My wife is mentally balanced during the day but becomes psychotic every night by way of alcohol, what can I do

Question

She has been mentally unstable her whole life according to her family and friends. It's becoming intolerable.

I wish that I had some groundhog to put on the smoker right about know.

We're both D&P Alcoholics. They never seek help.

Owen E, you are on the right track but, we croosed that bridge over a year ago. BTW divorce is not an option. We are hooked for life.

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to live in fear of your wife's reactions to her addiction. Alcohol is a dangerous drug, (sounds like you are well aware of this), and it can literally become a poison to some people. Has she talked to a doctor about this? Her liver could be failing, or weak, making it impossible for her body to process alcohol, causing accelerated brain damage? I'm not a doctor, but I've seen the effect of alcohol on some people worsen over time.., good, balanced people who were reasonable even when drunk, start to become aggressive and unable to process rationally over time. Most importantly though, if you don't feel comfortable in your own home, you'd be better off alone. You are not just fighting your wife's mental instability, you are fighting alcohol, and this can be one of the toughest battles of both your lives. Is it worth it?

Answer 2

Time for an intervention tell her that you can no longer put up with her behaviour when she drinks. So it is either she stops drinking and gets some help or you have no other choice but divorce. She needs a wake-up call you have put up with this crap to long.

Marriage should be happy and everything it appears you have to much alcohol in the house time to clear the shelves.

If there is not a stash of alcohol then she would have to go to the store all the time which would be frustrating.

I think there is too much convenience for her to drink and this is where you have a problem. If she is unstable when she drinks you must tell her this and that it stresses you out and is becoming more and more bothersome.

Answer 3

You may want to talk with her family and get more detail about her drinking, like when she started. Being in that situation myself a year ago, (sober 1 year on Jan 5, 08), finally reached the bottom and checked myself into rehab. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself and my family.

There may not be a whole lot you can do until she bottoms out. Try to be supportive, but if it is getting way to intense, you may want to leave her for a little while so she can think about the priorities in her life.

Hope this helps!!!! Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 4

im not trying to be ugly, but your wife is not mentally balanced during the day. she may not be in a rage in the day light hours, but she still has a chemical imbalance, or should i say dependencey. ive allways been told that no one can change another, they have to want a change in themselves and their lifes. so far ive found this to be true. my husband is a alcoholic, ive been down the roller-coaster ride for almost 18 years. and i promise that ive heard so many promises to stop drinking and so many excuses of why he does until it makes me sick anymore. we have been to meetings, detox centers, hospitals, etc...i could go on, but theres no point. im sorry to say if she doesnt stop, and you have the courage to walk away, emotionally you will be better off. living with a alcoholic is like living in he##, let alone the verbal abuse, some become physcially abusive. the verbal abuse will drive you insane.ive learned to walk away from the verbal abuse and just keep my mouth shut, because you can not reason with a drunk. my husband has quit on sevral ocassions, but eventually there is always some reason to drive him back to drinking. and then he promises to quit again and does so for 2 to 4 weeks. threre is a posibility that she is also bipolar with her alcohol problems. talk with her while shes not drinking and see if you and she can consult with a doctor to find out whats really going on with her emotionally. i do hope that you and your wife will find a way to resolve this situation, but if not, pack your glad rags and move on. at this point in my life if have to live with my situation, i hoped for a long time that he would see the light, but now i have cancer and feel as if this is the rest of my life and he has been through all of this with me even though he has been intoxicated alot of the time. good luck!

Answer 5

I'm unstable 7 days of the month. lol jking
AA or get her to talk to someone professionally..

ETA: Well, you say she won't seek help and divorce isn't an option so basically, you'll have to live with it (not to sound harsh). I don't know what else to say.....

Answer 6

Get her to go to AA.