every time we fight me and my husband over his family and tell him to leave , he tells me he is going to his mothers house , he sleeps there overnight or he goes to a motel, then he comes back the next day crying to take him back , it is the fourth time now , I am realy exausted and I have to kids to take of , what should I do please . give me advice.
2007-12-22 12:15:38 · 13 answers · asked by Yahoo User 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youd figure by the 4th time he or you would get tired of this little kids game. One of you has to be the adult here and end this stupidity. Its accomplishing absolutely nothing and no one gains anything here. Your best bet would be to just leave his damn family alone, as we married couples all just love our in laws to death and thats exactly where we probably wish they were but fighting over them solves nothing except bad feelings and marital hardships. H eneeds to quit walking out like some hurt puppy dog and face the fact that you and his family just are never going to get along no matter what and let the whole damn matter just die and worry about his own immediate family. Other than that its totally up to you as to what you want to do with him once you figure out if youre truly better off with or without him. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-22 12:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are u fighting over his family?
You, him and the children are "both of yours" immediate family now, everyone else is extended family.. he has a right to see his family , just as you do, but if either family ever becomes a negative factor to the marriage then you need to protect your marriage and that not just from family thats from ALL NEGATIVE influences.
This is a bad situation sending him off, its not right that he stays anywhere but in his house with his family.. (u and the kids) nothing is getting solved, theres no compromising going on, all that is happening is a cycle of seperation which will eventually lead to a complete seperation if you and your husband dont get it together, which isnt fair to either of you and definately not the kids.
You both should get some counseling. You need to get to the roots of your problems and learn that anything and everything can be solved if your both willing to "compromise" on things. Its not fair to him, if you always have to have ur way about things, and its not fair to you if he always has to have his way on things. But NEVER should he have to leave the house especially on a cycle that is going on.
2007-12-22 20:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? Obviously, the drama is exhausting you and is not a good way to handle the problems.
Perhaps, you too can have a talk without getting angry, upset or insulting? If talking is not an option, then maybe writing a letter to him telling him how you feel (please no insults)? Otherwise, what's the point of marriage? It's also not good for the children living with parents who fight most of the time. Children are very smart and they will learn from both of you.
2007-12-22 20:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First do you love your husband?
Second if he leaves, what happens to the kids?
Are you looking to get a divorce and say good by to your husband for good!
Think of these things before you decide to make a move!
2007-12-22 20:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by fed2ball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he leaves, change the locks. When he comes back explain that you have TWO (not "to") children together. The operative word is TOGETHER. If he leaves again he is abandoning the three of you. If he leaves again, he'll need an attorney.
Guys are dumb. He specific. Do not mince words.
2007-12-22 20:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by beckoningsubstitutes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do not want him to leave .. then don't tell him to leave anymore ... and ... you & he make a promist not to get mad and leave - nor sleep anywhere else .. and not to ever leave again.
Each of you try not to bring up the subject of his family.
If you do not want him back .. then tell him so .. and that it just won't work between you.
If you want him back .. then agree to work out this problem.
2007-12-23 02:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need to learn to communicate. You don't have to fight if you disagree on something. You can communicate your opinions and feelings, and agree to disagree. My husband and I don't always agree, but I respect his opinion, because he has a right to his own opinion.
I would advise counseling for you both.
2007-12-22 20:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Willpower. Look past the tears. Or buy stock in Kleenex. Prepare for counseling for your children also if you continue this crap.
2007-12-22 20:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard somebody speak her name ...said she was doin fine ... I can feel that same old flame ...she was once mine .... always thought I was missin somethin ...but i found out too late ..... they'll never be another.... who loved me that way.... Id like to have that one back.... I never knew someone so true.... and if my lips had said I'm sorry ......... shed might have stopped right in her tracks..... and I wouldn't hear my poor heart saying ...Id like to have that 1 back.....I can see her standing there as she packed away her memories ... in that old worn suitcase ..... they dont make hearts like her anymore.........I'd like to have that one back....
2007-12-22 20:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want him not to come back?
You did tell him to leave.
2007-12-22 20:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋