for the past...eh about 3 months i have been completly obsessed with trying to figure out my sexual orientation. right now i am calling myself bi, but honestly im really confused. ive been talking to friends about it nonstop, taking online quizes, watching tons of movies with lesbianisum in it. im so intreeged, i think i might be a lesbian, but idk. i cant stop thinking about it and its drivin me crazy. i jus want to know what i am.
when i was a young teenager [age10-12] i made out with 4 girls before i even had my frist boyfriend[age13-14]. and i was so confused then i had no idea what was going on, so everytime i did it i would go brush my teeth cause i didnt know that something like that was possible. but then as i got older i relized that there is homosexuality, and now i cant stop thinking about it.
ive kissed 4 girls and 2 guys in my entire life. [17 years] and idk wats goin on. im so confused.
2007-12-22 12:44:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
that is a question that plagues a lot of people who have bisexuality. I myself had the same problem, because you don't know what category you fit into, and it is frustrating not knowing exactly. Sometimes you wish you could jsut be gay because then you know for sure what you are. I am 21 and It took until this past year to figure it out. don't worry about it too much, just do what makes you happy. It will frustrate you to no end trying to figure it out, so just do what feels good. Not everyone is stictly bi, straight or gay. Orientation is on a spectrum and you just may be somewhere in the middle, or somewhere more towards gay then straight. don't worry about it, jsut be happy, and it will come to you someday.
2007-12-22 12:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress yourself out trying to label yourself. You will come to a conclusion in your own time. If, at the moment, you like both guys and girls, be happy with being bi. Maybe later you'll realise that you don't like guys after all and are a lesbian, or that you are bi with stronger same-sex attraction.
Relax. Do what you feel is right for you (date a guy if you want, date a girl if you want). Don't feel that just because you've labelled yourself "lesbian" you can't date a guy if you fancy him. The purpose of these labels should be to free people, not constrain them.
Be yourself. Be happy. Have fun. Don't worry so much - especially about things that you can't control and really aren't that important (i.e. the label).
2007-12-22 20:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. It's fine. When I was maybe...10? 11? Somewhere around that I used to take online quizes non stop to see if I was a lesbian. Over and over. And every time it said yes. But I...didn't really...want to be i guess. I was afraid but I met the most amazing girl (14 yrs old) and that was when she convinced me that it's okay and I believed her. I'm bi. I kno I am. And i kno it's okay. Just think about it this way. Do you like guy? Do you like girls? If you chose one over the other, you're gay. If you chose both. You're bi. Easy as that.
:D
2007-12-22 21:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get there. You just need answers that maybe you are not getting from your friends. Start talking to people who are going through what your going through right now. I have found some new friends that are helping me along. Follow your heart, and the rest will follow.
2007-12-22 21:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I know what your going through because I feel like that too. But there really is no real way to figure out sexual orientation, you can tell your self to like boy or to like girls but you body/mind will figure it out and theres no worries. Either way your still going to be you
2007-12-23 10:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by Hanna G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters you were way tooooo young to start having sex when you did.You probably confused yourself by doing that-But i say to you -Live your life to the fullest and let what ever just be.you will find out what your hearts desire is in due time-you are still young.
2007-12-22 20:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are definitely in the same boat as me :] im glad someone else is going through what i am right now... if you want you can email me at volleyball_hottie0013@yahoo.com :]
2007-12-23 22:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to figure out if I'm gay or bi to i have a wife that don't now
2007-12-22 20:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by DAVID E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess about it. Sexual preference is a natural thing, just relax and it will sort itself out.
2007-12-22 20:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with what feels natural. u dont have to be one thing or the other... just be ur self.. u dont need a name tag.. ive been bi for awhile and i love it.. e mail me. lets be friends
marta_f4f@yahoo.com
2007-12-22 21:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by marta_f4f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋