There's this guy I'm completely interested in, and he approaced me first. We've known each other for about a month and he just told me he's falling in love with me. Mind you this guy has had marriage on the brain before we even met, so I don't know if I can take him seriously. I don't know if he's caught up in this idea of it all or what. He keeps telling me that he means it genuinely and he's only now trying to fight back his feelings because I don't love him back. I could fall for this guy, but I still feel like I wanna get to know him. He has a different culture and I'm in the tradition where you date a person for a while before anything is set in stone. He's long-distance too. Can his love truly be real if we've only known each other for a month? I've asked him, but I'm not entirely convinced.
2007-12-22 08:59:02 · 7 answers · asked by Story Unknown 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea it could be just lust he is feeling for you! i would say make him take things at your pace and see what happens if he stays then it may be love, if he bolts then it was probably lust.
Just take things the way you want.
Good luck
2007-12-22 09:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nower days its hard to trust anybody!! dont trust that guy because you dont know with what aim he came to you, if you are at school, at college or university, just finish what you are doing and then the rest will come later.. this guy may seem so inocent but what he can do to you can make you regret for the rest of your life. Just be focused and do something concret to stabilise your position in society, these days you cant afford to trust in marriage (saying because he'll marry me so he will take care of me) marriage end suddenly due to different reasons, and when you are left with kids and you're not even financially stable, it becomes a big problem for you. I'm not saying you should not fall in love but everything should be done at the right time, after all there is no need to fight for a drop of water in an ocean..
2007-12-22 09:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by muson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has his green card, an American citizen, INS is not on his azz, and all his legal papers, then go for it. He is in real love. Otherwise, proceed with caution, tell him you are not an American citizen or something and see what he says. LOL!
Every man, foreign or domestic, that tells an American woman he loves her and want her to be his wife, the woman typically will fall for it because most American women fantasize about the white dress and wedding ceremony from childhood. At no time, will a woman question the motive of this request because it feels GREAT to know he want to be your husband. Whatever! Once reality hit we got high rates of divorce on our hands!
He is good "trying to fight back his feelings", hook line and sinker! Good luck, though.
2007-12-22 09:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that falls in love in a month is a mental patient. Time will show you what he is really like if you play this game. The first few months you should get to know him and become friends. After that then you can really fall in love. BE CAREFUL OR YOU MIGHT END UP BEING STALKED!!!
2007-12-22 09:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello well I think I can top that, I have never physicaly met my love ! We hooked up on-line not long ago and I am head over heels in love with my honey ! I am choosing to see this as an awnsered prayer ! Talk to the lord and see if this was his will !
2007-12-22 09:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be lust--id wait awhile to see--when u have been through the downs of a relationship and u still stick together, then its love
2007-12-22 09:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say..you cant help how you feel.
2007-12-22 19:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by JOHNNA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋