If a man and woman marry but she has a child already (who she is the primary caregiver for) and wants to change the childs last name to her new husbands does the childs real father have to agree? Or does she just switch it over? And if her new husband wants to adopt the step child as his own is that only possible if the real dad relinquishes his rights as the dad?
2007-12-22 13:39:18 · 8 answers · asked by charli_red1218 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no no no im not about to do that!!! just wondering!!
2007-12-22 13:52:15 · update #1
Yes the real dad must be in agreement. Guess what? He ill never agree to it. The children are the decedents of many many people with that last name. This is what will keep your ex from allowing the change. There is not a court in the world that will allow this without his approval. The same goes for the adoption. The only way a Dad would do this is if he cares for $ more than the kids and wants to be free from child support. I would advice against this to the new husband. I know of 4 guys (Yes, 4 of em) that adopted the kids of their wives and then she asked for a divorce, guess who had to pay for child support? Yep, the new husband, who isn't the real father! And in case you have thought of this, listen up! So many women have been sent to jail for fraudulent marriage and adoption intentions and their new husbands clean up. The kids now have no father and are sent to social services. They rarely come out of it normal! Leave well enough alone! Let the dead beat dad continue to be the dad. If this guy is really a good substitution, it won't matter who is the legal father.
2007-12-22 13:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a safety issue for a child with a really bad father i don't think i would ever change there name. They were brought into this world with that name and it should remain until they die. the child's age has everything to do with it also. It's one thing if they are a toddler but it would be a big deal if they were in school already or in there teens. It could give them an identity crisis if they were older and knew they were having there name switched. I would think the father will have to give you permission unless he is bad or incarcerated for an extended period of time. A real father would always have some form of visitation rights also....unless as i mentioned there are special cirumstances.
2007-12-22 13:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by flatfootfred 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with that ... how mind-boggling for the child!
And, I think the real father would have to sign over his rights in order for the step father to adopt the child.
2007-12-22 13:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to have the permisson of the biological father to change the name - and it is extremely wrong of you to request that he relinquish his rights just because you are remarried - you shouldn't be considering replacing him as the father. That also, would have to to be something he agrees to if you chose that route.
2007-12-22 13:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need real dad's permission for both name change and adoption.
2007-12-22 13:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father has to agree to it.
2007-12-22 16:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of your toddlers gets harm in case you adjust your call, on the different hand i do no longer think of your new husband might savor u making use of yet another guy's call whilst wearing his ring. while you're so puzzled approximately all this why do no longer you adjust your call back on your maiden call.
2016-11-24 20:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do that if I were you.
2007-12-22 13:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋