I have so much envy for happy married couples. I guess some guys are just plain super lucky to have a nice woman by their sides.
2007-12-22 08:55:23 · 18 answers · asked by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Luck has nothing to do with it. Some of us get married and stay married because of the promises we made to one another. It's that simple ... and that hard.
Sure, it would make sense to some to leave a partner because s/he is difficult. Instead we try to talk it through and work things out. Not easy, but we do it.
We don't pretend for other people's sakes, we remember what we once meant to one another and can mean again. We also believe we have an obligation to our children to give them a decent home in which to live. A home with two parents, Mom and Dad.
Luck? No. It's called love.
2007-12-22 09:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jami 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that nice would be the word to describe a Good/Happy Marriage, I think something along the lines of the hardest work 2 people ever did, a full time job 24/7 and then some more.
Instead of sitting back envying you should make up your mind that unless you can find some one that you can put their needs before your own and they can put your needs before theirs you should keep looking and not settle for anything less. Life especially married life is a constant state of flux and unless you believe 100% that your partner will put you first how can you trust to put your partner 100% before your self...... and this is where the fluctuations come in some times you go 60/40 and some times they do.
Marriage is the hardest job I have ever had, the pay is probably the worst BUT it has onehelluvabenefitsplan....
2007-12-22 10:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice i can give you is do not ever jeapordize your happiness in a marriage if your not happy then leave! you deserve to be happy and if you have children your kids will feed of your unhappiness, not sure how old you are but your never too old to be happy! been married 16 yrs you say if you feel you need a makeover then go get one but just be happy life is one time around. unless you met someone who told you this is there second time around, it is your life you make it what you want.
i have been married for four years but i was married when i was very young and i was miserable took me 3 yrs to leave and i did it for my son and it was the best thing i could of done!
im a fun person i enjoy laughing and as you can see on my 360 that were a fun family and marriage is suppose to be fun not a chore. take care!
2007-12-23 00:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by laylajai74 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes more than luck as marriage is a gamble
now adays, but when two people are in love and
are committed to each other and responsible to
each other then marriage is there to last. Over
20yrs married and to the same lovely woman not
only am I lucky but she is also because we both
are more and more in love everyday and have
never cheated on one-another and have seen
our twin girls grow up to be beautiful women,
etc, etc, our life togeather could never be better.
2007-12-22 11:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me all that glitters is not gold...... Most people that say they are happily married are the most miserable married couples ever...Marriage is never just happy there are always ups and downs..always soo dont feel bad marriage is something that requires consistancy and work ....happiness is a state of mind .
2007-12-22 09:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am happily married and I must say yes it is a beautiful thing to know someonew wholeheartedly has your best interest at heart. It's not necessarily the fact of having a nice woman but it;s about respecting the vows you made and took and putting your spouses wants and needs before your own....Happy Holidays.............
2007-12-22 09:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No complaints here!!! In order to be happy in a relationship or in your career, You must be happy within ourselves!!!also having a positive attitude with each other,knowing its communication and compromising we learn to share,n care.
Every couples goes through some tough times and there good times....but marriage is hard work. luck has nothing to do it...and sometime nice isn't enough. some day bliss and happiness at the end of a rainbow you'll have your pot of gold.It makes me happy to find good hearted men still believe in union of marriage!!!
2007-12-27 01:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by atsinrocpalms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree - it must be nice. But if someone is not so happily married, why are they still in the relationship? If they've both tried to make it better, then maybe that person isn't the one who will truly make them happy and it's time to move on.
2007-12-22 08:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by GJax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is your defintion of "happily married"?
i use to have this same problem,
well without the married part
i was just envious of people who were in "perfect relationships"
you realize, dont you, that in order for your relationship to be happy, you have to have some hard times(:
nothing, can be perfect, nonstop... and thats what creates trust.
all the couples i know that have been together for a long time, fight, argue, disagree, etc, but they always comprimise and come around,
which is what holds a relationship together
<3
2007-12-26 06:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dig beneath the surface, you will find that all it is not as it appears to be. All relationships are business deals in disguise. Each party is asking 'what is in it for me?'. Once the terms change, or one party is no longer able to keep up his or her part of the bargain, the deal sours, the relationship is stressed, and the illusion of 'happiness' vanishes. The happiness that you see is something like what you have when your car is running well. When it starts to sputter and give you problems, you are in hell and wish you could have it junked.
2007-12-22 12:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Blindman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋