How to get over regrets, bad decisions and the past?

Question

I let stress get the best of me, I lost my girlfriend of three years my apartment my job and now I am living back at home at the age of 26 and it is all my fault. Its been three months and it seems like I will never get a job and I guess I am asking is how do you keep your head up when you can't get over the horrible mistakes you have made and when your at a low point in your life?

Answer 1

Learn from the past and look to the future. The future may be a bit blank looking for now, but the past can be a roadmap. Even if it is a roadmap of things not to do again.

Sounds like yours was a minefield, but it doesn't have to be that for you in the future. Finding a job is the first step and for that you need to be positive about your future. Your fear and stress show through to the interviewers. Put your best face on and start over. Many of us have done it, you can too.

There was a point in my life not too long ago where I was recently divorced, had no job, no place to live, 30,000 in debt and no money. I managed to get a job for 9 bucks an hour and started over. Doing pretty good now, but it was scary then.

Answer 2

I went through the same thing. I even had a boyfriend that would put me down over some choices I had made before I met him, and they weren't even that bad, but he really put it in my head like I was some horrible person and often I would panic and feel sick. I then realized that I must had made those choices for a reason, and everything you do in life is a learning experience. You are here to learn. If we knew everything we would all be the same and would live a very boring life. Even if you are in a low point in your life, it is up to only you to get back on top of things, so don't let anything drag you down. Things aren't that bad, they could always be worse. Be thankful that your parents took you in and that you weren't thrown out on the street like some people. Some people don't even have family they can rely on or even ask for advice, they are all on their own, and any mistake they make is one they will have to fix all on their own. Be thankful for what you have, even if you lost some of the things you love. You will only live on, so why not live life happy. Good Luck.

Answer 3

...sounds like you have hit bottom and the only way to go now is UP. Continue to look for work...having a job gives you a purpose for getting out of bed everyday. Just focus on that goal. Lend a helping hand at home with whatever you can. It will help you to feel good about yourself. Do some daily journaling.......you will be amazed at how this helps.
Forgive yourself. At age 26, believe me you have plenty of time to start again...just be sure do it smartly! The best things about making huge mistakes in life is to LEARN from them and apply what you have learned as you move forward in life.

Answer 4

Consider speaking with someone - maybe more than just a friend or family member, such as a Social Worker, Psychologist, Clergy member, etc. You could also look for information on "resiliency," which is the ability to bounce back from life's disappointments. If you've been feeling really down for awhile, why not try a questionnaire (there are many online) to see if you might be clinically depressed? There is a lot of mental health info out there; make sure you go to reputable sites. Try nimh.nih.gov (nat'l inst. for mental health)...good luck! You're making a step in the right direction!

Answer 5

You learn to accept things for what they are. You decide that you can't change what is already done. You know that you do not have to continue to repeat the same mistakes. You trust that you can move forward, though it may not move at the pace you would like. The job market is not easy right now. I have gone through the same kind of situation where I had to move "back home." It's humbling. It also reminds you that there is a foundation underneath you and you can continue to move ahead with the support of the people who care about you.

Answer 6

hey im really sorry,..seriously.
i dont wanna overload you w my pity esp if you hate pity so here's my advice:)
first of all you should definitely move on and forget about everything bad that has happened to you in the past. of course you should remember the good times ! :D
and secondly you shouldnt worry too much about bad things that have happened in the past because hey. guess what? there is NOO such thing as a time traveling machine, except for in movies of course! :] , and hence, you will NOT be able to travel back in time and change whatever you wanna change so there is no point to fret all day about stuff like this. &people always learn from the past.
and third, nothing good will happen to you in the future, no offense, if you dont dream or have confidence. cause if youre confident that youre gonna get a job, then YAY! you probably will. if you let yourself feel down all the time and have ultra low self esteem most people can see taht, you know. and WHOOSH people LOVEEEE confidence! <3:)
and cuatro, um its factual that everyone has A low point in their lives one time or another so sooner or later if you actually believe and hope that your good days WILL come back, then YAY mark, youll be living an awesomeee life ! :D
and five, like there really isnt much else to say because its basically you that makes your life. i mean no one can really make your life better unless of course you like get up and forget the horrible past and movee on .
youre not the only one that faces these kinds of stuff so dont feel down so much. i probably will face what youre facing one day too,..sadly:(

soo yepp hope i wasnt too harsh and i TOTALLY hoped i helped ^^ g luckkk
woah. i wrote sooo much ><

Answer 7

Let you mistakes be a lesson for the future. Close the door on what has gone wrong in the past. Try to lock it away and don't think about it. Instead, concentrate on what you plan to do next.

A mentor once told me "always do something." It means, do not let trauma or bad events stifle you, but do something, even if it seems trivial.

Answer 8

You decide at some point that every moment you waste thinking and worrying about changing the past is preventing you from living in the present. Decide NOW to pick yourself off the floor and start getting back up.

Answer 9

I've been in worse shape.

You pick yourself up by your boot straps and you move on-period.

Many people have it much, much worse.....consider yourself lucky...you can now make a fresh start.

Sitting home is the WORST thing that you can do when you are depressed. You WILL find another job-- a BETTER one.....you WILL find another girl---yes, a BETTER one.

Just get up and do it. Don't look back.

Answer 10

hi,um i would answer your question here, but its not that sI'mple im currently studying these types of things so if you need some help..(duh) then contact me through email or my yahoo messenger...luv,the Cheshire cat.