2007-12-22 12:58:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget the counselor and communicate in English over Chinese food.
2007-12-22 13:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a Chinese person. There is no such thing as "Chinese" marriage counseling as far as I know. Everyone faces the same issues no matter what the culture.
Counseling is a good idea, though. I am guessing you are Chinese. I would suggest that you decide in advance to honor both cultures equally. Asians are really tight-knit in the US, and it seems like all of our friends and family are Chinese. The kids do not have any of their Swedish-Norwegian heritage, and that isn't really fair. Reach out to other biracial couples, it will help you on your way.
Ask at your local church, they will usually have counseling, often times it is free. A good book to purchase (you can buy on amazon.com) is called "Love and Respect" this is a good book to read on the subject.
Good luck, and you will need to learn the art of compromise. Maybe you can talk to counselors of both races.
2007-12-22 13:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise and get counseling from both a Westerner counselor and a Chinese counselor....
2007-12-22 13:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by Chinese counseling, but I'd still suggest going for both. I can't see them being all that different- all good counselors should encourage communication, regardless of their ethnicity and background.
2007-12-23 11:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not do both have a session with a chinese therapist and then go to someone he wants. If he is willing to go to marriage counselling for the marriage and for you let him go where he wants but also go where you want. 50/50.
Consider doing this one week go to his person the next week go to yours.
2007-12-22 13:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what race you are, religion, bored, cheating, money problems, it doesn't matter. The second both of you said "I Do" your loving relationship was over. Some people realize that in weeks and get divorced, some lie to themselves for years. You just realized it!!! Stop lying to yourselves. No kind of counseling in the world is going to change that or make you fall in love with each other again. Once you finally get divorced learn your lesson and never get married again. If you are lucky enough to fall in love again DON'T GET MARRIED!!!
2007-12-22 14:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
does it really matter? as long as you go to counseling, sit down with your husband, make a pro and con list, who ever gets more on the list, wins?
2007-12-22 13:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by tgdjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the West first. We ARE quite intelligent on what goes wrong. You have my very best wishes for a good outcome. Hugs, Gina C.
2007-12-22 13:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does it matter what ethnicity they are--as long as they are a good counselor and can help u with ur marriage
2007-12-22 13:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do both to make both of you happy.
2007-12-22 13:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋