is it okay for parents to hit their children??

Question

im a 14 year old girl ,
and yesterday my dad hit me across the head,
i was sitting on a computer chair with wels and he hit me that hard i spun around on it and the chair fell over, and was pushed bak away from him. all because my mum told me to feed the dogs and take out the bins and i was on the computer talking to my friends.. so i said yep ill just finish saying goodbye to my friends and do that.. mum went away then dad came over from the kitchen and said your mum told you to get off so get off the computer NOW! and i said yeh i know i told her id do it in a min. and he said what did you just say to me..
and i repeted then he came over to the computer and started closing everything on me. and i went to take back the mouse and thats when he hit me.
i yelled at him and sed dont hit me again and he put up his arm to do it again. and he was screaming at me telling me not to be so disrespectful and stuff and i was saying well dont hit me.. and yeh..
after that he come up in my face

and told me that i deserved it and i went to get the phone to call my aunty.. shes the one i can talk to about this kind of thing. and he told me to give him the phone and that i wasn't aloud to call any1 he said my aunty got hit when she was younger and she deserved it just like i do..
i told my grandmother and she told me my aunty was never hit by her father.. so
... i told my mum and i was in tears because he hit me so hard..
she didn't care she just went along with my dad. i cant believe she would do that.
my dad told her that it was a slap on the ear like WTF!!!!! he works in the mines so he comes and goes i hate him and wish he doesn't come home next time.. this happens alot and my parents think its okay to belittle me, get the rest of my brothers and sisters to agree with them and leave me out.. they think its okay to make me feel bad, and stuff.
my dad had an abusive chilhood where his step father tried to kill him at one stage..
i think its coming out on him now...

Answer 1

It is never ok to hit another person. Never. You need to let someone know.

Answer 2

It's ok to discipline your children, but not so much that they bleed or bruise, or are otherwise harmed.

#1: You should have done what your mother asked, not chat with friends.

#2: Don't talk back to your parents by saying *I said I'd do it in a minute* which I'm betting you said it with attitude.

#3 If your parents are closing down THEIR computer, don't take the mouse back.

Your dad was wrong for hitting you so hard (and from the looks of it you mayy have exaggerated some because you're still angry and think he's wrong), but you were wrong for not doing what your mother asked and then trying to take back the mouse to the computer which belongs to your parents. They are nice enough to have the computer, let you use it, and take care of you for the first part of your life. You could at least show a little respect and do a chore or two. What if you didn't have your parents? What if your parents beat you and threw things at you every day? They love you, be thankful.

Answer 3

Whether you really deserved it or not, does not give any parent the right to physically hit you like your dad did. A spanking is one thing but a slap across the face constitues child abuse and he could be arrested for it, but of course it would be your word against his and without any good reliable witnesses, nothing would happen. My advice would be to try and behave as much as possible when hes around and in a short 4 years you can legally leave that house,but try to avoid him at any cost til then, Good luck and Happy Holidays

Answer 4

omg no it is not alright for him to hit you i was wondering if he is usually violent or if maybe he had been drinking but honestly you weren't even disrespectful you need to tell an adult that you trust about that like a guidance counselor at school that is not OK...i am sorry that you were put in this position...and don't listen to people who say it is OK because it most certainly is not there is no time ever that some one should be hit as hard as you were hit and it is not something that you can brush off and say it will never happen again because if you dint do something about it it will.....a child(i mean off spring im not calling you a kid) should never be afraid of there parents

Answer 5

That's NOT okay.
Even if you were being a jerk, he shouldn't have hit you. This is abuse. You could call 911 and report him.
I'm serious.
I'm 14 and my friend's dad does the same thing. She ignored it, but he kept doing it and doing it again.
He might start to do it more often, since he let one go just barely.
He has no respect for you.

Answer 6

While you should have listened to your parents the first time..

Your dad has NO RIGHT to hit you. Spanking as a child is considered normal in moderation. But by age 14, it is not appropriate in my opinion to hit a child the way your dad hit you.

You should tell your mom or another adult you trust.

Answer 7

Your parents should never hit you like that. It's ok for them to yell at you when you deserve it, but they should never inflict physical pain upon you. If your mom doesn't know about this, you should tell her. If she does and she doens't care, you need to tell someone. If your dad has been doing this for a long time, then he may need professional help.
Don't allow yourself to be part of a statistic of women who accept abuse from their boyfriends, husbands, or dads.

Answer 8

no it is not right, i have the same problem as u
im on the computer and my dad says go to bed its 10pm its soo early epspecialy on weekends and i stay up like 10 mins more and hes like "did u hear me!??!" gets all mad and then i said yeah and hes like "get off get off now!" and if i try shutting the computer off he threatned me by swinging his arm. although he has hit me on my head he just rly hits it hard
then i go to bed crying myself to sleep basicly what happens.
i would never tell anyone because i do love my father even though hes a cocaine seller and all i dont ever tell anyone that

Answer 9

I'm 13, and I speak the same way to my mom as you do, and never, ever has my dad struck me like that. Sure he'd say "DO WHAT YOUR MOTHER SAID!"
But your dad blew up and it went way out of control.
You need to tell a councellor at school or maybe a teacher you trust.
Best of luck

Answer 10

Where was your mom during all of this?

Your dad sounds like he's got anger issues. Disciplining a child is one thing, but that smack your dad gave you seems a little more serious.

Answer 11

i personally believe there are some times and some people that should be punished by their parents that way, because they're absolutely deserve it. But for something as simple as that, i think your father was very wrong.