She is suicidal after finding out her boyfriend of 3 yrs cheated on her last week.... What can I do to console her?Also Ithink shes pregnant and this why I'm sooo worried! Shes not eating or anything and she is so withdrawn.
Should I tell her Mom the whole story.
Her boyfriend is my cousin!
2007-12-22 06:18:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you should comfort her and talk to her get her mind off her problems and get her something to eat
2007-12-22 06:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by SupeR cool 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on how supportive her Mom is would be dependent on telling her. Explain to her she is broken hearted right now and thats completely understandable. But to want to take her own life because her boyfriend had sex with someone else is extreme to say the very least. Ask her why she would think his mistake should cost her life? When this all blows over(it will because the chances are she wouldve already done it by now) break this down for her. She will be ready to be a parent when she is mature enough to take responsibility for when she makes a concious decision to bring another life into this world. And not want to take her own over someone else's actions. If she isnt mature enough to take a pill once a day, or make her boyfriend wear a condom, she is defenitely not mature enough to have a child. Kids dont realize theyre having another human being. A person who needs and has the right to function in this world. Not just a baby. They never think past that part. They dont think about pre school, pta, baseball practices they wont want to go to but need to in order to make thier child feel important. They don't think about broken arms. Broken hearts. Tutors when their child isnt smart enough. They dont think about having to pay for ballet classes. If they did, they wouldnt dream of having a "baby" until they were financially and emotionally ready. The reason its so important to wait is we deserve to have a period of time where we get to be totally selfish and not have to answer to anyone. This doesnt happen until we turn 18. If you have a 3 year old youre still answering to someone. Besides the obvious. It stunts your potential for growth. Finally, if he cheated he is going to cheat agian. Hes a young boy. He doesnt want to be tied down yet. Why does she? Get her some help. Explain its just not the end of the world. He had sex with another girl. Its not that big of a deal. Encourage her to go out and kiss another boy. She'll get it then. That it might have felt good at the time. But when it was over she was still in love with her boyfriend. End of story.
2007-12-22 06:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by aperfectpeach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do tell! Her mom would definitely know best because it is her daughter and both together would be in a better position to handle the situation at hand. Sound like she may need help from a professional. And the longer this is kept secret, the more aggravated the situation will become. It would be in her best interest to get this out in the open.
2007-12-22 06:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look you are only 14 years old, this guy who says he's in love with you does not know what love is and besides he is doing drugs, just think about it would you want your friend or sister to date a guy like this, your friends seem to be smart enough not to like this guy for a good reason, look life is just starting for you, take your time and follow your heart you already know what the right thing to do. GOOD LUCK!
2016-04-10 13:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she started the relationship at 11, her boyfriend cheated on her and she is suicidal at 15. Very interesting. Tell your mom so that something can be done.
2007-12-22 06:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY TELL HER MOM!!! There is no person on this planet worth killing yourself for, no matter how long you've been together or how old you are. Please realize that you're being the best friend possible to her by telling her mom!! Good luck and have a Merry Christmas!! :)
2007-12-22 06:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Paranormal Investigator in Ohio 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u care about her tell her mom. And u just need to let her know that there r so many other people in this world that care about her. Also just pray 4 her
2007-12-22 06:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should tell her mom because she could do something dangerous and will only get worse if you dont get her help soon. But you should also try talking to your cousin...maybe he'll talk to her.
2007-12-22 06:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
defff. tel her mom and get her some help. Never keep something like that a secret. you have got to tell someone. Good luck. Hope she gets better.
2007-12-22 06:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by surfer2thextreme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i think you should tell her mother b/c at the end of the
day your cousin is going to be alright. if your friend does commit suicide you will feel guilty b/c you could have have did something to save herlife!!
TELL HER MOTHER OR TALK SENSE INTO THAT GIRL
2007-12-22 06:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by skinnysEverything??1o1o1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should let her parents know and show her the best things in life like fun stuff she likes to do
2007-12-22 06:27:21 · answer #11 · answered by Toni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋