someone pls read,,just trying to keep my kids safe and healthy,,advice pls?

Question

i know it is long but plsss read, my sister in law,her 9 month old,my 3 kids and my husband all live together (just for now) her baby has been sick with the cold/flu for quite sometime (her babysitter is always sick)..today she has had tons of boogies coming out her nose and coughing. so i told my 6 yr old and my 2 yr old to stay away from her until she gets better. i also have a 5 month old and dont want him to get it. later tonight her "sick" baby was touching around my daughters dinner plate and she said "no i dont want to get sick " tro the baby. my sis in law then said "in a mean voice she is not gonna get u sick,where did u get that from". my daughter then said from me and my sis in law stated that my son got her daughter sick from sneezing on her (untrue,her baby has been sick all the time for weeks on and off) hubby said something to her and she started slamming doors and junk all mad saying ohhh so my baby got your kids sick. and is ignoring my children now. would u get mad?

so im supposed to just let her baby get my kids sick like this also? would u let your kids play with another sick child and risk it? thxxx

Answer 1

HE** NO!
1. I babysit frequently and if I'm sick, i'm sure to tell the parents that and i'll refer them to one of my friends
2. If SHE continues to freak out because YOU don't want YOUR kids to get sick thats her problem...have your kids practically sleep with hand sanitizer or something

Answer 2

Yeah, with all of those kids, there are a lot of germs that affect them more than adults (it is their first time getting exposed to many particular germs). Best thing to do: keep them all clean and their toys as well and get rid of the disease carrying baby-sitter. It can also be that the sickness is brought on by teething (my son has been 'sick' since he started getting teeth with a runny nose and slobbering, ha!) or perhaps her child has an allergy (good to find out, reactions cause such things). It's best to come up with a cleaning plan (sanitize these toys this day and so on) together when the kids aren't stressing you out and be compassionate towards your sister-in-law's child. But your sister-in-law needs to lay off of your daughter and stop having an attitude. The back of the hand will cure that one. Sorry, just kidding.

Answer 3

I'm soooo sorry for the situation you're in. Living with family can be rough.
The most important thing to remember is that you need to take care of your children first!! Hurt feelings and anger and all - they are your kids, your responsibility, and you seem to be doing a good job. Keep it up.
My advice would be to let things calm down...then tomorrow set up some house rules. For everyone. About kids, and discipline, health stuff, quiet times, phone calls, etc. It will benefit everyone, not just you. Rules like - if ANYONE is sick, they are to stay away from the kids in the house, ALL the kids, and "passing colds" back and forth can't be used to blame anyone. You're all living together, and it's time to make the best of it.

As a side note, that baby sounds sick. If any child is sick longer than two weeks, they need to be seen by an MD and evaluated.

Good luck and happy holidays! :)

Answer 4

hmm your sister is ........ not a bad word but i cant think of what to put
yeah id keep my kids away nothings worse than having the cold/flu around x-mas and sneezing on your presents
and she should take the baby to the doc if she hasent already
and she shouldnt have scolded your daughter for saying she can get her sick
you guys can actually get sick just from breathing by her
and the baby will get better faster if she is not around a bunch of people

yes i would get mad
but get a steamer thingy i think its called a nebulizer but im not sure that might be something totally different
to help the baby breathe better



also if her babysitter is always sick why is she risking her childs health she should look for a new nbabysitter
and how old is her baby? by the term baby im guessing under a year if a child that young has ben sick on and off for weeks........i think i would take her to the doc becasue that sounds serious

merry x-mas and i hope your niece gets better and that the rest of you dont get sick

Answer 5

If you all live together, then you are all exposed to the same germs. The best thing you can do is to make sure everyone washes their hands frequently. Keep the kids noses wiped so they aren't wiping them with their hands. And keep some Lysol on hand. Spray the toys down and spray areas like doorknobs etc. Make sure if the baby puts things in her mouth the other kids don't play with them until they've been washed. You are all living together, the odds are all the kids will pass colds to each other. Blaming any one person for getting the others sick won't help any thing.

Answer 6

You need to disinfect the entire house every day. If her child is eating the same thing as your children, Why is her child sick? Maybe some supplements. It sounds like your sister in law is stressed out. Sing some songs and relax. People are sicker when they are stressed. The baby probably feels the stress from the mother.

Answer 7

Tell her to keep the germy baby away from your kids until she's better. If that makes her mad, oh well...!!!

My mother in law once insisted that we go over to visit my husband's brother and family. Didn't tell us until it was time to go, that their kids had the measles. I refused to let my kids go, and my MIL was mad at me. She thought you should expose your kids to all the childhood illnesses, on purpose, and get it all over with.

Not a good idea to pass germs from one person to another. Sometimes even common illnesses can have some terrible side effects for some people.

Why does your sister in law have a sitter who is always sick? Ask her that. Suggest that she get a healthy sitter.

Answer 8

this is an extremely difficult situation. i do understand where you're coming from. right now, all you can do is wait it out. i would be very upset too. but, you also have to remember, tis the season...cold and flu season. everything from church, to walmart is a potential contact for cold and flu bugs. right now, all you can do is try to make the holidays bearable.

(my sister-in-law and i once fought over whether or not i should breastfeed my 2 month old daughter... she has no kids, just a dog------so, yeah, you're not alone.) hang in there.

Answer 9

You have the right to want your kids to be healthy and to take all precautions to keep it that way....If your sister in law is getting offended by this....then their must be deeper issues then what is on the surface...getting upset about it won't makes things better....but talking about things in a loving assertive manner is the best way to understand each other and get to the bottom of the issue.....I am sure she is feeling judged as a bad mother but these are her insecurities not yours...but to be sensitive of others feelings is a noble thing to try to practice.....I think it is wrong for her to take her hurt feelings out on innocent kids... they did nothing wrong....she needs to realize your not trying to hurt her feelings for wanting to keep your kids healthy.....I mean how dumb is that....she has other issues.

Answer 10

so ur question is ' would u get mad?"""!!!!. wel I would.

But sensible thing to do would be to make an appointment with the doc for the poor kid. it's ill.

but looks like ur sis in law also got hurt when ur daughter said that to the baby. no mother would take such coment easily. (wel that wat i think) put urself in her position. how would u have reacted???

I think u must show maturity and speak to her about it. i am sure she wants to apologize as much as u want to talk to her about it.

but get the baaby to the doc.

n the 'sick' thing could be from the baby sitter.

cheeers

Answer 11

the only thing i can suggest is to sanitize common areas and toys that are shared, also use hand sanitizer and encourage your children to wash their hands and give them their vitamins, and feed them properly in order to boost their immunity systems. i dont blame you for not wanting your children to be sick especially during the holidays. as for your sister getting mad maybe she should remember that she is a guest in your house and the attitude is not necessary. try to speak to her calmly and if she gets hostile then say i am sorry but this conversation is not getting anywhere and walk away. i wish you the best of luck and happy holidays.