Im 17 and my boyfriend is 20. Im a senior, graduating in May. We have been dating for 3 years and 7 months. Its never been any suprise that we wanted to get married one day.. But when he perposed to me today i was kind of in shock.. Of course I said yes because I absolutly know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But setting the date for the wedding has been the problem. I plan on going to college and majoring in radiology, but it could be many years if we put off the wedding until after i graduate.. how hard is it to be married in college?
2007-12-22 08:52:21 · 12 answers · asked by CountryGirlygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The choice is yours alone. No one here can truly help. Been there, done that. You heard it before. Married in college can only be survived by a house off campus and treat it like a job.
2007-12-22 08:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by blueridgemotors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married with one person in college is hard enough. I'm getting my Master's degree right now. I can't imagine if we were BOTH in college. And, yes, you might have to consider how this will affect your financial aid and all. If you get married, your parents can't claim you as a dependent anymore. You'll be on your own.
Honestly, I can understand the want to married right now. I'm not going to tell you you are too young or anything, because it's not my place. My now husband proposed to me when we were both sophomores getting our undergrads. As much as we really, REALLY wanted to get married, we knew that logistically we had to wait until we graduated. It was an annoying thing to do, but really had to be done. I think, if you both know it's going to last, you can manage just a little longer.
Between class, homework, and life in general back then, I don't see how I could have added wife to the list at that time. And it's not like I'm a good wife now, I don't clean or cook or any of that.
My advice would be to wait. We got married the month after we graduated:) 4 years later, we are still going strong:)
2007-12-22 09:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard- no matter how much you love each other! My husband and I got married while we were both seniors in college and we separated after just two months. Of course we were able to work things out and get back together but the pressure is unbelievable. I would say wait but sometimes people have to make their own mistakes to learn!
2007-12-22 09:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by gray's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on the engagement. I would suggest to wait untill you are acctually in college. Just wait untill you found your way, got to know the system, whatever you might need to get used to. besides, in college you will probably meet other people so its best to have the 'new' part out of the way. Furthermore, I don't think there's really gonna be a problem with you being married in college. as long as there are no children you should be all fine.
2007-12-22 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by Marlieke89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a radiologist. Think about this carefully. 4+4+5=13 years before you will be finished with your radiology training, including medical school. So you need to decide if you want to do this now, after college, or during medical school, etc.
2007-12-22 09:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Blindman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a mature, organized person with clear goals, you will probably do fine in college as a married person.
It can be done!
If you get caught up in work schedules, or derailed by marital issues, entertaining or money worries, you should complete college before you get married.
2007-12-22 08:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not hard. College is the same thing a shighschool. now if u r going to an out of state college than thats were the problems lie.
2007-12-22 08:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY HARD !!!!!!!!!!!
I am studying Architecture in college and I can tell you it is very hard its not easy at alllll ask him to wait another year or 2 tell him you need to focus on school first but that you love him. really you do not want to take up both the task of marriage and college.marriage alone is complicated and requires alot of attention especially in the first 2 years.Dont do that to yourself trust me if he loves you he'll wait.
2007-12-22 09:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider how it effects your financial aid, as well as, living arrangements as you wouldn't be allowed to live with him. Further, you may want to wait as there are a lot of guys you meet, and you may think otherwise. If not, you are destined to be with this guy. Thus, if you wait, you can be sure.
2007-12-22 08:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Greg S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its difficult at any time but in college you already sound as if you have your priorties in line classes, studies, homework and a job does not leave any time keep your relationship as it is for now he'll understand or he wont saves on a divorce later
2007-12-22 08:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by bob b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋