I love my husband the most. we r married for 1 year. He seems to have no interest in sex from beginning. Reason is he has been mastrubating differently from beginning. I am getting fed up of him as he is not having sex with me at all. Spoken abt this loads of time with him. We always end up in fight in this issue. Any ideas how to improve my sex life?
P.S: In everything else, he is lovely and I cant think a life without him.
2007-12-22 05:31:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mastrubating with his thing in between his legs rather than extending it.
2007-12-22 05:37:54 · update #1
He has no other woman other than me. We were virgin when we got married. He loves to mastrubate thinking abt other women (even his colleagues) but not me. It makes me sick
2007-12-22 05:43:17 · update #2
Sounds like you two need to first take him to see a urologist to make sure he is okay, and then go see a sex therapist.
At least you can move on if you know you have done everything you could to fix the problem.
2007-12-22 05:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need professional help and you need a vibrator while this is getting sorted out. He was used to fulfilling his sex needs with masturbation if he was a virgin. It may have messed up his mind as to what real sex is. Maybe his mom drilled it in to his head that sex was bad or dangerous and he needs physiological help.
2007-12-22 14:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. while sex isn't the only key to a good marriage or relationship, it is one of the basic requirements. in this case, and it is a bit weird, he prefers masturbation to actual sex. don't think i have ever heard of that before. i don't see any way to improve your sex life since you truly don't have one at all. i mean how do you, well, take care of you?
2007-12-22 13:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A perfect man may be overcompensating to conceal a deadly secret...i was married before, you know?
Have you considered him being gay stuck in the closet?
2007-12-22 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by startplayer1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT a marriage. You would be wise to get an annulment. You can remain friends with him if that's what you need... but don't fool yourself that it's marriage.
2007-12-22 13:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating differently? How so? By standing on his head? I think he either has another woman or he is gay..
Just because you were virgin when you got married doesn't mean he doesn't have another woman.....if it isn't another woman he is gay.....
2007-12-22 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you think about when you masterbate?
Buy a vibrator and you 2 can masterbate together, it might lead to some wild sex.
2007-12-22 15:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does that work, exactly? (I'm confused as to how that's mechanically possible...)
...and my first thought is disinterest, either in you or in women in general. Did he have sexual relationships with women before you?
You can try asking him about his fantasies. You can try oral or anal (for either of you, men enjoy it too). Figure out his preferences and go from there!
2007-12-22 13:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go for a counselling together.
also change your approach asking for a good sex
make him like it with you, perhaps he has no other experience to stir him up, go for a drink and try that again
2007-12-22 14:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY A VIBRATOR, a year has passed and nothing? and when you bring it up you end up fighting? probably he has intimacy issues, he shouldve told you this before the marriage, tell him to go to therapy.
2007-12-22 13:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋