I told Stacii her soon to be husband was cheating with our "friend" Erika... Now Stacii is mad at me. Even though Erika announced it was true and now she's having his baby..What a mess.... I told them all to leave me alone and stay away from me..I could not take being in the middle any longer. Do you agree with me..? What would you have done?
2007-12-22 14:30:37 · 54 answers · asked by It wasn't me... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
shes not really mad at you sweetie. shes mad at erika! and she needs someone to take it out on and since you were the one who told..that makes that you. just be there for her tell her you are her friend and you know this is a bad time but you will be there for her with whatever she needs, because trust me she needs someone to talk to right now..dont tell her to stay away she needs you sweetie!
2007-12-22 14:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing, and 'Stacii' has a few problems:
1. A cheating fiance.
2. A cheating friend.
3. Inability to receive bad news without blaming the messenger.
4. A ridiculously spelled first name.
If she has the sense that god gave grapes, she will eventually realize that you were only trying to save her from a disastrous marriage and she will stop being such an immature twit. If not, she wasn't that good a friend to begin with.
2007-12-22 14:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately did the right thing He may be mad at you for awhile, but think about what life is like for you now : He is still alive, and hes not talking to you. Now think what it would have been like if you had not told: He would be dead, and you would be without a friend. At least he is alive, so you have made it through this step. So next you should write him a letter, or a long text explaining why you told tell him that you told, because he was a really good friend, and you were scared, because he has so much life to live left. Tell him that when you told you werent thinking about trying to hurt him, you were just concerned about his safety. Tell him that you understand if he doesnt like you any more, but you would never be able to forgive yourself if you had let him kill himself. Tell him you would really like him back in your life. Good Luck!!!
2016-05-26 00:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by bev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mind your own business because your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you too!!! Don't believe me?!?! Check his cell phone records, including the work cell phone. Check all his email addresses, including his work email. You obviously haven't learned the facts of life but you will. Just in case here they are:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-22 14:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never tell, women never believe it. I would have told Erika that she needs to tell Stacii or I would tell her, and if that didn't work I would have not talked to Erika. But my true friends would understand, so maybe you are better off without all of that drama.
2007-12-22 14:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said something too. I have had to something similar before and the outcome was the same. As time passed on I realized the girl I told about our friend cheating with her fiance... was just really upset and she directed her anger towards me. Needless to say, I got myself out of the situation and had no more communication with any of them. I Know some ppl are saying to keep your mouth shut, but you would want to know something like that. Especially if you were getting ready to make a serious commitment like marriage.
2007-12-22 14:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God yes you shouldve told her. Give her some room to be mad and grieve. If the relationship has ended, she will need some time. Even if the guy is a cheating snake, she will feel dissapointed that its over. Be ready with a shoulder, chances are she will come around.
2007-12-22 14:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacii is just angry that her whole world was a lie, she loved him so instead of being mad at him she decided to be mad at you. Maybe she just felt as if her catagory of friends needed to change, it will be alright, shes hurt and Erika is a back stabbing whore
2007-12-22 14:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are NOT in the middle. YOU STARTED IT!
Usually when people blab information of a sensitive nature, they have an underlying motive. Think about what yours could be. Jealous of Staci? Do YOU have feelings for her husband to be?
No thinking, sensible adult goes around blabbing things that will eventually get other people in trouble. It is not for you to disclose something like that. Period.
Now you feel hurt. And they are angry. I would have kept my mouth completely shut. The couple getting married will eventually have to sort these things out. Now you brought it to the forefront.
What did you think would happen???????
2007-12-22 14:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by ThisIsIt! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing and if she stays mad then you did the right thing by getting away from them all. She may just be dealing with the mess. Similar situation happened with me and my friend also named Stacey was eventually very grateful for me telling her. She would have rather me told her than to know and say nothing.
2007-12-22 15:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋