So my friend/neighbor thinks its fun to make fun of me, humiliate me, insult me, etc., and it has really started to bother me... I've asked her to stop but she just calls me a wimp and makes fun of me some more. She was really nice when I met her and says we're friends and that she's like with all her friends, so I think she just means it all as a joke, but I don't know.
I know I shouldn't let this get to me, but she really made everything I don't like about myself blatantly obvious so now I feel terrible and my self esteem is veritably shot. She said I need to be tougher and more assertive and that somehow she is helping, but this can't be the best method...
I don't really have a whole lot of friends and most of them will be out of town all throughout the holidays so I'd rather find a way to fix things here than to just walk away and be lonely for the remainder of my break. I must really seem pathetic right now but I have to do something because I hate being bored and alone
2007-12-22 12:26:25 · 6 answers · asked by Alex T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The cliche "With friend like that, who need enemies?" comes to mind. The person you described does not sound like a true friend. I advise that you make new friends and forget about her. If she really cares about you, she will treat you better.
2007-12-22 12:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by just wants to know 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not pathetic at all, In fact it takes a lot of guts to put yourself out in the open like this..
I agree that talking to them is the first step. You need to explain to her that what she says is very hurt full. If talking with her doesn't help anything then simply know that you tried. Sometimes people change for the better or for the worse.. You can at least find comfort in the knowledge that you did all you could to make things right...
As far as friends have you tried my-space?? It offers a wide pool of friends and is a great way to meet people like yourself and who knows maybe you will be able to find all the things you like about yourself again and focus on making them even better..
Happy holidays and best of luck with this.. I truly hope that things work out for you.
2007-12-22 20:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Gangsta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright. she wants u to be tougher? make fun of her. crank on her hair, and the way she dresses, and talks (u get what i mean) the way she treats u, do to her. piss her off if u have to. and if she gets really mad tell her thats how u feel when she messes w/ u. that should give her a better idea on how u feel, and how she should change. but if u dont have that in u atleast be tough enough to tell her that she's nothing but a bully with low self-esteem if she feels the need to make fun of u, tell her that she has nothing better todo than just sit around making fun of ppl, and that she's pathetic. hun its better to be alone than to be bullied. ure hurting urself by allowing this girl to treat u this way. u can always find a new friend trust me.
2007-12-22 22:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but u gotta leave her alone. when she sees that u dont' wanna hang, she'll ask y, and then u can tell her y
2007-12-22 20:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by cherryblossoms 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask dem y der r ol doing those things to you.,
2007-12-22 20:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by khaurie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tal;k to them about it
2007-12-22 20:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋