We go to a private school and we are both 13. I want to be a good friend and but then i don't know what to do. I mean she is a good friend but she has been through alot during her 13 years and her mom has done the same thing that she is doing. My friend won't even tell her mom and I want to and i tried but her mom just laughed and I tried telling my parents but they won't listen and said yeah right. She only told me and I am not going to tell my other friends cause this friend won't trust me and she made me promise her that i wouldn't tell our other friends. I am scared that she and this guy will waste their life and have a child at just being a child themselves. I really need some advice.Thanks!!!
2007-12-22 14:19:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Number 1 - really good job on your spelling and grammar - you should be proud at age 13, I know that's weird of me to say, it's just refreshing.
Number 2 - when a 13 year old girl is having sex - there has to be some serious self esteem issues going on with this girl. She must be missing a male figure in her life, or doesn't have a good example of one. Be her friend, don't tell your peers about it, it sounds like she is going through a lot and really doesn't need that kind of drama on top of all of that. There really isn't a lot that you can do - you already tried the telling adults thing and it doesn't sound like you have a lot to work with on that end.
2007-12-22 14:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she is actually really doing this, or is she just addicted to story-telling and drama? The reason I ask is that, if her mom laughed, and your folks won't listen, it makes me wonder if she hasn't told a lot of stories before. I'm not saying it isn't true, just suggesting another thing that might be going on. The other thing you could do, if you are certain or pretty sure, is talk to a counselor at school, since no one else will listen. You are a good friend!
2007-12-22 22:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey YOU ARE NOT ALONE !!!!!!!!!!!! I also am 13 and i have your same problem. You need to tell your friend what you just wrote down.I know it might be scary because I just did the same thing yesterday.I said " Hey, you should wait until your married to do stuff lik that.you can be mad at me all you want but that won't change the facts.There are so many risks.I don't want you to get hurt." and she was sorta mad at me for a little while.But eventually(in which i mean today she called me and said she was happy that I was concerned.If your friend still wants to have sex with her bf then tell her to at least take birth control and wear protection.
2007-12-22 22:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by Christine Lucas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm also 13 =)
OMG that is totally wrong, people should wait untill they are older.
I think that you should tell your friend, she'll understand if she is a good friend. i agree that she is going to waste her life is she ends up having a child because then the guy will leave her..
You have to tell her what she is doing is wrong. Try and get through to her mum or dad. even if they dont listen tell your parents to speak to them about it.
2007-12-22 22:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good friend to be concerned! My friend is 12 now and she had sex a few months ago... (she's a hoe. lol) And I worried to. I'm 13 and I was scared she'd get pregnant! It was right that you told an adult but VERY stupid that they wouldn't listen. If she does end up pregnant and with a child then you tried to warn her mom but her stupid mother wouldn't listen!!!
2007-12-22 22:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, yes i know that wrong what shes doing but dont be a snitch and tell her parents but then again your 13 trust in 2 years you will look back and think what you were doing.
your friend..her reputation will go up its a given she will learn from her own mistakes, i went through it everyone does.
just when your friend needs you be there for her.
2007-12-22 22:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jmac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she done it yet, or is she planning to? I would first try asking why she wants to. Does she think her boyfriend won't like her if she doesn't? Ask her if that's the case, does she really want a guy like that? Make sure she knows the danger of having babies that young. Then I would ask the counselor to talk to her.
2007-12-22 22:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by omygosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think really the boy she's ****** jus goin wit her cuz he wants some poonanny he dont really like her he probably pressured her into it but dats da new fashion now days I've notice 13-15 r giving it up let ur friend do wut she do and b a hoe js dont let her encourage u to do da same but it seems u kno better
2007-12-22 22:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by ($$$] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONVINCE, CONVINCE, CONVINCE!
you must try extremely hard to get her to tell her mom. after you are physically active you've gotta start having 'special' physicals at the doctor for any dangerous STD's, or babies.
tell her everything that could POSSIBLY be going on in her body, scareher into telling her mom and out of having sex- for at least another 5 years!
best of luck :)
2007-12-22 22:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by jdm-ox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I had the same problem last year in middle school, but now I am in highschool, infact wait til' highschool and **** gets even more ****** up.
Not only are people having sex, they are smoking and drinking while doing it too!..
People get promiscuous as ****, so enjoy your high standards because many people will drop them soon.
2007-12-22 22:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋