ok, I love my gf so much, I want to spend the rest of my life with her..and she treats me so well. The problem though is that she is a totally different person when she's drunk. She is so ******* mean to me. Calling me a whore, says that im disgusting and she cant believe she would even touch me! Tells me that she hates me, wants nothing to do with me. That she's moving out, and likes someone else. She is awful!!! When she wakes up, she says she doesnt remember anything. I'm so sick of it but i love her so much. What should i do? Oh, and when we get into these little fights..nothing even happens for her start going off..i dont do anything to cause her to act like that..please give me your advice.
2007-12-22 14:29:09 · 10 answers · asked by redheadchik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop hating Jake!
Anyway, you need to get your girl in rehab ASAP! Give her that much and see where it goes. Otherwise, regardless of your love for this person, it is accepting the behavior. My ex BF used to smoke weed and acted all crazy like that, too. He was replaced soon as he refused to get help. That proved he loved weed more than me.
2007-12-22 14:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW! This sounds exactly like my ex gf of two years in every respect. The problem is, and what I faced, is that she will never, ever change. In my case, my girlfriend's first love truely was the booze. She could have cared less if she hurt me or not because she truely did not want to change. I assume you have had a proper talk with her about it, and if she hasn't made amends, then I can tell you right now she is no different than mine was. You better like her a lot to have to put up with this, because I promise you, nothing is going to change.
Now, this also brings me to my next point. What she says when she is drunk. When my g/f was drunk, towards the end she would talk about how she was always sick of the relationship, wasn't happy, hated me,etc, just like yours does. Of course, when sober, said she didn't mean it. Well, once when drunk, she told me she had met another guy and how great he was, denied it when sober, but sure enough a few weeks later, i'm dumped and she has a new b/f! My point is, the truth comes out when these people drink, so this may (and most likely is) her true feelings coming out, so be prepared for the worst!
2007-12-22 22:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Paul D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was always told that people show their true feelings when they are drunk. But she could just be an angry drunk...who knows. You need to let her know that you don't appreciate the way she treats you when she drinks, and you would like her to stop drinking so much. If she doesn't respect that than you should question the respect that she has for you. A relationship with no respect is a relationship not worth having.
2007-12-22 22:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by blackbuttafly12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has a problem, and she shouldn't be drinking. It could be caused from immaturity or just too much alcohol, but your girlfriend should defiantly not be drinking.
I would take these into a deep conversation with her, and try to find a solution. You shouldn't have to put up with this in reward for having her as a girlfriend.
Maybe she could go to rehab, or simply just drink more. The main thing to do though is to be completely honest and serious with her. I would tell her how it makes you feel when she calls you these names, and that it simply cannot go on.
2007-12-22 22:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say the truth comes out when you're drunk.
Have you confronted her on this? If not, then you should. You should explain exactly how you feel, give her an ultimatum (like drink until your unconcious or me?) and stick to it. PERIOD.
Nobody needs to put up with that type of behavior. If she loves you she will listen. Otherwise, this world is FULL of some great people. You just have to take the time to find them.
2007-12-22 22:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe go to a couple AA meetings with her, sounds as if drinking is a problem. Even if someone doesnt drink all the time that doesnt mean they dont have a prob with alcohol.
2007-12-22 22:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you should be treated that way?
You say you want to spend the rest of your life with her, do you really want to spend the rest of your life being emotionally abused?
Seeing as I don't know where you live, I'm going to suggest looking online or in the yellow pages for a support group for emotional abuse victims.
Even an online support group can help...
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
2007-12-22 22:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mathair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... i wouldn't dump her, just don't let her have so much to drink, and when it get outta hand, just take her home and make her sit down and relax or go to sleep or something...
2007-12-22 22:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by im_not_a_hippie42495 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong or she wouldnt be doing this. Better have a good talk.
2007-12-22 22:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is drinking required here?
2007-12-22 22:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋