On a scale of 1-10 in regards to attractiveness, I guess I would rate myself with an 8. It flatters me that at my age, I still get guys of different ages to look at me, but somehow it makes me feel uncomfortable when I know that guy is married. I just ask myself, why r u looking at me like that when we both know ur married? Especially at work.
2007-12-22 05:02:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My late wife once told me that the day I quit looking I was worthless too her, so take it as a compliment and don't worry about it.
I miss her to this day and it's been over 10-years.
2007-12-22 05:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying, "Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu"...so, there is an element of flattery to this equation. As to whether or not you should feel uncomfortable, there's no rule that covers that. You "should" feel however you feel. If it's just a casual glance, (a nod of appreciation for your obvious appeal, then great); if there's an overt gesture being made, or someone ogles to the point of disruption, then feeling uncomfortable would seem to be a natural result. In either case, your feelings belong to you, and you are well-entitled to them. Congratulations, you must be gorgeous. Happy Holidays to you and your family.
2007-12-22 13:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are there staring at the mirror and thinking how hot you are why don't you learn the facts of life and think about real issues you now how to deal with?
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-22 23:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are genetically hard-wired to look. My wife tells me I can look at the menu as long as I don't order! Of course, I make it a point not to ogle other women when I am with her, or make comments that make her feel that I am comparing her to other women in an uncomplimentary way.
As long as they are not making inappropriate comments or coming on to you in some way, just accept it as a compliment and move on.
You might also consider how you are dressing at work. If you are dressing to be noticed, then don't be surprised when men notice you! Just make sure you are dressing professionally for the workplace - not too much cleavage or leg, etc. Past that, there is not much you can do. If they are staring all of the time, you can ask them to stop.
2007-12-22 13:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... in my opinion, if your getting the attention of men because your acting and dressing like you want their attention, then I think its a problem. It seems to me that you are a respectable woman to not only yourself but your husband as well, and I think that you should do what makes you feel comfortable. If he is married and is just taking a glimse at you why not... if your the hottie you say you are, why not let them take a peek? They aren't flirting with you and they aren't trying to cheat on their spouses with you, no harm done. If they are oogling you all the time and trying to make passes at you, then I think you have a problem... but if its a innocent look, I think its a nice reminder of how lucky your man is to have such a good looking woman on his arm!!!
2007-12-22 13:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your hubby gave you that rate of 8 out of 10 too? If you based only of yourself if might be higher because your ego will give you a plus factor.
Now, in regards to the guys friendly relationships, there is no wrong to be closer to them and be happy nice, i know one of them will invite you out. Be calm, and take it easy just act like as normal as you are to them when you're with your hubby.
The best things is to be flirts as you can feel how they show they appreciate your beauty and invitations.
2007-12-23 02:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did marriage = blind or dead? What's wrong with LOOKING no matter what your relationship status? They are humans, and males are visual creatures (moreso than women). There's nothing to be uncomfortable about unless they comment or touch inappropriately.
Let them look...do you not EVER notice a nice looking male (married or not) and appreciate the view? It doesn't mean you appreciate or love your husband less, but with nearly 7 billion people on the planet, it's quite natural that we'll find ones other than our spouse to be physically attractive. âº
2007-12-22 13:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is what men do. And when they do, be proud within, no need to flaunt if you feel uncomfortable, just be happy within. You do not need to respond openly in any way if you do not want to. But most importantly, do nothing to make your man feel bad. In fact, he should be proud too. So when you're with him, let him know he's the only one. . . .grab his arm, kiss his cheek, lick his ear . . . other men will see this, and it will make him feel good to have such a fine lady.
2007-12-22 13:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by G S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men look period. They are visualist, it's not going to stop just b/c they're married. Problems arise when it goes beyond looking but hey an appreciation from the opposite sex always feels good for the ego. I don't mind.
2007-12-22 13:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So if the guy is single it's alright to check you out, your married too. Just because your married doesn't mean you can't appreciate beauty. Maybe you married woman should start wearing sheets and masks so as not to arouse us.
2007-12-22 13:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋