Friend issue?

Question

My so-called friend, let's name her A. A and are "friends" since 4th grade. A is so cruel to me once we went to middle school (now we're in 8th grade), she was a wannabee girl who wanted to be popular, eventually she was "in". She is obviously acting like a slut to me!!!

Later on, rumors started spreading about me, one was so harsh, cuz I believe A has said to my other friend that I called her something that I didnt say that we are not friends anymore.

And now, A has so many friends and she, I think, pretends to be very "nice" to me (she even gave me a Christmas present thats worth like $2?). I even have to act nice to her also. I'm also waiting to get revenge on her but I'm afriad of doing that since she can spread gossip real easily...

She also recently invited me to go shopping with her &friends, I said ok sure. And she replied, "Sorry, there's no room for you, you can sit in the trunk if you want." I got sooo pissed.

What should I do? T.T

Answer 1

Find new friends, you are not the only person out there who is having this happen to them so there should actually be lots of people looking to dump 'their so called friends ' since
"forever." People who are very nice people and would never act like this because if you have had something like this happen to you, do you not go out and do it to some one else.....
Forgetabout revenge...she will fall off her self proclaimed throne on her own and that will be so much sweeter..... and one true friend is worth so much more than a dozen wannabees hanging together picking on each other.....

EDIT: Blondie, I luv your 'tude' I hope lots of people listen up and try it to the best of their ability, it's not easy to get a "tude"
like yours, use it to help out the others you see being crapped on......

Answer 2

Whenever you see her, just wave and don't say anything. I know that eventually after doing this a while, she'll be saying your mean and don't want to be her friend, but ignore that. Most people will say, "Try and work it out beween you two" but that never works. If someone has changed for good, there's no way you can stay their friend. So go around and make new friends and pretend like she never existed. Don't let it get you down. If someone was your real friend, they would believe you and not A about some rumor. I hope things get better.

Answer 3

I mean she doesn't seem like a true friend and i think that she is using u. Yall should be the best friends cause since you and her have been friends since 4th grd. I think she may be gossiping because she is jealous of u. I mean even though she may act all popular at school but she may have alot of stuff going on at home. Sometimes we act like we have it all togather and be all tough and stuff when on the inside we are weak and broken down on the inside. It is good that u are still being nice and kind toward her. I would still go with her and have alot of fun i wouldn't let her and her friends get the best of u. Maybe her "friends" are using her and they may drop her but if u r still nice and kind to her than yall will have a friendship

Answer 4

get other friends and if she asks you to go somewhere or trys to be "pretend" nice just say, "no thanks, there's no room in my schedule for you." and if she says something back say, "say whatever you want, it can't hurt me, i have my own life--unlike you, you don't have a life. Bye." Hang out with your good friends. Have parties and sleepovers ALOT, make friends to last a lifetime and say, "I'm sorry, but your name doesn't seem to be on the guest list."
when she spreads rumors, you could fight over whether it's true or not OR tell everyone it's a cover up for the fact that she did_________. you got a mouth use it. I was in middle school once. don't follow there trends, make up cooler ones and soon you'll be flocked with friends. you don't need her or those mean girls, just CHILL.
OR stay in the same situation.
take your pick...

Answer 5

I've gone through that kind of stuff too. I don't like it. What I did was ignored the girl that did some of the stuff that you're describing about this girl "A". I'm sorry. I know how you feel, but just remember that you're the REAL person in this situation that you're having here. If you succeed in being the bigger better person here than you have absolutely nothing to worry about my friend! Live life to the fullest and don't let the fools get you down!!! Peace :)

Answer 6

Don't talk to her anymore. If she invites you out. Say you have plans whether you do or not. Make other friends as well. Not everyone is into being in the "in" crowd. I sure was one of them. I did not care for the snob and bitches of my high school.

Make other friends that are TRUE friends and hang out with them and eventually A will realize she lost out on a good friend. If she doesn't. Its her loss. You really do not want a friend that treats you like dirt especially when you have been friends for a while. It's not worth it. Hope I helped.

Answer 7

I know that nobody in verbal abuse from a friend likes to hear this, but I think that the best thing to do is just ignore her remarks, and her all together. It may be hard, but eventually she will grow tired of picking on you and leave you be. I know that it will be hard, but just keep your head up, and tell yourself that it will end soon enough. In the mean time, take this opportunity to make some new friends and surround yourself with people who love and appreciate you. If things don't improve within a few weeks, I think it's best to let an adult know. Good luck, and just try to keep your chin up!

Answer 8

ok this whole thing sounds very silly - if you dont think there is a friendship there then move on - do you own thing go out try meting some other people in you town get out and socialize= and dont sink down to her leval just because she doesnt how to really be friend someone doesnt mean you should act like her- go own with yuor life and say el fin to the suppossed friendship- you dont need to stress over it and maybe she will learn a lesson because she may have alot o fpeople around but i doubt any of them are truley friend or good friends at that

Answer 9

i know how you feel. at primary school it use to be three of us. but when we went to high school one of my mates wanted to be anything but popular. she even spread rumours that really hurt me because i thought she could keep it a secret. me and the other mate started to ignore her and just left her to it. being popular doesn't mean you have mates. it means people know you name, some of them might hate them. the only hard thing is that we have to act like we are friends because are parents are all good friends. but i have told my parents what i think of her (but not in to much detail).
so really the only thing to do is just ignore and get on with your life without her. also if she says any rumours just ignore don't show that you are to upset.
hope i help you
Beth.ere93

Answer 10

Forget about it....
You don't need a friend like that, especially one that makes you feel bad about yourself. No one needs a friend like that.

Be the bigger person, realize your differences, realize people change, and stick with your true friends.

People move on and people drift apart, don't seek revenge, that's life girl!

Good Luck!