hi there i keep meeting the wrong friends and a couple of men who treated me badly , i also do,t think i am?

Question

being treated very well at work,i am a warm loving person , but its if people are trying to make out i am bad and i feel they are trying to make me bad when i not . there is so much love inside me but people are trying to fill me with hate want can i do

Answer 1

Walk away. get new friends. i know this is easier said than done but if these people are filling you with bad vibes then who needs them. It is almost like they are sucking the life from you little by little and ruining your purity with their ugliness and bitterness. If you don't find others who can treat you kindly and see who you are inside then they will succeed and you will be unhappy. that is exactly what they want. get away from them, avoid them. do what ever you have to do Good luck.

Answer 2

I wonder what they want. Avoid bad people because you are busy with good people. Read the page at this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow

Maslow postulated that needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency. Although all needs are instinctive, some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The lower, or basic, needs on the pyramid are similar to those possessed by non-human animals, but only humans possess the higher needs.

The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs" or "D-needs:" the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met..... Needs beyond the D-needs are "growth needs," "being values," or "B-needs." When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further.

The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep.

Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability.

The third level is the need for love and belonging. Included here are the needs for friends and companions, a supportive family, identification with a group, and an intimate relationship.

The fourth level is the esteem needs. This group of needs requires both recognition from other people that results in feelings of prestige, acceptance, and status, and self-esteem that results in feelings of adequacy, competence, and confidence. Lack of satisfaction of the esteem needs results in discouragement and feelings of inferiority.

Finally, self-actualization sits at the apex of the original pyramid.

Answer 3

Seems to me that you are probably "attracting" the "wrong" sort of people... maybe you have underlying low self-esteem and don't think you "deserve" to have better? This isn't something you "decide" on a conscious level, but it still an underlying "cause". You probably lack assertiveness as well. Are you a people pleaser, afraid to say no for fear of then being disliked?

You can learn assertiveness skills, and become more assertive, its not a lost cause! You can also start to think about and work on your self-esteem.

Usually the "bully" seeks out the weaker individual because they like to be in charge and like manipulating people. People like that don't ever really have true friendships. They walk over people and use them. THAT is their problem, but becomes your if they are using you in the games.

You can choose to not be with them and refuse to get pulled into the manipulation. Its better to have no friends than it is to have friends who are manipulative, selfish and cause you to doubt yourself.

You can only take responsibility for how you are and how you relate to others. You will find if you change how you react and how you communicate with others, that will have an effect on them. Good luck.

Answer 4

There are people who go through life with their guard up, just waiting for someone to put a toe over some imaginary line, so they can chop it off. I don't want to be one of those kind of people and it sounds like you don't either. I want to trust people, and assume that they mean well toward me until they prove otherwise.

But that doesn't mean we can't be smart, and not invest too much trust in people too soon. A smart person doesn't commit to liking anyone the first time they meet -- he/she waits to see if the "niceness" is temporary or permanent; if the person is normal or crazy, etc.

That's not being hateful -- that's just good policy. You have the right to live your life without sadists making you miserable, just for fun, don't you?

To be smart isn't the same as being hateful.

Answer 5

Well we all want to be popular , I believe you'd agree , right/
Now if acquaintences are treating you badly, picking on you , stop mixing with them.~Do not chat with them at lunch time.Or round the water -cooler or coffee table.
sit alone, read a magazine,
Find new friends , transfer to a new office .Go for concerts with family members
You can operate alone . You dont need people who hassle you& make you unhappy, cheers! .

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Answer 6

choose your friend wisely and avoid these jerk , they are testing u , to see how a sweet person can turn out to be a evil person. ignore if u what best for u. have wisdom

Answer 7

You know yourself better than anyone else.If people percieve you as someone other than you are,ignore them.I have had the same experience throughout my life.