I'm 16 and about 2 have a little boy in 2 months i don't knw if i should allow him 2 see his child im scared his son might grow up to be like him i sotra had a feeling he was doing these things but was never sure he would hit me after every tense dicussion we had and call me names the state of NY is already trynna press charges agianst him bcuz im a minor and he 22 we met when i was 14 he told me he was 17 (but apparently he was 19 about 2 be 20 at the time) what a jerk im so f*cked up in the head right now and need some answers should i say bye 2 him 4ever and let my soon never know his dad or give the a**hole another chance.......HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-22 11:00:09 · 14 answers · asked by Faith A.K.A Mousy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This guy should NEVER be allowed to see that baby. You should also NEVER allow him to hit you. You need to go into counseling and boost your self-esteem so you quit ending up with guys that abuse you. If you allow him in your life and your son sees you being abused and you just put up with it he will grow up to be an abuser himself. He will end up possibly abusing you because he sees his dad doing it and he will abuse any future girlfriends/wives, and his own children. You need to get a restraining order. If he wants to be involved in this child's life you need to go to court and make sure the judge only allows supervised visits, and that he undergoes anger management and counseling for his abusive tendencies. You can also tell the court that you want him to undergo drug testing before he is allowed to see this child. You are going to be a mother and it is up to you to protect your child.
2007-12-22 11:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You really need to pull yourself completely aw3ay from him, and your son, as well.
Also, you should file charges against him if the abuse really does go on.
People claim that they change all the time, and may even convince you of such. But it is rare that he will ever truly stop beating you once he's done it the first time.
Think about it. Think about your son. Do you want him to beat your son just for the hell of it, or when it could be resolved by a discussion? Do you want your son to grow up thinking it's okay, so he can go on and do ito someone else and perpetuate the cycle?
No. You don't. Don't let him coud your judgement.
2007-12-22 19:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anubis's Right Wing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I feel terrible for you becuz that could have been me but I'm now 25 yr old career woman with no kids. In my opinion I think that you should pay him no mind and bring him to court to try and get child support becuz that is what you need right now for your unborn child. He should be charged I mean he manipulated you, but what is done is done all you can do is move forward. I don't know if you have any family members to go to but, that is number one and don't listen to any of these ppl on here making fun of you and such. Believe me you will get thru this and when you do you will be that much stronger just wait and see.
Happy Holidays and have a beautiful New Year!
2007-12-22 19:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdestini98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BEST THING TO DO is not to be a fool to what he says are you keeping the baby. if so good luck but dont let him push you around or make you feel bad because of the baby. also give him the chance to know the child because one day he just may grow up or he may not want nothing to do with ou or the child just remember to be the best thing in your childs life and yes your fear of the child acting like his father when he grows up just might happen but your child has your side that he will pick up and his fathers side that is the onlly way your child will find out who he is in the long run
2007-12-23 12:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by onix557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'd like to ask a question . Do you honestly wanna be with a pimp, a liar , and a woman beater. Girl get away and get away fast. You don't wanna bring you children into an abusive relationship, because they will grow up thinking that type of behavior is okay. Did you know children mock what their parents see and do? Let alone He's a PIMP what kinda stuff is that, pimping 16 year olds. He's got to be ashamed of himself. STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!!!
2007-12-22 19:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sunny Days 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After reading how he hit you and called you names, I have to say that this is abuse and that you should not let your son have contact with him whatsoever. Also, since you're only 16 I can share information - I have experience with this (although with family members, I am a virgin) and I'm only (age between 12-15)
You aren't f*cked up in the head, HE is.
2007-12-22 21:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♫Wolf♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't see how he's roaming the streets, but you chose to have sex with him. and at 16? it isn't like he raped you right? if he didn't and if he wants to be in the child's life, then he deserves to be. even if he is a jerk. your child shouldn't be denied a father if he's willing to be in the child's life. let's just hope you'll be a great mom and can set a good example and have your child ignore his father's behavior.
i'm also proud you aren't getting an abortion, but if you don't think you're ready to be a mom and if you don't think it's a good idea to have the father in his life, ever think about adoption? but if you are ready and willing to take responsibilty, then that's great for you.
2007-12-22 20:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Aubs 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best thing to do is to stay away from him. Even if you really love try your best to stay distant from him. If you really want to do something about him, get him arrested. He can get arrested for prostitiution and being too old
2007-12-22 20:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kanesha J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another chance?? are u kidding me? girl there is better out there....get someone who can treat you right. he thinks ur young and stupid and that he can get you whenever he wants...thats why he tries....AND IF HE HITS U...girll....who in the hell wants that?? get out while u can. u can do it by yourself. im 19 with one...and 34 weeks pregnant with another....u dont have to take it.
2007-12-22 19:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jada and Ty's mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Press charges for abuse, for anything you can possibly press charges for, this man doesn't deserve freedom, drown him in jail.
2007-12-22 21:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by ღJenniferღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋