My ex girlfriend( I am a guy) Thinks she is a gay all of a sudden, and is living with her new Dike lover. The two of them sleep in the same bed in a 4,000 sq ft home, and carry on a full lesbain affiar in front of my ex's 7 year old daughter. People, do you think this is healthy in front of the little girl?
2007-12-22 11:04:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really appreciate the feedback. first off, my emotions are disappointment, not jealousy. Becai=use I know my ex is not gay! Maybe bi? Not Gay. No they are not having sex in front of the little girl. I feel that she is too young too understand as another answerer( La la) said in response. I do apolgoze for anyone Gay out there, as I do not have a problem with this.
2007-12-22 11:30:48 · update #1
And we never ever had fights, or any unkind words in front of the child. I feel like my ex is brainwashed all of a sudden really. How could she be gay when I have given her 100's of intense orgasm's? Gushing!! And we share intense emotional feelings too?
2007-12-22 11:33:36 · update #2
No it isnt good for her.Here is why.A child needs a mother AND a father contrary to what idiots say.
When a child is deprived of one or the other it causes problems.
A woman cannot be a father to a child, and a man cannot be a mother to a child.A child needs to know how a mother and a father are to treat their children and how a man is to treat his wife and how a wife is to treat her husband.Gays cannot reproduce without turning to the opposite sex so there are no normal gay families from centuries past to use as examples of that being normal.
Sorry but I only recognize a man and woman raising kids as a healthy family setting.
2007-12-22 11:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I dont think its normal and I am not homophonic. I have a hard time with people claiming to be gay after they have been married for years and have more than one child. I know people that struggle with being gay and these are the REAL gay people not the ones who have had 4 and 5 babies and cut their hair off and claim to be gay. They just like being freaky like that. You have every right to be concerned and I would try and put a stop to this immature behavior. Next week she'll claim to be in love with her dog and the world will support it. Cause if it feels good do it, isnt that what our world is coming too.
2007-12-22 20:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...let's clarify something. Is she actually having sex in the same house as your child? Then the answer is the same as a heterosexual couple. Lock the doors, wait till the kids are asleep, and keep it down for heavens sake!
Are they deliberately having sex on the couch with your child in the same room, then no, it's not right. But if all they are doing is holding hands, snuggling, a kiss hello/good bye, that's something that is bothering YOU.
Anytime a child sees love and affection between two people committed to one another is infinitely better than two people screaming, calling names,and slamming doors.
Jealousy is such a tacky emotion. You have been replaced, get over it. Your just mad because she hasn't asked you to join in.
Your daughter is lucky to have a real example of love. Homosexuality isn't contagious. And if your planning on taking her to court over this, you're gonna need a really good lawyer,and she's going to have to be guilty of something besides being gay to have her child taken away!
2007-12-22 19:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by On My Own 316 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No its not healthy for the litte girl. She doesnt understand lovers... right now its only mommy and daddy in her world not 2mommys. If she goes to school and mentions something of the sort some people adults might take it negatively and that could cause an even bigger problem. Especially for the little girl. Theres no problem in being gay/lesbian but its not appropriate for a child to see and not understand. She's too young.
2007-12-22 19:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by lala 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I feel it isn't 'right', but you really can't do too much about until your daughter actually says she's not happy with whats going on. If they are getting quite 'sexual' in front of her then by all means go in there and get her out, but if you do start slagging off gay people then be prepared for a backlash of what they consider to be 'putting them down', and they'll start chanting crap about gay rights and so forth!
Good Luck! I feel for you!
2007-12-22 19:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Badass 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why is this going on infront of a kid.. actually to be precise the answer is NO its NOT...
Personally I enjoy reading in to psychology, and Sociology, and the numerous affects it can have on the kids is underestimated.
You child could grow up to become a sex addict thinking her parents split up due to sex..
it can make her fearful of marriage or relationships
The minor arguments over this subject could in the future have minor (sometimes major) affects on the child
Please (please) take my advice, do something to make it stop, move places, or go on a holiday often - and fight in the car, get a babysitter during your fights...
2007-12-22 19:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I feel the child is too young to see all this. She is not old enough to understand. maybe you should think of going for full time custody. being gay is alright in this day an age...yet not in front of a child.
2007-12-22 19:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Gayisha 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
IF you mean they are having sex in front of her? Delivery of pornography of any kind..is against the law in every single state. Report them to whatever department of Child Protection is available to you.
Read what Jai says. I agree with him wholeheartedly.
Whoever gave me thumbs down? Tough. I call it exactly as I see it. People who have any kind of sex in front of children need to go to jail. That includes "straight" people as well.
Children must be the focus of all our lives toward GOODNESS and not toward anarchy.
2007-12-22 19:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by juliette 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
This is not healthy for a little girl. She expects a mommy-daddy situation. If she has to deal with living with one parent, ok, that happens. She should not have to witness this affair at her age. She should not be told that it is normal either.
2007-12-22 19:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bob T 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Gay people can do whatever the hell they like (apparently). If anyone makes comment, they are homophobic.
2007-12-22 19:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋