Off the bat I love that my boyfriend games but we've hit some bumps since I bought him WOW last Xmas. Biggest mistake of my life! We've tried having him play at set times and what not but it takes over and he wakes up and goes to sleep playing. On my end, I am a "real world, real experiences" type of gf to him. His comeback to my concerns is that I am being unfair since "multi player" gaming and most of all WOW is his fav game.
I'm literally getting turned off and bluntly depressed over the fact that he's seemingly weighing me or the game even when I'm giving him other gaming options. I'm here to find a middle ground but am at my limit with WOW. Any advice? =/
2007-12-22 14:55:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I appreciate the advice and trust me...I am very sexual! He sees the game as an at home outlet since he's a penny pincher and wants me/us to be able to go out when we do which I thank him for all the time but still he tries to use that as leverage against me it feels like ::sighs::
2007-12-22 15:29:00 · update #1
While the above strip-tease method might be effective, it's only going to get him off of the computer long enough for a quick screw and a sandwich, and he'll be right back on WoW afterwards.
Most effective method: communication. Open, straightforward communication. You hate the fact that WoW interrupts time that you two previously spent together, you're his girlfriend, and if he can't handle you then he can sit in a chair and play WoW single. You have to remind him, you're his girlfriend, and that comes with serious responsibilities.
You have to remind him that relationships are give and take, and that means that sometimes you are going to have to come in the way of his WoW-time. He may not like it, but he will certainly take it seriously.
I don't know (and won't ask) if you two are sexually active, but sex is always a powerful bargaining chip if you're out of options. I would hate to have you resort to that, though. Communication, in 90% of relationship problems, is the best and most effective option.
Mind you, this all comes from a former WoW addict. I played for a good two years before finally giving it up!
Good luck!
2007-12-22 15:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by n3rday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. My Hubby plays a lot but he will get off when I tell him to now. I told him that I was leaving him if he did not give up the game. It caused a huge fight and he ended up throwing the tv in the dumpster and our PS2 and our DVD player. But after he cooled down he agreed to only play the game 2 hours a night and only do dungeons every other weekend. He also went dumpster diving and got back the tv and stuff. I tried all of the talking and sex stuff before. Nothing worked only taking action. I was serious when I said I was leaving him. I was truly sick of him playing it so much. He wants me to play with him but I seriously have tried it and I don't like it. I bought us some games we can play together and that is the key. I understand guys need an outlet for there stress but this game is way to time consuming. So you need to get him off of it completely. You can't be "good' unless you play it for hours. He tells me sometimes it takes him 45 minutes just to get to where he can play the game. What a waste. But at least for now I am dealing with the 2 hours a day. Hope this helps.
2007-12-23 07:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Helping hand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a psychiatrist , not psychologist but i think that some psychiatric subjects must be mentioned. 1) You bf may have a little autistic personalty structure( not an exact autism diagnosis placed with all criteria).2) This structure causes a preservative behaviors.. like computer games or others.3) Not only autism tendency structure but also some everyday life stresses can cause same behaviors.4)A dynamic approach or explanation, he may have an anger against you.. please don't misunderstand.. he doesn't recognize this anger but he may need to be far from you unconsciously... This problem (if he has) can be solved easier relatively.. but according me it must be thought that autistic structure and some dynamics in your life sharing great part by you, are together 5 If you want him to get away from this game (Representative behaviors) you see a professional, a psychiatrist.. Because an organic etiology must be eliminated...
2007-12-23 05:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have some bad news for you, it's not WoW's fault. It is also not your fault (so please don't blame yourself for this). The deal is that if your boyfriend could get addicted to WoW, then he has some problems. The game is just a crutch. It is an escape that can get him through the day. If it weren't for the game, he'd find something else to latch on to in this manner. Maybe drugs, alcohol, porn, or whatever. Maybe he is depressed, maybe he has some kind of difficulty with dealing with emotions, maybe he has anxiety issues. Whatever it is, he needs to find a solution to the underlying problems before he can ever start to walk away from WoW.
I would suggest that he figure out what those issues are and begin to address them if he wants to keep you around.
2007-12-23 06:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do a strip tease, and the beginnings of a BJ. Tell if he wants more he has to join you in the bedroom. If that does not do it. Forget it. You got a couch potatoe in training. You need a better guy.
2007-12-22 15:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by a2z_alterego 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus drop him or wait it out because eventually that game gets boring wow isnt a game its a lifestyle lol i wasted my whole summer vacation one time playin that game i quit though because i realized how much time i spent on it
2007-12-23 03:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Afroman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you lost him....
Let him know if he doesn't stick to the designated times you are outta there.
Sorry... maybe after a few weeks of you gone he might come back to you... at least you know he won't be looking for another g/f.. (he's too absorbed in WoW.)
Good luck.
2007-12-22 15:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Buzz B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have no idea but my boyfriends the same way the only time he gets off is when he goes out with his friends, im never enough.
2007-12-22 15:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-23 16:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol big mistake buying him WoW.
Umm talk to him how it concerns you that his spending more time on WoW then being with you
or just send me and Email with his name and his server that he play's on and ill speak to him about it.
Patty_05111@yahoo.com
2007-12-22 15:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋