He makes me regret that I ever got married to him, He loves me I think but I dont feel it like I use to?

Question

I felt sooo much more love when we dated. I didn't want for much and I never questioned his love for me it was that obvious but now that we've been married for 2 years I fell like
less of the woman I came in as. I feel soo unattractive like a piece of meat just there to be devoured whenever he likes.
the affection is not the same and I know its not because of how I look yes I have gained a few pounds more that when we dated but so has he and there really is no drastic difference in my appearance.I get the same if not more of a reaction from single and married men so I know im still working it in the looks department. HELP!!!!!

Answer 1

Remember the vows you took, its for better or worse you gotta stick in their, love is so much more then a feeling, you should go out and find some things that make you happy read books do stuff like that enjoy life. Thats how I believe marrages last they have to have the things they love and tell him how you feel !!! Hang in their its not to late God can fix anything.

Answer 2

If we would have regretted being married, do you think we'd still be married? You're young(er than I am) and it sounds like you don't really know a good relationship or marriage. You may not have role models in that department to look at, I know I didn't. But that didn't stop me from wanting it and wanting to find out what it was all about. What "great majority?" Divorce is 50/50% chance, that's not majority in my book, that's dead even. No not "sooner or later one gets tired" it's not like that for everyone, don't be so d*mn cynical about marriage. It's not a death sentence, even if it does end it's not the end of the world even if it feels like it. Humans were meant to be together, whether it's for life without marriage or for life with it. And as for where "does your dignity go?" Where it's always been unless you let a failed marriage define you and what you are for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

The truth is, marriage is harder than dating. It takes extra work to keep things interesting and fresh.

It sounds like what you're missing the most is affection. My suggestion is to be the same person you were when you first met him. Do you still go out with your friends? Do you still pursue your hobbies? Are you still bettering yourself in all the ways you can? Keep yourself interestED and it will keep you interestING. Don't just sit around the house, watching TV, and waiting for him to entertain you. Go out, take a class or go for a run, attend a book club, and you'll have things to talk about when you're together as well as make your attention much more valuable to him (as it's not always 100% available).

And don't take him for granted, either. Look for something small every day to appreciate, whether that is the way he put your slippers next to the bed because he knows you hate the cold floor in the morning, or how he refilled your drink for you because he was going into the kitchen, or that he stopped at the store for milk because he was already out... or whatever he does! Let him know you appreciate him and it will make him want to do even more for you. :)

Answer 4

Um, that's a shame you ar feeling this way only after 2 years.

Have you talked with him about this yet? If not, you need to.

You know now you can not rely on him to make you feel like the beautiful person you are. You have to get your self confidence back ok?

He's brought you down now you have to pick yourself back up. I am not you, but I would not lay there and allow him to have his way with me until he started doing some explaining on where his heart and head is. And we both know I'm talking about the one between his shoulders.

Sometimes it seems the more we want their love and affection, the less they give back.

You can't ignore how you feel, so it's best you talk to him.

Why not make a romantic candle lit dinner with some wine and your favorite dish? Make it like a "date", turn the lights down a little and turn the tv off and some soft music on.

At dinner try and stike up a conversation to get him to open up. I wouldn't push it, but you honestly need to know what's going on. you also have to out rule him having an affair and him having any regrets about the marriage also.

this isn't your typical behavior for only being married for 2 years. You could take it as "he's taking you for granted" and maybe he is, but you will never know until you ask him right?

Good luck to you, I am so sorry you feel this way. Try and remember that you are a women first, you are an individual, you were yourself and one before you married, don't let him take that away from you... be strong and ask him where his heart is. You already know how you feel right? now go and talk to him and try and get him to open up. Life is too short to feel so bad....

Answer 5

I once heard somewhere that relationships require that you fall in love over and over again. I think that means that sometimes we fall out of love for a little while and then something happens and we realize why we love that person and we fall in love again.
The newness wears off and everyday life takes its toll, but one day when you least expect it you will look at him and fall in love all over again, so will he.
I go through periods when I can't stand my boyfriend (together 4 1/2 years) and then all of a sudden he will say or do something and I see the reason we are still together. It's life, don't give up on your marriage just give it time.

Answer 6

Divorce is not the answer! LOL
Wow what have we become.

your marriage is still new. You;ve just come out of the honeymoon period which is much like the infatuation stage of dating. It is heady, lustful and passionate. No relationship can maintain that level of intensity. I say talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Women need to be romanced. It's part of who we are. Men don't need that so much and sometimes forget how important it is. Communicate and things will get better. Good luck!

Answer 7

talk to him. communication is key. if you both gained a few pounds and you think its the reason why he's not showing you as much attention, why don't you both join a gym together and work out or run? its always more fun with a partner as well.

Answer 8

Welcome to marriage and reality. The second both of you said "I do" your loving realtionship was over. Some people realize it in weeks and get divorced, others lie to themselves for years. You just realized it. Dump him and be happy you are out of your marriage nightmare. If you ever fall in love again, learn your lesson and never get married again.

Answer 9

either he takes you for granted or there just isn't the right love anymore- could be you could be him- likely a combination. have you tried talking to him? do you love him? tried counciling? do you think he would do it? better get ahold of this or the next thing you know you will be together for 10 years- welcome to my world

Answer 10

Sounds like you are already in a rut and he has not matured any.

Divorces are cheap... like $400 maximum.
Don't spend your life being miserable with someone you have clearly outgrown.