Help Me! I'm A Total Outcast!!?

Question

Well...not really. But still...It's like this:
I've always hung out with my friends and we've always been really weird. But now I feel like all I am is awkward and strange, and now that me and my friends are broadening our horizons in our friends list and social lives, I feel that I really am such a dork. When I go to talk to someone, I have no idea what to say, although I'm usually not alone with that person, so someone else will cut in and break the silence (thank god). I just feel like I never know what to say...
Also, I'm completely self consious about every part of me. I feel like such a loser, and usually when I go places I'm happy but when I get back home I'm depressed again. I mean, I just want to have friends and be able to laugh and talk to people like a normal person rather than being so, (yes I will repeat myself) awkward, strange, weird, self consious, and dorky.
I'm sorry if my question isn't very clear I just kinda meant...what are some things to talk aobut when you

are with people that you don't usually hang around with? If that makes any sense.

I guess I kind of feel like I'm stuck in a younger kid mind than maturing like everyone else. I act so childish when I Don't know what to do. I dunno, the whole situation is soo confoosing. Help as best you can.

Answer 1

People change as they get older, and you might need some new friends and interests. Always reinvent yourself everyday to stay fresh and active.

Answer 2

Ahh Sweetie, don't try so hard. It sounds like you are your own worst enemy. When you're in a group of people, listen to the topic of conversation and then add a few words now and then. Eventually you'll be pulled right into the mix. If someone says something funny, laugh or smile. If someone says something interesting, ask a question. That will let them know that you're paying attention. Stop being so hard on yourself. Good luck. lol

Answer 3

Ok, well your screen name indicates you are "gothic" if that is the case, I would probably drop that, seen as how most non gothic people don't want to associate with them. I am not saying that to be mean, but people who don't hang out with goths perceive them as "freaky", "scary", weird" , hurts animals, cuts themselves, you know stuff like that.

i am not very much into being sociable. But I've also been told I'm stuck up, I don't see it, I've just learned over the years to not open up and trust people easily...

anyway, if you are talking to these people at school, that's hard... they have their clicks and you will mostly likely not be taken in well.

If it's like at a party or the mall, or something, i would walk up and say i like your shirt... or where did you get that hat.... and just go from there.... talking to people is getting harder and harder these days because you never know how people will react...

good luck.... and don't be sad... most people aren't worth your time anyway....

Answer 4

Maby try geting more people in ur group or finding diffrent friends and try and keep the old ones anyway good luck

Answer 5

Find out what you have in common in with them and it will make it so much easier to have a conversation because you'll be talking about something that you like.

Answer 6

F*** everyone else, you can be alone and be happy, a lot have. Move on and experience more cool things!

Answer 7

Sounds like your growing up.That awkward.Being quiet,not comfortable around people.Normal.Sometimes there isn't any.Don't be so hard on yourself.

Answer 8

just relax i'd rather be my self then be in those popular jerks crowd, hang with your true friends and any one who has a problem with that is just jealous

Answer 9

wat u do is u dnt thnk about wat otha peplz thnk