Pregnant and feeling selfish?

Question

I am 24 weeks pregnant, and let me say, I really am very thankful to be pregnant. I'm 26, married and wanted to become pregnant. I am so grouchy though for a few reasons, and I really feel guilty about it. I have gained a lot of weight and feel so ugly. It really has me depressed. My face is fat everything I wear looks nasty etc. Secondly, I'm really struggling because of all the parties and stuff and not being able to drink. I'm not going to drink while pregnant so please no slams about that. I'm simply stating that it's hard to make such an adjustment. Am I being way too selfish or has anyone else ever felt this way? I feel bad because I'm already ready to have my baby and feel like me again.

Answer 1

Perfectly normal, just a bad time to go through. Mrs. Guy was a terrible person to live with after 24 weeks, but I knew it wasn't her "real" self. We got through it, we have 3 grandchildren now.

Answer 2

Im pregnant with my 4th baby. I am 25. This is my first pregnancy where I have stoped to think abuot being fat and missing out on having adult fun. Its been only 3 months now, I am 14 weeks along. Its even harder since I have not grown any yet. Sometimes I think I feel my babys flutters now. But for the most part I have put my life on hold even more, for the little one in my belly. Sometimes I really really want to just have a drink or do something risky. I manage to behave. I am still worried about being fat again. I know I have to deal with that to. But when I give birth to my little baby, I know waiting and missing out will have been worth all the hassle.

Answer 3

You're totally normal. Most women just don't admit that they want to drink. All pregnant feel unattractive too. Don't feel that you're being too selfish. It would really be selfish if you did drink and not worry about your baby's health. Being pregnant is a wonderful thing, but it can also be soooo miserable. I mean you feel fat, you have to pee all the time, you're hot as he** , and all you want is to be yourself again. Who wouldn't feel the way you do? Just sit back, relax, and try to make yourself as comfortable as possible. You are a normal person. Congratulations by the way! I hope everything goes well for you and your baby. Have a great holiday and don't worry about eating too much. After all, you are eating for two! lol

Answer 4

I think that everyone has felt this way at some point in time or another. It hard loosing control of your body to somebody else. As for me, the alcohol wasn't a big deal, it was the undercooked meat that I couldn't have. I love medium rare steak, a nice dark pink prime rib... It stunck having to give up steak.

Get yourself some cute maternity clothes, check out Old Navy.com they have a good selection. Also try Target I got a cute black maternity dress from there when my butt became too big for black maternity pants. You can still do you hair and make-up.


And as for the baby, I felt worse after having the baby because the pregnancy weight made me feel huge, and I no longer had the pregnancy belly to make it acceptable. I just telling myself it took nine months to get there, it's going to take nine months to get rid it. That and some long walks with baby.

Answer 5

It's normal to feel the way you do right now. It's hard to accept yourself as big and clumsy not to mention the fact that you tend to waddle when you walk. It helps if you have a husband who'll tell you how beautiful you are.

When I was pregnant with my son I was 8 months pregnant during the holidays and I felt like a beached whale. Couldn't drink and didn't feel like eating much either - I couldn't even get up off the couch without help. I was sooooooo sick of being pregnant. lol

Just try to hold onto the thought that next year you'll be gorgeous again and you'll be able to have fun again.

Answer 6

Yep, been there, done that TWICE. I gained 77lbs with #1 and 65lbs with #2.. I felt like a COW! NOTHING fit me anymore.. it made me want to cry :( I was down to just wearing HUGE dresses and night gowns.. (sometime I didn't even get dressed all day)
I would get jealous of my hubby being able to smoke, drink and party at our friends house.. I would go over there too, but would be stuck inside watching movies while they did all that stuff outside..
It sucked..
So yea.. just so ya know ..you're not the only one...
BTW I'm 24 yrs old ,married with a 2 1/2 yr old little girl and just gave birth to our little boy on Dec 19..
Hang in there and gratz!

Answer 7

It's normal, i mean i had my son at 20, and for about 4 months of the pregnancy i was in college, which was very difficult. I did feel upset at times but i knew that i was doing something much more than the college party scene. I was about to give birth to a new life.

Answer 8

That is very common. I felt like that...fat and ugly. My bf would tell me that is so selfish. That I should be happy my baby is healthy. It is a big change your body goes through. As for the drinking. Just don't surround yourself around that. You don't have to go to any Christmas/New Year's where they are drinking.

Answer 9

i think what your feeling is normal not selfish....................pregnancy is a big change in any ones life. i feel the same as you, i feel so fat and nothink fits me. i miss haveing a girls night out and i also hate people seeing me looking this way. i know people say being pregnant makes a woman look more beautiful but some how i dont think thats true :(

any way i wish you and your baby the best of luck. 34weeks pregnant and im feeling like crap!!! your not alone

Answer 10

Some women do not enjoying being pregnant. Outside of not having a period I did not enjoy it either. I love my children, they are everything to me, but I did not overly enjoy pregnancy. Glowing and being radiant is a myth. I am sure it happens for some women but to throw us all in the same boat is wrong. You are not drinking and are trying to do what is best for your baby and that's great. Wanting it to be over is not selfish or wrong, its the way you are. If you don't enjoy it, you don't enjoy it! :)