don't know what your issues with her are but mine seems to have something to say about my son for example from the day he was born she kept saying that his head was going to become pointy if I didn't take care of it (I had a c-section and his head came out perfectly round) so I don't know why she said that well now I swear every time we see her she says that he has a cone head it's come to the point that my husband doesn't want to go to her house because he is sick of it too, I hate not going to her house but I can't hear anyone criticizing my baby specially his own grandma. By the way his head looks fine to everyone else. I hope you have it better than me Good luck and even if your baby smiles more at her she LOVES you a million times more!
2007-12-23 00:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jaanali's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some issues with your mother in law, and probably they stem from something more than possessiveness of your child. Please work these out for his sake. Also, don't feel jealous or angry of your son caring about other people that just you. Be glad that there are so many people in his life that love and care for him, and that he will be able to grow up to be a loving person.
2007-12-23 00:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL of that is normal for us new moms. Yes, I think my daughter is the most beautiful..which she really is =0) ( he-he) As far as being possessive of your daughter. I think that is normal too. Especially if you have to go to work every day. your baby is around her more and knows her more. He will continue to draw to her until he is older and knows you are mom, because during the day when you are at work...MIL is mommy =( But being possessive about him is normal (I think) and it will fade as time goes by.
2007-12-22 23:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sure, every mom is going to think their baby is the cutest little thing in the world. However, your other feelings should be cause for worry. Why wouldn't you want your baby to be close to other family members?
2007-12-22 23:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Madam,
don't stop ur mom-in-law. let her enjoy with ur baby. they live for the them only. ur baby play very well with grand parents than a toys. you also don't feel jelous on them. if you want to go outside (like shopping), u can leave ur baby with ur mom-in-law without any fear that how my baby is with ur mom-in-law. when u are in house work u can leave ur bay with ur mom-in-law. you enjoy by seeing them but not feel jelousy. so, don't be afraid on ur mom-in-law, they are nothing but guides to us. OK.
2007-12-23 00:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not crazy.
i think my 8 week old son is the absolute cutist in the world!!!
he's so handsome!!!!
i hate it when my mother in law holds my son too. she just bugs the heck out of me, and i dont like the way she holds him
i suck it up though to keep the peace.
2007-12-22 23:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are normal.. good luck with mom in law.. dont worry your baby knows who you are.. he or she has been hearing your voice the most since it could hear inside the Womb.. he or she know who is mommy!.. Good luck
2007-12-23 00:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋