Does is bother you if your husband goes to strip/lap dancing clubs?
opinions please on the above. I hate it when my husband does this and i feel really inadequate. how do you cope with it?
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2007-12-22 12:21:26 · 20 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES!! I would go mad if my fiance did this. I totally understand how you feel because i would be the same. Try talking to your hubby and tell him that you dont like it and how it makes you feel.
If he refuses to stop going you could always go and see some male strippers!! See what its like for him to have the shoe on the other foot!
2007-12-23 00:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you're not going to get him to stop, if he has already been going. He well go regardless and will find a way to get there. This is also about your own insecurities and he should respect that to some degree. I read some answer, "about you giving him a lap dance and he wont go out." That just stupid. This came from a women who head is in the sand, that is a myth. A man wants what he doesn't have. It's not about the act, it's about; "different." He has you he doesn't have these other women. The thrill of the hunt, the chase, not what you already have. If he doesn't stop and respect your wishes then you should leave him, because he will not change and will continue with this and will fight you tooth and nail to continue. he'll go behind your back. This is a battle you can't win.
2007-12-22 20:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by wind champ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really not a big deal. I used to go with my husband to the clubs and for his birthday one yearl, I bought him a lap dance. That was early on in our marriage and we thought it was a sexy thing to do.
Now that we have been married 14 years and have a 7 year old, we just don't have the time or really the interest in those places anymore.
Go with him and see what it is about. You may not feel so bad about it and have fun with him.
2007-12-22 21:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by LAK 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am old school and i believe when u take your vows and said "forsake all others" that it didnt say "forsake all others BUT the girls in the strip clubs"
Now if my husband went for say a stag party , and it was a once in a blue moon deal and he always made me feel that i could be secure in our marriage then i wouldnt mind so much but if he made a regular occurance out of this, then i wouldnt cope, id be gone.
2007-12-22 20:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It wouldnt bother me if it was once or twice for a stag do or something, but if he was arranging to go frequently then I wouldnt be happy because he wouldnt be respecting my feelings. Stand up for yourself and how you feel. Don't cry or shout - just tell him how you feel. If he doesnt understand, explain EXACTLY. Both husband and wife's feelings matter in a relationship. Why does he need to go - ask him!
2007-12-23 09:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and deal with it. If that is all he is doing wrong it is a miracle. In my life experience here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-22 22:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him if he doesn't stop going to these places that the marriage is over.
Married men should not be lusting over half naked woman.
If he loves you he will stop going and if he has pron tell him he loses it or he loses you.
You not controlling him your just trying to protect yourself from the crap this can bring into a relationship.
I have been married over 8yrs and do not do this. I feel it is very disrespectful to the one your with and very degrading to woman in general.
That is me though this type of behavior has to stop he is basically saying your not enough for him. This has nothing to do with trust or jealousy you just want a man who can love you and only you.
You should not have to cope that part of his life is over he is now married and commited and devoted to you.
He needs to be reminded that he is no longer single and you will not stand by a guy that goes to these establishments.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-12-22 20:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I divorced my husband over his refusal to stop going to these places. It doesn't matter if you are the most gorgeous woman in the world, some men will do this, and I find it very, very close to adultery. What gives the married man (with children) the right to have naked women squirming over him while little wifey stays home with junior. Disgusting. I would give him an ultimatum. His marriage, or the sleazy clubs.
Not to mention that the sleazeball is tossing a good amount of marital money at the female sleazeballs.
P.S. If he happens to have a 'VIP' card to one of these clubs, confiscate it and hide it. Comes in very handy in the divorce proceedings.
2007-12-22 20:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I have no problem with this.. In fact a few years ago I went with him to a strip bar..He has not gone in a few years...but if he ever did go back I wouldnt care
2007-12-22 23:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You deserve better than that. I can understand how degraded and inadequate you must feel. If he isnt happy with just seeing YOUR naked body, and has to go out and lear at others, then quite frankly he isnt worth it.
2007-12-22 20:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Slinky 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋