Should I have sex?

Question

Im 14 and I've tried sex a couple of times, and it hurt. But now my boyfriend has asked me if I want to try again. I think Im ready but Im not sure if i want to cos last time it hurt.


-Dakota

Btw.... I dont have my period so I cant become pregnant... and he doesnt have an std

no he got checked by a doctor

Answer 1

just do it with me

Answer 2

youre only 14 yrs old...do it now and i garentee you will regret it. also it always hurts the first time for most ppl, but if you are not ready it will usually hurt way worse since you are so tense, also dont think you cant get pregnant just because you havent started your period yet..bad mistake missy. another thing, he may tell you he has no STDs but that doesnt mean he doesnt...boys lie, expecially boys who sleep with 14 yr old girls. and lastly if you are asking ppl on the internet if you should do it or not then no...you obviously should not. anyways so all in all
- u r WAY to young, alteast wait another cpl yrs or so
-you are obviously not ready.....
QUESTIONS?
- can you raise a child at 14
- r u ready to deal with STDs at 14?
- are you ready to face any other consequesnces of sex including emotional attachment, pain, heartbreak, and other things that suck along the way
-can you talk to your parents about having sex?

if you answereds no to ANY of these questions( not including the ones i didnt ask cuz im tired of typing) then you should definantly not have sex.

but if you so decide to be stupid and actually have sex...dont be a total moron and atleast use protection EVERYTIME!

anyways wells good luck, i reallly hope that you make the right choice and it all works out for you either way.

Answer 3

No, you are not ready. What happens once the relationship ends, as almost all teen romances come to an end. Are you ready to support a child? I didn't think so. Yes, you CAN become pregnant just before your first period. Many girls have fallen into that trap. And you don't know if he has an STD, cuz you aren't around him all the time. You only know what he tells you.

Doesn't matter if he got checked. He could have gotten checked yesterday, and then contracted something today. You really don't know if he's doing other girls.

Answer 4

Dakota, I think you should wait. Your attitude tells me you aren't ready. You do realize that some girls get pregnant before their first period. Right before it happens, a few unlucky girls have sex before they can even have it. So don't think no period makes you immune. And how do you KNOW he does not have an STD? He just told you? He may not have told the truth, or may not even know. You are 14. You are not ready for any possible consequences. At the very least, wait 2 or 3 years. Then, you will be more mature, and be in a better state of mind to have sex.

Answer 5

I see nobody has explained to you why you can become pregnant before you start your period, so I'll tell you.

Your first period comes about 2 weeks *after* your first egg has been released. Therefore your first period tells you that you didn't get pregnant the first time you *could* have done. And if you do get pregnant with that first egg, you're not going to know about it until much later than most women, b/c you won't know you've missed a period. Therefore you won't be getting pre-natal care early on, which is a big reason teen pregnancy is riskier than for older women.

But remember this for general information - if you're not sure whether you want to have sex, it's your brain telling you you're not ready.

Good luck, and ignore those above making judgemental observations. You're not a whore even if you do have sex, and you don't have to wait until you're married unless *you* want to wait.

Oops, I forgot to say - if your boyfriend is pressuring you into sex you don't want, ditch him! He's not worth it.

Answer 6

Yeah, sure. Go ahead. Have fun!

What difference does it make what I say? If you have the idea of sex with this douche bag in your mind, you are going to eventually have sex with him or someone else. If you have already tried it, you are most defiantly going to do it again. There is no stop to it, cause even if you think it "hurts", if those punks can pressure you into sex, they are going to ride you like a freight train all through high school.

This idiot will probably seizure on you for five minutes then dump his load and he doesn't know what he's doing so it's not even going to be even a pleasure for you. Why even give him the time of day if he can't even not bring sex up? Forget him and all these other little boys who think they can use you as their blow up doll.

Answer 7

If you're on the internet asking complete strangers for advice then NO you're not ready. AND you yourself admitted that it hurt the first few times you tried it. You are putting yourself at great risk if you do choose to have sex. Your boyfriend said he got tested and says he doesn't have an STD but the question is do you trust him? You're old enough to know right from wrong, and make decisions for yourself so the ball is in your court: make the right decision.

Answer 8

I know you don't wanna hear it, but no.
I'm 15, and trust me... you WILL regret it if you do this now.
And really, you won't be in love at 14. It's pretty uncommon. And you shouldn't be having sex if you don't have VERY strong feelings for the person. And if you really truly feel you're ready, go ahead. But I wouldn't recommend it. It's not a good plan. Some guys use you just to get in your pants. And those guys are jerks. And you don't want to be the girl who gets hurt just so the guy can get some @$$. So wait until this guy PROVES he loves you.

Answer 9

If you have to ask, the answer is obviously no. You're 14, barely a teenager. You shouldn't submit to peer pressure and do things that hurt you. You'll be ready for sex when you grow up and not have to ask strangers whether or not you should have sex.

Answer 10

You don't have your period? You mean to say you haven't even gone through puberty yet and you are wanting to have sex? For cripes sake don't do it. I am so tired of reading questions from little girls about when they should have sex, because if you have to come to strangers to ask the question then NO, a thousand times NO you aren't ready to have sex.

Answer 11

I agree with Mrs. Nikki Sep (The One and Only) that discussing this personal matter with total strangers doesn't show that you are ready to start having sex at age 14. You don't want to make this something you regret and there are many consequences that come along with having sex at that age...