A year ago I was confronted with my wife's infidility, I gave my marriage a change. Though there is very little intinacy between us and she will never say I love you, has a seperate bank acount which is ok but I can't use her laundry powder etc. Last week she gone to visit her mother overseas for two months away. The day before when she was packing her bags and later in the days we were driving to do some shopping when she came out of the blue well I will be countings your condoms when I come back. I was so surprised and wonder what she was on about so I just looked at her and said nothing, then she said well you probably know I have two Nova rings (birthcontrol) which I have given away to my friend. I just said what ever and said nothing else as she was quite angry about something. A week later at work I am now thinking her friend does not even have a close relationship with anyone. She will be away for two months while our marriage seemed distant and she does that for giving me trust
2007-12-22 11:28:08 · 13 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well she said she gave the nova rings to her close friend at the same time she was packinh her bags. I have a feeling she took the birtcontrol with her.
2007-12-22 11:43:41 · update #1
She's obviously cheating on you...and worried you're doing the same.
2007-12-22 11:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean: you're thinking that she dropped a major hint that she may cheat on you while she's away and tried to cover it up by making it seem like the rings are already gone because she "gave them to a friend". You're absolutely right: there is no reason to trust her. I don't know how you will ever know if she uses those rings while she's away or not, but I will say this: if there's no trust then the relationship is lost. You need to move on. She's already cheated once and you gave her a chance. Now it looks like she's returned to her infidelitous ways. She doesn't deserve a second chance doll. You need to move and find a woman who you CAN trust and will give you the love and respect you deserve. Take it from a woman: we don't share birth control. Good luck doll~
2007-12-22 11:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so quickly file for divorce and put the ad in the paper stating you are unaware of where she is. This is abandonment, a bit dishonest but not into the outrageous catagory. She would have to respond within the 30 days of the ad running in the paper. If she does not, (and since she is out of the country for 2 months) then you get to write anything in the divorce that you want INCLUDING alimony, child support (if there are any), you get the car, the house, AND the laundry detergent. BUT more importantly, YOU ARE FREE TO DO WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH HER FRIEND!!!
2007-12-22 12:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that people who are unfaithful in their relationship tend to be the ones who are extremely jeolous because they themselves have ingaged in that behavior so they look for it in others. Its extremely ashame that she has left now for two months because it will be very hard for you to work on your relationship with her not there. I am so sorry you are going through this. Sounds like by her behavior that something is definately missing in your relationship. If you truly care about this relationship I would strongly suggest getting Dr. Phils Relationship Rescue book. I never would have that such a thing could have been so incredibly vital to a relationship but its worth checking out. Even for yourself to look at some of the things he discuses in the book. He does talk about infidelity and how to move past it and how it even happened in the first place. You won't be able to fix what you really don't understand. I hope I have helped. Remember nomatter what happens remain faithful for your own self so if something does happen to your relationship you know you did everything humanely possible to fix it. Best wishes and Merry Christmas
2007-12-22 11:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as you have said,you were confronted by her infidelity,there is little intimacy between you's,she won't say she loves you,you're not even allowed to use her laundry powder!! Why are you in this relationship? You could do so much better out of it,find someone you can be happy with,don't stay where you will only be brought sadness.
2007-12-22 18:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh ?
I'm sorry but I have no idea what you're saying. I mean I understood that your wife cheated ( sorry about that ) and now she won't say she loves you and she gave away 2 Nova rings but I don't know what the rest of it means.
What is your question ?
2007-12-22 11:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mole Shooz Babii 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I get what you are asking. She cheated, but now she's the one making the fuss about how she's going to watching you to make sure you dont' cheat... right?
Well, often the person that is a cheater themselves is the one that has the least trust in other people.
2007-12-22 11:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either go to a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer.
2007-12-22 11:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you get full custody of the detergent in the divorce.
2007-12-22 11:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you cant use her laundry powder what kind of marriage is that not only would i use her laundry i would use what ever i please in my house if she dont like it get it and get the hell out marriage you become one not ours
2007-12-22 11:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋