how is suicide selfish??

Question

i only think it's selfish when your a parent because your leaving your kids who you brought into this world behind, but thats it.. i'll add an example in a bit.

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but what if the ones who are suppose to love/car for you, are the ones who are causing you pain without even realizing it?

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not everyone has friends.

Answer 1

everyone has people who love them. it hurts everyone when you leave them, its a completely selfish act, the person who leaves doesnt have to deal with the pain and the loss of losing another. its intentionally hurting the people they love.

Answer 2

Is Suicide Selfish

Answer 3

But you have to consider and realize that suicidal people often genuinely believe that they are worthless and a burden upon the world. They often believe that nobody loves them, or that the world would be better off without them. Everyone might have someone who cares about them, but perhaps they don't realize it or feel they don't deserve to live. Sometimes, due to events such as abuse or death of a loved one, they might feel like there is nothing worth living for or become convinced that the whole world is terrible. Often, there will be signs that they want help, but they may not say it outright because they will be judged with things like "Oh, man up!" "Stop being selfish" or "Go ahead, you won't do it." It's a hell of a lot harder to "man up" then it sounds, and it's really something you have to experience to understand fully. so is it selfish? Perhaps. But then again, aren't we all?

Answer 4

Is it selfish?
Suicide is tragic. It is the result of an illness. An illness that might have been made managable if proper care had been chosen.
Suicide is death due to mental illness.
The mental illness leading up to suicide may be managable with care, but the victim doesn't believe that it is. Mental illness clouds the judgement so that the victims believe they will forever go on in the agony of the situation for the rest of their lives. Suicide presents itself as an end to prolonged suffering.
Selfishness implies intent, and control. It implies that they had the resources to consider others and chose not to. Mental illness changes the meaning of the word -selfish, like stepping into a puddle can change it to a muddle.
Mental illness blanks out the bridge that could lead to happier times and brings the victim down a path filled with potholes and puddles.
A suicidal mind is not able to avoid self serving. A muddle is not responsible for the wet foot.
Telling anyone who needs help and support for their illness, that they are selfish, will add to the makeup of the mental illness. ( in a proper, unstained state of mind that person could see why it is considered to be selfish or not, because of different situations.)
There are diverse and different situations that add to mental illness.... self image... insecurity...guilt..addictions.... and more.
Quote: "What's really selfish is not reaching out to someone who you know is hurting. There's nothing selfish about suicide."
So... How do we go from selfish in a mentality foul up to selfish in reaching out and being ignored, as in help available but refused by the one who could benefit by it?
Another muddled puddle.

Answer 5

I don't think it is selfish, but it depends on how you look at it.

As someone who has attempted suicide and spent a lot of time with other sufferers of various mental illnesses, I know the pain someone has to feel to even consider such a thing. To attempt suicide isn't as easy as it seems. You feel horrible guilt for leaving your loved ones, and your body is fighting against you as it tries to survive.
When you attempt suicide you're no longer in control. Your illness takes control of you and no matter how hard you fight, your illness wants you dead and it intends to kill you. It's a very confusing feeling and it is not easy at all. Neither physically or emotionally.
While it is technically selfish, with the fact that you're doing it for yourself, it often cannot be helped. It is a last resort. And a suicidal person could argue that it's selfish making us stay in a world where we are so deeply unhappy that we would risk everything we have to leave.
Please think before you preach.

Answer 6

I understand where most people are coming from on here. Really I do. But to say that suicide is a selfish act is lacking the consideration the intender is going through. Nobody can judge until they have walked at least a mile in their shoes.

In 2007 I found my neighbor in her apartment. She had been struggling with drugs. She had been in an out of therapy and rehab for years and gave up. Some years before The Feds took her kids away, she had from where she stood no chance of ever reconciling with them after being in the system for 20+ years. She overdosed. I don t judge because I know her story. Saying that she was selfish is being deliberately ignorant of the situation. She gave up.

My best friend struggled from Aspergers and bipolar disorder for years. She had no family left and could not see the point in living. She lost her only child a few years before in an accident. She made several attempts. People (including myself) tried to stop her. Really we did all we could. But she wanted to die. She finally succeeded in hanging herself.

There are several more people I know who did the act of suicide. But to show the examples I above are fair. People give up. We live in a society that does not encourage community like it used to. Loneliness comes in and takes over. Or people give up. It could be many things. We can listen and talk to a person all day. But if someone wants to find away out, they will

Answer 7

Is suicide selfish? To some degree selfish, especially if you are a parent of a young child.
To some degree, it is selfish for others to want a person to go on in pain (physical or emotional).
In either case, it is sad that it should come to that (although I believe in a person's right to decide their fate), usually it is a matter of just not having the "resources" to deal with the pain (friends, loved ones etc...).
It is also said, the suicide is "a long term answer to a short term problem". Unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't help to know the pain is going to go away, it is just so much pain you just want it to stop now.
Suicide WILL impact others, but selfish??? maybe, but I would hope you (or anyone) would try to find a way to live though the pain until some happiness could be found. Suicide may stop your pain, but it just may start someone Else's.

Answer 8

We can sit here and talk about how selfish or sinful it is for someone to commit suicide but unless you've been there you or I can't possibly know what pain they must feel to make that ultimate decision, to actually go that far they must go through deep pain, deeper than what you and I would feel, it's sad I have lost friends and even an ex-husband to suicide and you don't see it when they are alive but then you do see it when they are gone and the signs are so clear but then it's to late, my ex was a parent, I can't imagine him not thinking about his daughter when he decided to take his life, I can almost bet he thought he was doing her and everyone else a favor not thinking he was being selfish, he probably...as I remember him, had all sorts of thoughts and emotions going on that nothing was straight in his mind and was done with it.

Answer 9

I wish no one would ever feel suicidal. Realistically some do. The road of life is not straight and has many bumps and curves, mountains, and valleys. How high will YOU go and how low will YOU go? Will suicide become a question of WHY NOT rather than WHY? Will someone or no one be there? I don't think suicide is selfish, but I do have a daily talk with God about my suicidal ideation. I want to be in Heaven with God and my husband. I don't wish to hurt anyone, I simply died 4 years ago with my body trapped here. If and when the Lord gives permission----it's See Ya Later!

Answer 10

I guess someone would think this is selfish because if those people are causing your pain and they don't know it, this is your choice, the person committing suicide is not giving the other people the opportunity to make it right (or at least try). It's all about that person. They are not considering the things that actually bring to the lives of those around them.

Answer 11

I had a friend who commit suicide over a year ago now.
She was the most selfless person I knew. She had lost her dad and she felt like she had lost everyone and she had a poor way of coping that was getting angry, falling out with people, hurting people, she did not mean to.
She thought that by leaving this world she was doing a good thing for those people. She wrote in her suicide note, "I've been considering this for months, and the reason I'm doing it now is this: it will hurt more now, but in the long run it will be the better option for everyone, trust me."
I know she was wrong, and I know to us it seems ridiculous.
But she'd weighed up pros and cons and to her there was no reason to stay. She made sure each of her friends had someone to talk to and someone they could trust before she left them. She made sure her mum and brother were close and she left before she could "hurt the innocence in her family" aka her younger sister.
I am BEGGING everyone to GET THIS PICTURE OUT OF THEIR HEAD that every person who commits suicide is doing it just for them, as a way out. People who commit suicide feel that they are helping/benefiting other people in what they are doing, and I know people will look at this and say well they're clearly idiots then. But what you've got to realise is that mental illness makes you feels this way. Sometimes you think you can see yourself so clearly and it's not that you think no one loves you, but you think you're causing other people pain, and if you're a good person that is what kills you.
When you look at your parents and your friends worrying about you.
When you get angry at people and upset them.
When you push people away and make them feel bad.
This is what kills you, not that you think no one loves you.
SUICIDE is NOT the "EASY WAY OUT", it's one of the HARDEST THINGS you have to do because you KNOW you will hurt people, but you think you are doing something GOOD for them.
I am fully aware that suicide should not be glorified but I am here right now saying my best friend was the least selfish person ever to live, and you people should not be so ******* judgemental.
Tis all, thanks.