my wife an i have been married for 2 years, we have a beautiful baby girl, after my daughter was born her sex drive went away, i know all the reasons why, and all the medical mumbo jumbo. i just want to know if there is anything we can do to get it back up. i love my wife alot and i love being with her. we use to make love at least 3 time a week. now im lucky if i get it once a month. plus she is GREATLY against masturbation. so if there is anything she can do or take, or anything i can do please help!
2007-12-22 10:32:00 · 15 answers · asked by David B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There may be something she can do or take, but there are also things that you can do to help bring back her "drive".
There is nothing sexier for a woman than a man who makes an honest effort to make her life easier.
Do you help out with the baby at all? Does she have time to put her feet up and relax? Do you help with the household chores? Or is she overwhelmed at the moment?
Do you have a reliable sitter (trusted friend or family member) that she would feel comfortable leaving the little one with so you can have some alone time - for romance, not just sex?
If you make an honest effort, and keep the pressure to have sex low, then I am fairly sure that this will work for the two of you.
Take care, a good marriage does take work.
2007-12-22 10:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She should be at the peak of her sex drive in her 30s. So, something is going on to block that. Are you romancing her or just demanding sex? Is she healthy? Sit down and talk about this, preferably at a romantic spot after a nice dinner in a restaurant. You don't say if you have kids. If you do, maybe she's just exhausted every evening. Does she work outside the home? If she does, then the answer is to hire help or help her around the house more yourself so that she has energy again. That will boost her sex drive (that and flowers, perfume, jewelry, or a simple card with a love note). Run her a bubble bath. You get the idea. If she's overworked and under romanced, that is what causes a lack of sex drive in a woman.
2016-03-14 14:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Edeltraud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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my wife an i have been married for 2 years, we have a beautiful baby girl, after my daughter was born her sex drive went away, i know all the reasons why, and all the medical mumbo jumbo. i just want to know if there is anything we can do to get it back up. i love my wife alot and i love being with...
2015-08-12 22:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of ways to get it back.
If you spicen the sex up with role playing, sexual toys, and things like that, the sex will become more exciting.
ALSO, you can buy condoms and toys off of sites or from a sex store that are especially designed for extreme pleasure for the woman.. your wife would probably love the pleasure.
And, if that fails.. sit your wife down and talk to her about it. Sure, sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage, but it is essential in order for both to be satisfied.
2007-12-22 10:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just being patient, loving, and helping her with the baby and the house as much as you can is the best thing you can do. It'll get better with a little more time. Make sure you two get out alone at least a couple times a month too.
2007-12-22 10:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is wrong for being against masturbation. That is a natural thing and she is controlling you. You guys need counseling. She needs to stop calling the shots.
2007-12-22 12:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound strange, but how about seeing a sex therapist? It may be that he or she might have some better ideas than a bunch of strangers on a Yahoo Answers site.
2007-12-22 10:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by dstluke 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i can tell you that it will naturally go down. shes tired and every relationship cools down. its just what happens. YOU could try doing something out of the ordinary. like some kind of dinner someplace new. get a babysitter. all that stuff a nice hotel room. make it romantic and just take some of the work load off her. try that i hope it works.
btw. congrats on the baby!
2007-12-22 10:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are realizing that the honeymoon is over and reality setting in now. sex does start to slow down now and the family life begins. she is prob. just exhausted after the day is done.....
help her out as much as possible and she will feel more like playing at bedtime
2007-12-22 10:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should see a doctor to rule out something physical. Next would be counseling, for her and you. And you go ahead and masturbate, that is not her call if she is not willing to give you relief.
2007-12-22 10:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Johanna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋